You'll probably hate to hear this, but if she already is very fit and is serious about getting to an "elite" level, she'll probably benefit most from a legit personal trainer. Getting that last 20% of looks/performance takes as much as the first 80%.
If she just wants to look better and is a fitness enthusiast, start looking into a free food tracker (myfitnespal on her phone is really good). Any service that helps with meal prep or, dare I say it, protein shakes, will help because diet will be her biggest key to either success or failure.
Thinner, Leaner, Stronger is an excellent place to start, though his writing style makes it a bit cumbersome at times.
If she's not already started power lifting (especially squats, deadlifts), then she should start finding good videos on youtube of Olympic lifts. You search some excel table progressions for 5-3-1 and similar style deals. I get it that she's not going for mass, but the compound lifts help with fat loss a great deal and you can moderate them so you do not look like a body builder.
Since you're new and your mind isn't flooded with misinformation yet, do yourself a huge favor and buy this book. https://www.amazon.com/Thinner-Leaner-Stronger-Building-Ultimate-ebook/dp/B0098PYV7Q
I have the male version and it's amazing, provides a comprehensive foundation of nutrition, exercise, dieting, and notates studies to back up everything he claims. He also goes in depth about supplements and which ones are worthless.
Try reading "How Not To Die" by Michael Greger: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00Y7USB14/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
It's the real deal and will give you a lot of data. However, it's relatively straightforward to eat a healthy diet: eat lots of whole plant foods, particularly greens, fruits, legumes, and whole grains. The closer to the vine/tree, the better. There are thousands of micronutrients in food that we don't yet understand. Every time we take real food apart and put together some processed variation, we destroy important synergistic effects. As Michael Pollan famously said, "Eat food. Not too much. Mostly Plants.".
I was going to suggest this one. Both along the same line of thinking - the little voice inside that wants all the food needs to be tamed.
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For anyone who wants to read the book without having to pay for it, and is willing to read it online instead of print, here you go
https://idmprogram.com/fasting-a-history-part-i/
Start there & work through all of the fasting articles. It's essentially the same content.
Also the kindle version is currently on sale for $3
You should be lifting as heavy as you can with proper form. Sets of ~6 reps. Squat, Deadlift, Bench, & Military Press is where most of your gains will come from. I cannot recommend THIS book enough. Keep it heavy and adjust your diet for fat loss.
Everybody read this book it is the fatlogic reddit in book form, except nicer and everything is on one place.
I find it incredibly motivating.
That's like saying "I know I have heart disease, but due to modern medicine at least I'm likely to survive another decade or so".
Personally I would just rather not have heart disease.
But nobody taught her the necessary tools to change her weight, she thinks this is her fate now, with which she has to arrange herself. Just one good book and she could take matters into her own hands.
We're not. You're assuming those things are inherently bad for you. They're not.
Check out the book The Big Fat Surprise by Nina Teicholz. It's a life changer.
Edit: and here's my blood work: https://imgur.com/a/BmpS8mk
https://legionathletics.com › tdee-cal... Web results This Is the Best TDEE Calculator on the Web (2019) - Legion Athletics
Thinner Leaner Stronger: The Simple Science of Building the Ultimate Female Body (Muscle for Life Book 2) https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0098PYV7Q/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_5Z4wDbBR09H90
I'd have a look at your TDEE on this website and the linked book which is a good intro to cutting/maintenance/bulking and macros with a specific focus on women.
Yes, I think 1400kcal is too low to bulk. Had a quick look at your calculated TDEE based on your weight and activity level (you'll be able to calculate it more accurately by using correct BF% and age, height etc...) and I think you'd need to be quite a bit higher.
I'd give the book a read and see what you think. It's cheap enough.
Congrats on your progress. Keep it up!
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I also just learned that r/BingeEatingDisorder is a thing. I had no idea. I thought if I wasn't bulemic (didn't vomit) I was just lazy with poor self control.
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I just started reading Never Binge Again by Glenn Livingston, and while the writing style is a bit gimmicky/hokey, he's got some good psychological tools to reprogram your brain.
Please see my other post in this thread about Never Binge Again. You absolutely DO NOT need to find the root cause of your unhappiness and 'emptiness' to stop binging. You just have to stop binging to stop binging.
