Looking at the summary of that book on Amazon...
They say don't judge a book by its cover, but I'm going to do the opposite, be very judgmental here and say that this summary doesn't fill me with the hope that this is a measured take on ED recovery or healthy lifestyle habits. It seems like precisely the sort of summary that'd be a motherlode of fatlogic. Maybe I'm wrong and it's just bait to get HAES advocates to read it, who knows?
Still, the message of the person writing this... Yeah, an anorexic probably needs to let go of the fear of gaining a healthy amount of weight. But you know what? It's been said here before, by ED sufferers, that nothing makes an anorexic run away in screaming panic from the thought of treatment and recovery quite like the idea that they'll end up obese.
Yeah, if you're BMI 15, you need to let go of the fear of gaining weight. If you're BMI 25, not so much.
I was going to suggest this one. Both along the same line of thinking - the little voice inside that wants all the food needs to be tamed.
You should be lifting as heavy as you can with proper form. Sets of ~6 reps. Squat, Deadlift, Bench, & Military Press is where most of your gains will come from. I cannot recommend THIS book enough. Keep it heavy and adjust your diet for fat loss.
Everybody read this book it is the fatlogic reddit in book form, except nicer and everything is on one place.
I find it incredibly motivating.
That's like saying "I know I have heart disease, but due to modern medicine at least I'm likely to survive another decade or so".
Personally I would just rather not have heart disease.
But nobody taught her the necessary tools to change her weight, she thinks this is her fate now, with which she has to arrange herself. Just one good book and she could take matters into her own hands.
Congrats on your progress. Keep it up!
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I also just learned that r/BingeEatingDisorder is a thing. I had no idea. I thought if I wasn't bulemic (didn't vomit) I was just lazy with poor self control.
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I just started reading Never Binge Again by Glenn Livingston, and while the writing style is a bit gimmicky/hokey, he's got some good psychological tools to reprogram your brain.
Please see my other post in this thread about Never Binge Again. You absolutely DO NOT need to find the root cause of your unhappiness and 'emptiness' to stop binging. You just have to stop binging to stop binging.
It could take you years of therapy and meditation to "discover" some magical "root cause" that makes you binge. You can do TONS of damage to your heart in that time.
I'd say stop binging FIRST. Right away, and then go find out what your root cause of sadness is. Don't let your brain TRICK YOU into thinking you have to find some primal cause to stop killing yourself with food. Read the book. It's a life-changer for real. (Or one of the other two books I mentioned if you don't like that one).
It looks like there is some great advice in this thread, and I am going to add one more thing that helped me. Check out the book "Never Binge Again" on Amazon. It is free, comes with a bunch of free extras, and was written by a mental health professional with years of both studying binge eating and overcoming it himself. It seems really silly and contrary to popular advice at first, but after finishing it a week ago I finally feel able to remove food from my desk at work, and able to keep to my goals food wise for more than a few days.
Hey its free - worst case scenario you waste 2 hours reading it..
Bigger Leaner Stronger. Its a book/program that I really like. Not quite as mainstream as some of the others, but it seems to work well for me. The book was $0.99 on amazon recently. He goes over most of the stuff you can find in the wiki, but I liked the review.
https://www.amazon.com/Bigger-Leaner-Stronger-Bodybuilding-Weightlifting-ebook/dp/B006XF5BTG/
Check out this ebook. It's free on Amazon. I never considered myself a binge eater, but when I read this, I saw so much of myself in it. https://smile.amazon.com/Never-Binge-Again-Permanently-Overeating-ebook/dp/B014V1Q6SI
One of the things he talks about is that self-destructive, beating yourself up cycle. "Well, I've already messed up. I can't stick to anything, so guess I may as well just eat."
You can and should love your body.
Picture your body like a garden shed. You can and should love it for all the useful things it holds and all the things it allows you to do.
Despite all that, you still need to clean out the shed once in a while, so that the clutter doesn't burst the walls and wreck the shed and you can continue to enjoy having it around for years to come.
Same thing with your body. You need to clean it out and offload some of the excess so that you can have it around for a while.
I don't think you fought to build a 400lb body, or that you think that every pound of that needs to be honored.
You fought to build a good life, with a good partner, and a good job, all of which you want to enjoy for years to come.
So keep up the fight so you get to enjoy the rest of your life.
Also, buy the book Conquering Fat Logic by Dr. Nadja Hermann. https://www.amazon.com/Conquering-Fat-Logic-ourselves-metabolism-ebook/dp/B07CZ3K2W3
It's really helpful.
Another user on this sub posted that the book Brain Over Binge cured her bingeing, and I was feeling very desperate like you sound here, so I bought the book immediately. I got it on Kindle so I started reading it right away, and I couldn't stop reading. I'm almost done with it, and it's already helped stop a binge for me twice.
I've been trying to find the post I saw the comment in so I can thank the person who posted it, because I honestly feel "cured" right now. It's only been 2 days so of course I don't know if I am but I feel very positive.
Here's a link to in on Amazon for anyone interested: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01AZQJ1D0
As someone who has suffered most of my life with eating disorders - restricting, binging, overexercising, purging, obsessing...
I have a PSA: Go on amazon and get this book. She uses a “rational recovery” approach to stop her bulimia, and it is a really lucid read. All the comments say how much this book was transformative, as well.
Anyone who reads it let me know what you think: Brain over Binge: Why I Was Bulimic, Why Conventional Therapy Didn't Work, and How I Recovered for Good https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005F9UZ1U/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_EOPHCbR37ZNKZ
Never Binge Again(tm): How Thousands of People Have Stopped Overeating and Binge Eating - and Stuck to the Diet of Their Choice! (By Reprogramming Themselves to Think Differently About Food.) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014V1Q6SI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_gMecGbY92V0SD?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Please read this book. The ebook is free (and the guy has it free as a pdf on his website if you can't get it from Amazon). I finally grudgingly read it after seeing a guy on r/keto recommend it over and over, and I saw so much of myself in it. Even if you don't consider yourself a binge eater (I don't myself), check out this book. It's short, but it's kind of an eye opener.
Never Binge Again(tm): