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Your reasons are very valid. Your daughter doesn't do well with strangers so a party should NOT be a place she attends. With or without you, this is a bad idea. I think you need to get a babywear. Then the weekend of the party, wear the baby so SO can't take DD from you, arrange for a friend or someone from your extended family to visit, and they can prevent SO from taking DD.

We used this baby carrier cover. It has elastic all around the edge, so I would layer up baby a bit and put him in and then put this one around the carrier. It covered up his feet well. If it wasn't too cold I did this with my jacket just opened and him on front. When it got colder though I zipped up my jacket around me and then put the carrier on top. This has pockets in the front which is nice to keep my hands on him and also warm.

I have not tried it yet because my baby is not born, but Ergo baby wrap has really great reviews on Amazon and is only $25. I’m thinking about buying it in addition to the carrier we have.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01CYTYSR0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_7yxKBbD1RYFCA

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If you are worried that SO won't support leaving after lunch, I suggest you ask a family member (your parents or siblings) or a friend to pick you up at ILs house at 2pm, and don't mention it to SO. At 1:50pm simply tell SO that you are going to breastfeed baby so you walk out of the room with baby in the baby-wearer, then walk out of the house and into your family/friend's car. Hopefully you can spend the rest of the day at the family/friend's house. Text SO that you and baby are safe and you will see him tomorrow.

We love our boppy! Good once they are at least 8lbs, and I think the upper limit is pretty high also. Both I (5’4”) and husband (6ft) use it and find it comfortable and easy to load. And pretty low price also. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075RDDL5W?linkCode=ogi&tag=goodhousekeeping_auto-append-20&ascsubtag=%5Bartid%7C10055.g.4799%5Bsrc%7C%5Bch%7C%5Blt%7Csale&th=1

oh yea, they are universal. it just hands around your neck to cover the baby. it doesnt connect to the carrier in any way. Heres an example.

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The next time MIL comes over for a visit, be wearing LO. Then you have DH tell MIL "Mom, before we allow you to hold LO, I want to remind you of our boundaries. Absolutely no kissing LO, and if we ask for our child back you are expected to hand them back immediately." Then if she breaks a boundary, DH takes LO back, hands LO to you, and escorts MIL to the door, saying "We told you our boundaries and you ignored them. You are being put in a timeout for 60 days."

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No, sorry, an apology dragged out of his parents is not an apology at all. They aren't sorry for their behavior. They are sorry you didn't allow them to continue to disrespect you and your boundaries. Ask DH the following questions: (1) did the 'apology' contain any kind of excuses or reasons for their behavior? (2) did the 'apology' contain the word BUT? (3) did the 'apology' include the things you and DH did wrong and that's why ILs acted the way they did? (4) did the 'apology' come before or after DH said that no contact would continue without change in their behavior?

If the answers to those questions are 1-yes, 2-yes, 3-yes, and 4-after, then they aren't truly sorry and are only saying what they think DH wants to hear so they get what they want - contact with your son.

So, you have to move forward with the knowlege that the ILs aren't sorry, and will never apologize for anything they do. Are you OK with that? Is DH OK with that?

If DH still wants to move forward with LC, then I suggest DH offers to do a video call and you hold baby the entire time. If ILs are coming to your town, DH can offer to meet the ILs at a restaurant or other public place. You Baby wear (this is just an idea, I'm not necessarily recommending this particular one)! Harder for anyone to snatch baby out of your arms. If ILs ask to hold him, you can say "He's sleeping and I don't want to wake him" or "He seems very happy where he is". If they push, then you know they haven't changed their behavior. If they are respectful, you might allow them to each briefly hold son at the end of the meal.

Mine never took a bottle, she learned to drink from a regular cup and a straw and never was interested in a bottle. What helped for us in those early months was a baby wrap and exercise ball plus lots of bouncing and music. For a while ours would exclusively nap while being worn.

Baby wear (this is just an idea, I'm not necessarily recommending this particular one)! Harder for anyone to snatch baby out of your arms. And when your mother or MIL ask to hold her, you say "You've proven that you won't respect my rules so, no, you don't get to hold her."

NTA

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BTW, do they smoke inside their home? If so, then you shouldn't be bringing LO over at all. 2nd & 3rd hand smoke is just as bad as 1st hand.