It could take you years of therapy and meditation to "discover" some magical "root cause" that makes you binge. You can do TONS of damage to your heart in that time.
I'd say stop binging FIRST. Right away, and then go find out what your root cause of sadness is. Don't let your brain TRICK YOU into thinking you have to find some primal cause to stop killing yourself with food. Read the book. It's a life-changer for real. (Or one of the other two books I mentioned if you don't like that one).
It looks like there is some great advice in this thread, and I am going to add one more thing that helped me. Check out the book "Never Binge Again" on Amazon. It is free, comes with a bunch of free extras, and was written by a mental health professional with years of both studying binge eating and overcoming it himself. It seems really silly and contrary to popular advice at first, but after finishing it a week ago I finally feel able to remove food from my desk at work, and able to keep to my goals food wise for more than a few days.
Hey its free - worst case scenario you waste 2 hours reading it..
You are not alone, and thank you for being direct and honest!
> What about individual doctors, though? Why aren’t all my colleagues telling their patients to lay off the Chick-fil-A? Insufficient time during office visits is a common excuse physicians cite, but the top reason doctors give for not counseling patients with high cholesterol to eat healthier is that they think patients may “fear privations related to dietary advice.”65 In other words, doctors perceive that patients would feel deprived of all the junk they’re eating. Can you imagine a doctor saying, “Yeah, I’d like to tell my patients to stop smoking, but I know how much they love it”?
This is towards the end of the chapter, here is the rest in case you are interested:
>Neal Barnard, M.D., president of the Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine, recently wrote a compelling editorial in the American Medical Association’s journal of ethics, describing how doctors went from being bystanders—or even enablers—of smoking to leading the fight against tobacco. Doctors realized they were more effective at counseling patients to quit smoking if they no longer had tobacco stains on their own fingers.
>Today, Dr. Barnard says, “Plant-based diets are the nutritional equivalent of quitting smoking.”66
Bigger Leaner Stronger. Its a book/program that I really like. Not quite as mainstream as some of the others, but it seems to work well for me. The book was $0.99 on amazon recently. He goes over most of the stuff you can find in the wiki, but I liked the review.
https://www.amazon.com/Bigger-Leaner-Stronger-Bodybuilding-Weightlifting-ebook/dp/B006XF5BTG/
Check out this ebook. It's free on Amazon. I never considered myself a binge eater, but when I read this, I saw so much of myself in it. https://smile.amazon.com/Never-Binge-Again-Permanently-Overeating-ebook/dp/B014V1Q6SI
One of the things he talks about is that self-destructive, beating yourself up cycle. "Well, I've already messed up. I can't stick to anything, so guess I may as well just eat."
You can and should love your body.
Picture your body like a garden shed. You can and should love it for all the useful things it holds and all the things it allows you to do.
Despite all that, you still need to clean out the shed once in a while, so that the clutter doesn't burst the walls and wreck the shed and you can continue to enjoy having it around for years to come.
Same thing with your body. You need to clean it out and offload some of the excess so that you can have it around for a while.
I don't think you fought to build a 400lb body, or that you think that every pound of that needs to be honored.
You fought to build a good life, with a good partner, and a good job, all of which you want to enjoy for years to come.
So keep up the fight so you get to enjoy the rest of your life.
Also, buy the book Conquering Fat Logic by Dr. Nadja Hermann. https://www.amazon.com/Conquering-Fat-Logic-ourselves-metabolism-ebook/dp/B07CZ3K2W3
It's really helpful.
I highly recommend the nutrition science book How Not to Die. This book changed my life, I am eating much healthier and will live longer and feel better because of it.
Don't laugh too hard....
I use tallow for thread tapping. Tallow (rendered beef fat) is extremely stable and does not go rancid. There is a hot dip wax formula for chain lube that includes tallow. If you are an old machinist, you are familiar with different types of "natural" lubricants.
I have seen lard mentioned as a lubricant in the old books but on a serious note, I see no use for it on a bicycle. Lard mixed in with chain wax makes sense as it would lower the melting point of the wax if that is indeed a property you want. I find just plain hot wax to be incredibly good by itself.
