The best Behavioral Psychology books: Reddit reviews

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Introvert/ extrovert aren’t exact opposites. Most people exhibit tendencies of both. Here’s a good book about it: Quiet

The problem is in India introverts are shamed by teachers, by parents, by society. There is Nothing wrong with being an introvert

In fact read this book - https://www.amazon.in/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

I am also an introvert, have always been one. And I love it.

I don’t equate extroversion with confidence.

Quiet by Susan Cain explains our culture’s overvaluing of extroversion.

I’m introverted and FIERCE.

Everybody read this book it is the fatlogic reddit in book form, except nicer and everything is on one place.

I find it incredibly motivating.

That's like saying "I know I have heart disease, but due to modern medicine at least I'm likely to survive another decade or so".

Personally I would just rather not have heart disease.

But nobody taught her the necessary tools to change her weight, she thinks this is her fate now, with which she has to arrange herself. Just one good book and she could take matters into her own hands.

If you read Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking it discusses just this. I actually find things have gotten worse since the book's release as social media seems to have crept even more into our everyday lives. Every time I see someone doing a dance in public for Tik Tok or setting up an elaborate (fake) photoshoot for Instagram, I wonder what planet I've been transported to. I don't feel comfortable here.

You're short, you have acne, you dress poorly, you're no fun to be around, you have no friends/squad, you're shy/introverted/won't approach, you look like a boy and have no authority, you have no sexual experience ... why do you think you should have a girlfriend again?

I know I'm being harsh, but the earlier you learn this the better: you must offer value. Otherwise why do you think anyone would be with you?

Work on the things you can, accept the things you can't.

Short - no solution.

Acne - eat better, sleep better, see a dermatologist.

Learn to dress better.

Finally, learn to socialize. This will have all kind of cascading effects. You will be more fun to be around, you will have a squad, you will have authority based on your friends' opinions of you. It definitely won't be easy, and sure, it goes against what you think is your fundamental nature, but right now, your fundamental nature is also to be girlfriendless. How badly do you want to change the situation?

Some tips for being more sociable: Be generous with your time and thoughts. Compliment people. Listen to them. Think about what they need and offer to help them. Again, you must offer value. Sometimes you won't get anything back. That's part of the pain of the learning process. Let that unrequited kindness go.

Here's a book that may help you with your introverted nature. In part, the author recommends faking it until you make it. Make it into a game, so you can step away, and you can reward yourself for small bit of progress:

https://www.amazon.ca/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

It’s so bizarre. We (introverts) are just over here chillin’, letting people do their thing, and frequently it seems like extroverts are like, “WHATS WRONG WITH YOU?!”

But, the world is built for extroverts, so it’s kinda understandable. Reading the book, “Quiet” really made me feel comfortable and proud about being an introvert, and I recommend it!

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Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susain Cain. Highly recommended. Changed the way I felt about my self in a very positive way.

And that stupid sarcastic joke: "So-and-so is being so loud over here! Haha!" I hate it.

Our society just values extrovert personality traits more than introvert traits. Check out this book if your curious about it

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

YES.

Read this book a long time ago. ‘Touched by Fire - Manic Depressant Illness and the artistic temperament’

It’s a modern day analysis of history’s great artists, musicians, politicians, generals, etc. You can be guaranteed of one thing: the geniuses: the icons, the stars that shine through in each generation...they all had mental issues.

It also asks the question how much does their mental state affect their art. If Van Gogh had been medicated, he would never have painted. If Tchaikovsky had trained intervention he may not have written all that music, but he also might not have committed suicide.

https://www.amazon.com/Touched-Fire-Manic-Depressive-Artistic-Temperament/dp/068483183X/ref=nodl_

I chose to leave my ex of many years because he was undiagnosed, unmedicated personality disorder that experienced psychotic breaks and he never once sought help. In the midst of his episodes his reality was not our reality. It got so bad I feared for my safety. I completely understand Kim’s position (literally never thought I would say that)

Also check out this book: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307352153/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_ApQACbCDH85KV

It's a good read for understanding ourselves and hopefully help your Mom too.

I do that all the time - I think this is pretty common for people who are introverted. Extroverts tend to get their energy from others, while introverts get their energy from within, while people suck the energy out of them. Going to a quiet place helps you to reenergize.

