These American Girl books really helped me. My parents explained a couple things, but if I didn't want to ask I could look at these books: https://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-Younger-American/dp/1609580834
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Also, they are in two parts now, which is pretty cool.
Adding in, a great book for young children is It's not the stork. It talks about everything from anatomy to where babies come from in an age appropriate manner. It also has sections on ok and not OK touch, how to say no, and what to do if something happens.
One passage in particular hit me hard, saying essentially "if you tell and adult in your life and they don't believe or help you, keep telling other adults such as a teacher, doctor, or police. Most adults want to help.". It broke my heart to think of kids who report and aren't believed :-(
Yes! Get all the American Girl books. There's a whole series on how a girl's body develops, how to deal with peer pressure, etc. Here's an Amazon link so you get an idea of what they're like. Start with this one, and get as many as you can where they are listed as "Customers who bought this also bought". I'm a female and have daughters, and I feel comfortable talking about this stuff, but it really helps if I forget to talk about something or if my kids forget what we've talked about.
p.s. You're an awesome person! Best wishes to you and your niece!
Everyone poops.
That's a clever use of a a silly thing, I'd let him have it.
There's a great book for girls that age called "The Care and Keeping of You" they have it on Amazon and a lot of bookstores like Barnes and Noble. That helps a lot- especially if you read it before giving it to her to prepare for the incoming questions. It's also best to stock up on some pads (day use and overnight) before she starts so they're ready for her when she needs them. It's all new for her so going with you to buy them may feel embarrassing and awkward. Pre-teen girls have too many emotions to begin with, so avoiding that can help. Keep in mind that this stuff can start early- my mom got her first period at age 10- it's best to prepare as early as then. Hope that's a little helpful! (source: female. Also a nanny for a ten year old with loads of puberty questions)
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For the girl, consider this, it’s a learn how to play Flute with songs from Frozen.
Frozen - Recorder Fun!: Pack with Songbook and Instrument https://www.amazon.com/dp/1495013057/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fzo-BbF6N2GX0
Get the book The Care and Keeping of You.
It's a great way to discuss body changes in a matter of fact, age-appropriate way. And it will provide a natural opening for you to mention the bad bloody nose.
Btw - have you ever tried taking vitamin K? Some people are vitamin K deficient and therefore their blood doesn't clot as well. For our family,, bloody noses is the most common clue we need to up our vitamin K levels. I haven't noticed a hormonal correlation, but it may at least reduce the severity of your bloody noses.
This book is absolutely the most incredible thing I've come across so far. I started out using Code academy but honestly I kept getting bored with how linear it was (In my opinion) and honestly I personally learn better when I can take the bite sized pieces and do what I want with them which is what this book does.
It defines the function simply, gives examples of how it's used and then a visible representation of the function in action, and after that it'll give you exercises (that I like to customize) that you can try yourself. I'm only on chapter four which introduces loops but this book goes everywhere with me along with a journal to physically write down code and then test it when I'm near a computer.
There are other books in this series but I refuse to overwhelm myself with too many books at once.
I'm aware not everyone retains information the same way but if you'd like I can post pictures of the layout of the book so you can get a feel for it. I'm fairly new to Python and it is my first language (although I did look into Javascript, CSS and HTML first but didn't actually retain it as well. I intend to go back to those after I 'master' python.)
Sorry for the book of a comment! I got excited...
This is an actual kids book based off that joke. https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1492674311
I got it for my nephew and he LOVES it, but his parents hate it because they don't want to confuse him (he's 3 and just learning letters now), so they have to fuck with it when they read it to him. It's not an alphabet book for him, it's just pictures and words.
WTF are you on about? Any age is appropriate for teaching children how the human body works. Any time kids have questions they should be answered truthfully and in an age appropriate manner.
Here’s a link: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Stork-Families-Friends/dp/0763633313
I've read so many of those Reilly books and they are all super dull and sometimes hard to follow. Best python book I came across is this Python Crash Course: A Hands-On, Project-Based Introduction to Programming https://www.amazon.com/dp/1593276036/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_OByyCbMTJD8GC
https://www.amazon.com/Frozen-Recorder-Pack-Songbook-Instrument/dp/1495013057
you guys don't know pain until you've had this given to your 3 year old daughter.
I had the same situation a few years ago. We used C/C++ at school, but I wanted to learn Python. It's quite simple compared to C.
I used this book along with Derek Banas' videos on youtube
As most everyone replying has said, buy both! However, do not get OB tampons as they do not come with an applicator. Try to find something with a plastic (vs cardboard) applicator, as they are easier to insert. And avoid scented products, because those can cause general groin irritation.
Quick edit: Further advice. I found that having books about growing up helped me with knowing about my period. This was the book I liked most. It's slightly outdated, and might be embarrassing to buy for your daughter, but I guarantee it (or a similar book) will help both of you when the time comes.
