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Then this may affect what car I get next. On Android it looks like there are apps to prevent this from happening with cars like Hondas: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.cp2.bluetooth.connect.and.stop.play
I'm not saying this feature shouldn't be there, just that MS should realize that they should make it optional for people with cars like this. The problem is that they assumed that a play command would always be sent by the user.
Not the answer you want to hear. But there is an app for that. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.cp2.bluetooth.connect.and.stop.play