So this is, uh, a completely separate topic from the whole teenager situation. I'm content just reading everyone else's discussion about it and not contributing to it.
But I found out about a month ago that I have ADHD, so I've naturally been researching everything to do with it. I found this book, and it's a little bit blowing my mind how much harder I've been making getting my place under control. Reading that and then looking at CC'S insta... Imagine how pretty the Tableaux could look if she followed the rule of "inventory must be less than storage"
Very much agree. This kid isn’t “FuckingStupid,” she has some form of ADHD.
Honestly, even if the parent/child choose not to go the medication route (a good choice), it’s so helpful to have the diagnosis to get rid of the guilt and shame. Just knowing that “focusing” is going to be a primary challenge, even though most people can do it without trying, is a huge help. Having the freedom to accept that the “easy stuff” isn’t going to be easy is life changing in a good way.
I would not have wanted to be medicated, but if someone had taught me in middle school how to use something like Getting Things Done, I think it would have been a huge help to me in College and my early professional years. I do OK now, but I wish I’d spent my teens developing reasonable planning habits, none of that “put the date the huge project is due into your planner on that date!” bullshit that helps nobody.
Second big change: make sure the physical environment is geared toward an ADHDer. This book is a fucking godsend: https://www.amazon.com/Organizing-Solutions-People-Revised-Updated/dp/1592335128. Seriously, it is just the best. Rule number one: ease of stowage trumps ease of retrieval. Bear that one thing in mind when organizing and planning physical spaces, and 70% of the frustrations of day-to-day life with ADHD just go away.
I think the next change, to the “ADHD” diagnosis will be to add the slash into the acronym (Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder for AD/HD) because hyperactivity is not always present. The next change will be getting rid of that last D, because it’s not a disorder so much as a difference that those who have it need to take into account.
I’m honestly not sure if we aren’t in our own way more suited to life in Consumer Culture and Attention Economy land. At least we feel the pain and anxiety right away rather than “powering through it” and bottling it up.
Flexner's book is the go-to that I know of - https://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Wood-Finishing-Comprehensive-Troubleshooting/dp/1565235665
Medication is the most effective tool for treating ADHD, for sure, but it's not the only thing you can do. Make sure you eat and drink enough through the day and get plenty of sleep. Figure out what coping mechanisms and lifestyle interventions work for you. Russell Barkley has written books full of evidence-based tools you can use: Taking Charge of ADHD (for parents) and Taking Charge of Adult ADHD (for adults with ADHD). You might find both of them useful. Organizing Solutions for People With ADHD might also be helpful.
While it’s ADHD specific, the tips can apply generally to everyone as well: Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD. It’s about organizing your physical space, time and task management, and more.
I strongly recommend https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Joy-Homebrewing-Fourth-Revised/dp/0062215752/
Charlie is considered by many to be the father of home brewing. This book has so much great information in it. I can't recommend it enough.
That guy looks like movie director John Landis and I don't trust myself not to make a tastelessly morbid reference to the fatal helicopter crash from 'Twilight Zone: The Movie', so instead I'm going to focus on thinking about what made someone look at the cover for the 1990 instructional reference book 'Identifying Wood' and feel that it deserved to be adapted into a ska meme, because I have to admit I adore their esoteric line of thought.
Have you read any homebrew books? The Complete Joy of Homebrewing by Charlie Papazian and How to Brew by John Palmer are in most homebrewer's collection and excellent starting points. Charlie's book is a nice relaxed approach to homebrewing. John Palmer's is also easy to read but more packed with knowledge.
I recommend starting simple by purchasing beer recipe kits or using pre-made recipes on the net. You don't need to worry about formulating your own recipe until you're ready to tinker.
Find a book or two about guitar building on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Make-Your-Own-Electric-Guitar/dp/0953104907 this one is pretty excellent) and read it. The book will not only tell you every step of building an instrument, but it will also list every tool and material you will need to complete the project.
The first step to take, though, is to learn basic woodworking skills. Without them (and without good hands-on guidance from a skilled woodworker), you will not build an instrument worth playing.
Thanks for the support everyone. The pattern is from the "Pusheen: A Cross Stitch Kit" which can be found on Amazon (Pusheen: A Cross-Stitch Kit https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0762492279/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_lRpjCbKZRXW0E).