There are age appropriate ways for kids to learn this stuff. The first thing I always do when I'm caught off guard is to ask, "How do you think you were made?" I just turn it around to see where they are at...and why they might be asking. (Obviously this is a comedy thing played for the laugh, but you wouldn't believe how similar some other stories of 'my kid asked' are to this exact thing.)
A book like this: It's Not the Stork! would also help with future explanations.
My mom was also useless here, so my dad took me to see my female primary doctor who kindly recommended this book. It includes pictures on how to shave your body, how to insert a tampon, how to measure and choose bras, and other things that she will have to learn about herself and her body. It's a little awkward, but as long as your supportive and go through it with her, I think it will be a good experience for you both!
The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls, Revised Edition (American Girl Library) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1609580834/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_i_nk0aGbGPCNW4N
Journals, adult coloring books, art supplies.
I also highly recommend It's not the Stork. It is a basic into to sex book that explains everything at a 3-6 year old level.
It includes basic anatomy, proper names for parts, how babies are made, and safety. It talks about how families come in all shapes and sizes, and much more.
I also recommend the other books, It's So Amazing for 7 year olds to puberty and "It's Perfectly Normal" for puberty age kids.
My daughter loves the book and it still catches me a bit off guard when she picks it for bedtime stories (we'll just do a chapter or two). Oh great, impromptu sex talk tonight I see. I do my best to make it no big deal.
First of all, I just want to say that you are a great dad for thinking of this ahead of time. It really shows that you care about your girls and their well-being through what can be a very tough time.
As far as advice goes, I know 9 seems young, but you may want to talk with her sometime soon about what to expect. Sometimes girls can get their periods early, even as young as 9 or 10, and it is better that she is aware of the possibility, rather than being frightened and uninformed if it happens before you get around to it.
Are your daughters close with your sister? They may feel more comfortable having a female to look up to and for guidance with these types of things. She can also be a good person for you to bounce questions of if as well.
There are also some awesome books out now about puberty, periods and everything else that goes along with it. I highly recommend “The Care and Keeping of you” it’s a series of 2 books, one for both younger and older girls.
Amazon Link Book 1: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1609580834/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_KpSdEbE2VAFMC
Amazon Link Book 2:
The Care and Keeping of You 2: The Body Book for Older Girls https://www.amazon.com/dp/1609580427/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_YsSdEbH5079KS
I am new also. A am using the book Python Crash Course
https://www.amazon.com/Python-Crash-Course-Hands-Project-Based/dp/1593276036
and it is quite helpful so far. I am going to finish the whole book and type out all the exercises
There is an awesome book that I got my girls. I think it was. An American girl book. It went through all the changes. We would read a section every night. Then discuss. this book
No reason to lie, and absolutely fine and NORMAL to talk about sex and where babies come from even with young children. They are curious, and don't need detailed examples, but they also shouldn't be lied to.
Sex is not shameful. Sex shouldn't be taboo. Sex feels good, but has a lot of complicated feelings and potential consequences, so should be done by adults who are able to handle that.
Last week with my current employer before I'm on a two week vacation. I have plans to do a lot of down-sizing (got many items to list on amazon/craigslist that have just been sitting) and want to get through this book: https://www.amazon.com/Python-Crash-Course-Hands-Project-Based/dp/1593276036 to build up some skills before my new employment. Looking forward.
We picked up this book (It's Not the Stork!) based on suggestions from a Facebook parenting group, and it's been a hit with our 6 year old son. He was fascinated by all of it, and it does a good job of keeping it factual and grounded without getting into overly explicit detail, leaving that for other books in the series that are aimed at older age groups.
https://www.amazon.com/Pterodactyl-Worst-Alphabet-Book-Ever/dp/1492674311
Edit: damn, a bunch of negative reviews from uptight Christians because O is for Ouija, being used by a witch from Oaxaca, and the pterodactyl is a psychic. 😆
They also seem to think it's a children's book. It isn't, not really.
One thing I see mentioned by sex educators is that there shouldn't be any singular The Talk. Rather, there should be a continual dialog that evolves as your kids mature and have new questions. There are age-appropriate resources for this if you look around... eg, the "It's Not the Stork" series has three books aimed at 4+, 8+, and 10+. The first one of this addressed a lot of questions my daughter had when she was in the 5-6 range when she started looking for actual answers about reproduction (having graduated from "Who Has What" for understanding the names / basics when she was younger).
Then buy it. It's only 8 bucks. Support the people who made it.
The same author of the first two books also published It's Not The Stork. I haven't read it because it's intended for ages younger than I teach (4-7), but since I like the author I'm sure it's probably really good as well.
Buy them now and stash them if you have the means. I've found they often sell out from time to time, unfortunately. It looks like Amazon is in stock for all three (though if you can order through a local bookstore please do).