If interested there is a good book called “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking”. It definitely made me feel more normal.

https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?adgrpid=55489598109&gclid=CjwKCAiA5o3vBRBUEiwA9PVzaupCwWc8jH3_FAg0opW-fJM9R-deBtsHmkIKkIl3Bkcz-3q730T_lBoCRVYQAvD_BwE&hvadid=274708165334&hvdev=m&...

I try to remember that extroverts don't know how to handle us any more than we know how to handle them.

Then, you can be snarky and tell them "better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt", but that's not likely to endear you to anyone that doesn't already know you well.

Alternatively, you can keep a copy of Susan Cain's excellent book in your desk, maybe even on your desk, and offer to let anyone making these comments borrow it.

Due to personal interest, I've read some of Peterson's work. I've not sure he represents the faction of psychologists concerned with the discipline's notorious and existential replicability crisis.

He seems rather content to discuss the Christian Logos and attempt to understand how religion shapes culture. A peculiar topic for a psychologist and is no doubt rife with methodological complexity requiring exceptional detail to procedure. Well, one hopes.

A description courtesy of Amazon:

> Why have people from different cultures and eras formulated myths and stories with similar structures? What does this similarity tell us about the mind, morality, and structure of the world itself? Jordan Peterson offers a provocative new hypothesis that explores the connection between what modern neuropsychology tells us about the brain and what rituals, myths, and religious stories have long narrated. A cutting-edge work that brings together neuropsychology, cognitive science, and Freudian and Jungian approaches to mythology and narrative, Maps of Meaning presents a rich theory that makes the wisdom and meaning of myth accessible to the critical modern mind.

$20 on Amazon

Added it to my wishlist!

Bipolar II Disorder Workbook: Managing Recurring Depression, Hypomania, and Anxiety (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1608827666/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_U5kbGbE3Y8NJN

I think you would enjoy Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. It is a great book for people with quieter, more introverted personalities trying to navigate the corporate world.

Beyond that, I can sympathise. It is tough out there and many people do burn out for the reasons you enumerated. Definitely wishing you the best of luck with these feelings. I don't have personal advice to share, as I opted to work for myself instead to avoid feeling so stuck in the rat race. However, I really did enjoy Susan Cain's book, so I would recommend taking a look at it if you want more insight and advice.

You can and should love your body.

Picture your body like a garden shed. You can and should love it for all the useful things it holds and all the things it allows you to do.

Despite all that, you still need to clean out the shed once in a while, so that the clutter doesn't burst the walls and wreck the shed and you can continue to enjoy having it around for years to come.

Same thing with your body. You need to clean it out and offload some of the excess so that you can have it around for a while.

I don't think you fought to build a 400lb body, or that you think that every pound of that needs to be honored.

You fought to build a good life, with a good partner, and a good job, all of which you want to enjoy for years to come.

So keep up the fight so you get to enjoy the rest of your life.

Also, buy the book Conquering Fat Logic by Dr. Nadja Hermann. https://www.amazon.com/Conquering-Fat-Logic-ourselves-metabolism-ebook/dp/B07CZ3K2W3

It's really helpful.

That’s exactly how mine is. My hypomania also presents as irritability and feeling more like picking fights with people than I usually do. I’m more impulsive as well, but not in an extreme way. More like, I just do the things I’ve been thinking about for a long time. Another way we figured out I do experience hypomania and mixed episodes is through sex drive. I’ll go 2 or so weeks without sex, and then have sex 3 or 4 days in a row. I got a great workbook that really helped identify the hypomanic symptoms, and made the depression symptoms make a little more sense.

Bipolar II Disorder Workbook: Managing Recurring Depression, Hypomania, and Anxiety (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1608827666/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_QVQ2JWD21YTSAA2GNZVA

[https://www.amazon.com/Touched-Fire-Manic-Depressive-Artistic-Temperament/dp/068483183X](Touched by Fire) by Kay Redfield Jamison is a great read by an established clinical psychologist who has bipolar disorder, you’ll find it recommended quite a bit online.

In terms of what has helped me personally I enjoyed listening to this on Audible (for free at the moment). It focuses on historical figures who have lived productive lives despite manic tendencies.