Not advice but an observation: if MIL and DH really want to push the carpool thing, then an easy solution is for you to sit in the backseat with LO. MIL won't even be able to see LO because car seat faces backwards. And then Baby wear (this is just an idea, I'm not neccessarily recommending this particular one)! Harder for anyone to snatch baby out of your arms.

I suggest you Baby wear (this is just an idea, I'm not neccessarily recommending this particular one)! Harder for anyone to snatch baby out of your arms. When your mother complains, tell her "I am done taking chances with you giving my child to strangers. You have proven you can't be trusted."

This is the one I got and loved it. You can do this.

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NTA and you need to Baby wear (this is just an idea, I'm not neccessarily recommending this particular one)! Harder for anyone to snatch baby out of your arms.

For baby wearing, I used the Jolly Jumper cover. I made due with my regular coat and this and trying to kind of keep things wrapped up but I probably should have sprung for some sort of baby wearing jacket or extension for my coat. I dressed kiddo in layers and zutano fleece booties. Look for fleece-lined knit caps, there are tons of options out there. They will say like 0-6 months usually.

If you do something over the car seat, make sure it's a "shower cap" style. Meaning it has elastic to go around the car seat and doesn't have the harness thread through holes in the cover. Something like this JJ Cole cover.

My first babe was born in November and we live in the upper midwest. We did lots of baby-wearing because our town is terrible about clearing sidewalks and they were impassable in a stroller.

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NTA but you need to Baby wear. Then MIL can't just take LO from you and say 'come to grandma'. Ignore all of her statements until she says something directly to you. Then you say "You haven't asked to hold LO". And you don't give her LO until she asks.

My husband and I both have one of these, we love it. It's easier than a scarf-style wrap, but doesn't have all the buckles and snaps that some carriers do. It's hard to tell from the photos, but the actual part that you put the baby in is already formed, so to speak, and you just snapped the buckle around your waist in the back and slip the arm holes over your shoulders. And then you tie it under the baby's butt. I use it with my 1 month old son while I clean, when we go out, etc. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075RDDL5W/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_3CFYZ36HB00B6MSHNMPG?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

I would get a newborn wrap so you can wear your little guy, free up your hands to get things done, as well as keeping body heat. It was the best thing I did when my new kitten who was really sick. The nice thing is he still likes to be wrapped up and swaddled at 8 months now. God bless you & your Easter Miracle 🐣 😽 🌷

Boba Wrap Baby Carrier, Grey - Original Stretchy Infant Sling, Perfect for Newborn Babies and Children up to 35 lbs https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005SP2LWW/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_VXC1Y90ZTYAHVQKYT5J8

Re: back pain — my 13-month-old is also very heavy. A Tushbaby is a must. It's a very stupid-looking fanny pack but is amazingly useful.

KeaBabies Baby Wrap Carrier - All in 1 Stretchy Baby Sling - Baby Carrier Sling - Baby Carrier Wrap - Baby Carriers for Newborn, Infant - Baby Wraps Carrier - Baby Slings - Baby Sling Wrap https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075GWFZRV/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_6PW624QC9F81MH8VZDY1

I had this one. I was a plus size ftm. It was super comfy and my son was so comfortable also. We didn’t use it long only because my son has some circulation issues stemming from him being a preemie. But like I said when we did you it I loved it.

I use this wrap Acrabros Baby Wrap Carrier,Hands Free Baby Carrier Sling,Lightweight,Breathable,Softness,Perfect for Newborn Infants and Babies Shower Gift,Black https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07QPYZMH4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ZSX6B0DWZFH40NXQJQ18 And this leash

Tuff Mutt Hands Free Dog Leash for Running, Walking, Hiking, Durable Dual-Handle Bungee Leash is 4 Feet Long with Reflective Stitching, and an Adjustable Waist Belt That Fits up to 42 Inch Waist https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B078H6Q494/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_SGNV90HD4XB5XCR7DM1B?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

My chunk was 23 pounds at his 4 month visit. He’s 8 months now and over 27 pounds so the growth has slowed however he’s still “off the charts” or 100 percentile

I’ve never noticed him being out of breath or even being uncomfortable really beside skin irritation from the rolls. I would keep bringing that up to your doctor for sure