Kit is Pusheen: A Cross Stitch Kit, available on Amazon here. I haven't cross stitched for a couple of years now, and I wanted to start out with something a bit smaller. Really happy with the way this turned out. If anyone has any advice please let me know!
If you haven’t already, you should read ‘Norwegian wood’ by Lars Mytting. It’s an excellent book about chopping, stacking, and drying wood.
Here’s the link:
I don't do well in clutter because it overwhelms me so I honestly throw away as much as I can possibly get away with and embrace minimalism. The less stuff you have the less there is to clean. Having fewer clothes forces you to do laundry more, for example, but have 15 pairs of pants makes it pretty easy to ignore laundry. I found this book to be amazingly helpful. https://www.amazon.com/dp/1592335128/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_iHaTFbDW68WRC
i got the pattern from amazon i really like for the price and good for beginners (obviously)
I work at a big chain bookstore and we carry them! They’re tiny little boxes and at my store they’re kept on an acrylic spinner with other small boxes, mostly collectible things. Also I did a quick search and found this on amazon and I’m pretty sure it’s the same thing :)
My first time finishing, and it’s these cute Pusheens! Finishing sucks, and my fabric was too thick to fit in the frame, so I had to cut the back, fit the fabric in, and then tape the back on. The backs to these are atrocious, but I’m pretty happy with the fronts. Let me know any tips or tricks to make it easier in the future!
I got the patterns from the pusheen cross stitch kit. You can find it on amazon
It's been a long time since I've looked through them, but I believe one or both of the books linked below cover neck through builds:
In adition to the podcast idea there is a book by Susan Pinsky called Organizing solutions for ADHD, its pretty good
organizing with adhd
I’d say gift certificate to a woodworking store.
Or rubber gloves, sandpaper, mineral spirits, or this
Understanding Wood Finishing: How to Select and Apply the Right Finish (Fox Chapel Publishing) Practical & Comprehensive with Over 300 Color Photos and 40 Reference Tables & Troubleshooting Guides https://www.amazon.com/dp/1565235665/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_XKCPK2KDWBBJV5FNE8TB?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I love his title, Understanding Wood. But you are probably better off with the following for your specific aims:
Identifying Wood: Accurate Results With Simple Tools at Amazon.
Pusheen: A Cross-Stitch Kit https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0762492279/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_33Q9SG5NER6YWB36DQRT
The instructions are clear and I think the size of each pattern is perfect for beginners!
I highly suggest this book for the organization side. It works through specific rooms and common problems in an easily digestible way. It also espouses the "do what works for you, not what you think should work for you but doesn't" point of view which is SO valuable for us.
Happy cake day!
I think you need to get yourself this pusheen cross-stitch kit! It’s super cute and looks like it would be a great first cross-stitch to try out! Also, it’s only $9.90 so if it’s something new your trying out it’s not too expensive 🤷🏻♀️
I went googling and geeked out (and may have also squee'd) when I saw these.
Star Wars Crochet
creepy and cute
Also check out the Edwards Menagerie and Crochet ever after in Amazon.
Oohh I finished this one last week from a kit I got off them as well. Currently doing this one I received yesterday, and have a few projects lined up too. They are indeed very calming and the cute results make me happy too!
Get Bruce Hoadley's book. https://www.amazon.com/Identifying-Wood-Accurate-Results-Simple/dp/0942391047/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Bruce+Hoadley&link_code=qs&qid=1595991518&sourceid=Mozilla-search&sr=8-2&tag=mozilla-20
I used the Star Wars kits myself but Ravelry has a ton... otherwise Star Wars Crochet (Crochet Kits) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1626863261/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_ArtRBbZPV2B7C
But you can get it around 15 with some looking
Joy of Homebrewing. It's not the most 'up to date' but it's usually at your local library for absolutely free and is a great starting point. Provides the fundamentals. : http://www.amazon.com/The-Complete-Homebrewing-Third-Edition/dp/0060531053
I bought and read through this book, it was quite helpful. Though I don't remember paying $48 for it.
I also used a lot of internet research, but this was my main basis.
I would suggest reading the book "Norwegian Wood: Chopping, Stacking, and Drying Wood the Scandinavian Way" to learn about the tried and tested techniques behind all of this.