Additionally I enjoy reading ‘mental model’ information and find that it’s helped me quite a bit. One I really enjoy is OODA Loop, a concept developed by John Boyd. While not relating to mental health at all it’s a concept based around making informed decisions through an analytical process developed for fighter pilots and adopted by big business and self help authors alike.

> I'm not the most talkative and i am kinda introverted but I don't want to work with someone that only grunts and smashes their keyboard as forms of communication

Years ago, I picked up this book - <strong>Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking</strong> -- and it articulates a lot of misconceptions that people throw at introverts, and even misconceptions some self-proclaimed introverts will make of themselves.

• Introvert typically refers to someone that recharges alone. You can enjoy being around people, but still want to be alone to recharge.

• Antisocial on the other hand are people who avoid talking to others.

• You can be a social introvert, an antisocial introvert, social extrovert, or even an antisocial extrovert (yes, this really exists) among a variety of other combinations.

I get the feeling the user you responded to might be conflating concepts into one lump -- maybe they mean differently, but the way they're currently coming across isn't the case, hence all the replies from multiple users thus far basically proclaiming, "uh what".

Hell, 2 out of the 3 active mods here are introverts, case in point.

In the past, I even called myself an extrovert, when in fact, I'm actually a social introvert. I like socializing but damn, do I need to hibernate and recharge alone while true extroverts just go find more people to recharge from... But I digress.

Jung wrote a fantastic book on just this thing he goes through a number of ufo dreams etc

Probably this one. The Routledge/Princeton University Collected Works volumes are legit.

Amazon link

I am only quitting due to medical tbh. I need to work because I'm broke but physically csnt. Neuro referred me to another specialist and now I will edit m I hope they understood I quit this time.

I have the Amazon link to what I showed her. I csnt see psych until I stabilize medical so better than nothing!

Amazon.com: The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole (9781623158248): Arielle Schwartz PhD, Jim Knipe PhD: Books https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1543911120&amp;sr=8-1-spons&amp;pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&amp;keywords=the+complex+ptsd+workbook&amp;psc=1

I was faded but I know I need help. So. Eh. This is why I like this place! I relate to the puke and shit and shit!!!@ and also I'm lonely and this is all true and I see no shame because we all have issues I appreictar you all.

With the caveat that it is absolutely best to work through these issues with a professional, I realize that's not always a feasible or comfortable option. This workbook is one of the tools I'm using with my therapist that might be helpful.

Hmm, is study abroad an option? Or, would your dad be amenable to some kind of deal, like you will go visit x relatives once every 2 weeks if he can give you a certain amount of alone time with zero interruptions, questions, or spying? Perhaps a doctor can explain to your parents the importance of some privacy? It really sounds unbearable, what you're dealing with. Best of luck

Edit - here's a good book on the power of introverts - since your parents spy on anything you do, this could accidentally educate them... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307352153/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_BVshFbY0ARBH4

>I have mixed feelings about chilling home and doing nothing like today I had the opportunity to go to the beach but I just flaked. I like doing what I like to do and the beach is not my cup of tea. I ended up just riding my bike fish a bit and go out to a good friend's house so I guess today was pretty good.

That's fine. The beach to me sounds like an amazing day but I haven't chilled on the beach with friends/family in like 6 years. I'm due.

It sounds like you might be an introvert.

I would recommend this book:

Quiet

>Part of me feels like I'm wasting time not meeting new girls or people

That's only relevant if you think you don't have enough people in your life or you aren't meeting enough girls.

>part of me wants to just find peace within myself usually when I try to find that peace I struggle overthinking life when I'm alone.

Definite introvert.

It's fine.

Check out the book. Spend time one-on-one with people that actually matter.

Consider group things to be an activity. Like going to the movies.

That sounds miserable. Make them all read Quiet to get some insight into you and to themselves so they can stop being jerks.

If your personality is introverted, you cannot "make the switch". Being an introvert is who you are and that is not a bad thing.

Being introverted can be very powerful. Please don't let others make you feel bad for who you are. Don't let them make you feel guilty for needing time to yourself.

Here's a link to a book that really helped me embrace my introverted nature.

https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

I got my physical (soft-cover, though) copy of MoM just 2 weeks ago from Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0415922224/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s01?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1).

I agree though, it is pricey.