I’m 5’2 and usually about 110 pounds. Baby was born 11 pounds and 24.5 inches so it’s been a lot on my body since before he was born lol. I recently received the tush baby and it’s changed my life. I used to get emotional thinking I physically wouldn’t be able to hold my baby much longer and it’s obviously very difficult to always be so sore and in pain from holding him. But omg the tush baby is amazing. Carried him around the grocery store with it, we now vacuum together, put away laundry, practice turning on and off the lights for 20 minutes (lol), I can now hold him for however long I want! Weight limit is 44 pounds so we can use it for a while. I definitely recommend it

Let me address these items in order. (1) No is a complete sentence. When MIL asks when you all are going out to eat, SO needs to say "OP took baby to her job because it was a limited interaction and she was able to safely distance from everyone. We will not be taking baby anywhere in public until they have had their first round of vaccines". (2) No, you do not have to breastfeed in front of her, or anyone for that matter. If she pushes it, look her in the eye and say "Why are you so insistent on looking at my naked breasts?" and then walk away with baby to feed in private. (3) For birthday gathering, [Baby wear(https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07QPYZMH4?pf_rd_r=K742QBWQ3HSWA72Z7DNE&pf_rd_p=5ae2c7f8-e0c6-4f35-9071-dc3240e894a8&pd_rd_r=f61b8d64-6d40-4594-8ee8-24275a828c3d&pd_rd_w=PzTeL&pd_rd_wg=YN4Z0&ref_=pd_gw_unk) (this is just an idea, I'm not neccessarily recommending this particular one)! (5) No uninvited visits. MIL/FIL need to ASK (not tell you) that they want to visit on XX day. If that works for both of you (DH must always be there for any IL visits) then you say "yes, you can come on XX day from XX'oclock to XX'oclock". If they show up at your home uninvited, you don't open the door. Get a RING doorbell. SO needs to inform his parents of this boundary ASAP. (6) No one but mom and dad get to call LO "my baby" or "our baby". If MIL/FIL call LO "my baby", they get told "No, you are the grandparent, this is your grandbaby. This is your one and only reminder that you are not to call MY child 'my baby' ". The 2nd time they do it, the visit ends immediately and skip the next regular visit.

I agree with everything else mentioned. I cannot stress enough thinking about what you need to take care of yourself. I love to meal prep so I had about 2 weeks of food made up (frozen) but ready to be thrown in the oven with no effort. You are going to be tired!

If you don’t like to cook, think about how you will get get nutrients/hydration on the fly… sounds silly, but the first month or two - maybe longer - little Natalie will have a lot of needs that need to be met - quickly - and you’re the one dad!

Also, having a wearable baby wrap was key!! My son was so colic, but being able to swaddle him on my chest and walk around with him was very comforting for him - and I could actually get stuff done - like clean up! wearable baby wrap

Stock pile diapers and wipes - I had over 1000 when my son came and didn’t have to buy any for six months. It was one less thing to worry about

Swaddles are key! They will teach you how at the hospital if you don’t know, but these Black Pearl Swaddles are amazing. They are a little pricey but worth it - only thing that my son could fall asleep with - it got to the point once I laid him down to be swaddled he would close his eyes and relax - like a prompt to go to sleep..

Great news is - everywhere ships now, so if you do forget something you don’t even have to leave your house - yay!!

Have fun with Natalie - enjoy every second, it goes by so fast (so cliche) but you’re gonna miss it when it’s gone so cuddle that little one up 🥰

We use the keababies wrap. There's a pretty big height and weight difference between my boyfriend and I and we're both able to use it comfortably.

https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Wrap-Carrier-Stretchy-Wraps/dp/B075GWFZRV/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=2L9489D21A6JP&keywords=keababies+wrap&qid=1645843000&sprefix=keababies+wrap%2Caps%2C116&sr=8-3

Tushbaby The Only Safety Certified Hip Seat Baby Carrier - As Seen On Shark Tank, Ergonomic Waist Carrier for Newborns, Toddlers & Children, Grey https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07R4C4VFX/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_EEVAV4VXA2Q3DBY9QA1F

If you search these on Amazon you'll find several kinds!!!