Prior to oil being pumped out of the ground animal fats and processed seed oils were used for lubrication. Once the seed oil market started collapsing they started to sell it for human consumption. Rape Seed oil was popular, for machine use and was poisonous. Selective breeding has removed most of the poison and it was renamed to Canola Oil because what woman is going to buy rape oil.
Big Fat Surprise is a great book on the history of fats for human consumption and takes a very close look at the studies that out low fat, high carb diets are based on.
Never Binge Again(tm): How Thousands of People Have Stopped Overeating and Binge Eating - and Stuck to the Diet of Their Choice! (By Reprogramming Themselves to Think Differently About Food.) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014V1Q6SI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_gMecGbY92V0SD?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Please read this book. The ebook is free (and the guy has it free as a pdf on his website if you can't get it from Amazon). I finally grudgingly read it after seeing a guy on r/keto recommend it over and over, and I saw so much of myself in it. Even if you don't consider yourself a binge eater (I don't myself), check out this book. It's short, but it's kind of an eye opener.
Never Binge Again(tm): Reprogram Yourself to Think Like a Permanently Thin Person(tm). Stop Overeating and Binge Eating and Stick to the Food Plan of Your Choice! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014V1Q6SI
Just get right back on track. You will feel normal again in about a week. I have been there and done that, so I know. Don't get derailed over a couple days of bad eating. They do not undo weeks of hard work, but your Inner Pig (from the aforementioned book) wants you to think they do so that he can binge on and on and on. Silence that nasty inner voice and do your thing.
I am coming back to this convo today to let you know about another resource I found yesterday. I wasn't feeling well Saturday so I spent a lot of time on the couch reading. :) This book, Never Binge Again, has great reviews and is free for Kindle on Amazon and also this guys website. There are a bunch of free resources on his website to supplement the book. I read almost the entire book in a couple hours (it's short), and it was very impactful! It's not for everyone, that's for sure, but I know it's already helped me. Going to keep The Pig caged for sure, haha! If you read it you will know what I mean. :)
I feel your pain. I am the same way with sweet stuff. If you haven't run across it yet, check out this guy's book. Free on Amazon if you're in the U.S.; free PDF from his website if you're not:
https://smile.amazon.com/Never-Binge-Again-Permanently-Overeating-ebook/dp/B014V1Q6SI
I listened to her audiobook via my public library's Overdrive and can only recommend every person interested in really understanding the mechanics behind our current state of nutrition listen or read it. I enjoyed the listening because I could rewind and rewind and then let it sink in. I am not getting any benefit from Amazon just found that link with reviews might be helpful. https://www.amazon.com/Big-Fat-Surprise-Butter-Healthy-ebook/dp/B00A25FDUA
this book called bigger leaner stronger is a really good book on how to make more muscles. even tho it's mostly popular with body builders it works for making muscles for boxing too. especially the diet part
https://www.amazon.com/Bigger-Leaner-Stronger-Building-Ultimate-ebook/dp/B006XF5BTG
Do a search on "statin" here and you will find many sources. Probably your best starting source for additional research is:
http://highsteaks.com/cholesterol/#statins
http://www.amazon.com/Principia-Ketogenica-Carbohydrate-Compendium-Literature-ebook/dp/B00N0KGKNI
Short of getting a different cardiologist, you will likely find it a tough sell. Good luck.
I'm not trying to make you feel bad either. My suggestion is the free book never binge again. The premise is you make food rules of some sort that you choose, and then any thoughts that tell you to break those rules are from what they call "the pig" or a separate part of your mind that is focused on short term gratification despite long term goals. It is also a lot of just habit. Don't let the pig talk turn you off though.
That is what worked for me.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014V1Q6SI?ref_=cm_sw_r_mwn_dp_C6F3H768VW27JJQZKMWM
The cardio isn't really necessary, mainly just the weight training. Also, you could get great results just doing 3x per week if 4x is too much. And you don't need a trainer, you just need to dial in your diet/nutrition and follow a decent routine like Mike Matthews' Bigger Leaner Stronger or Rusty Moore's Visual Impact Muscle Building program (which is the one I used to do my original transformation).
A great place to start with information on this topic would be Jason Fung's The Obesity Code. It's an approachable book that gives lots of fundamental basics on the nature of fasting.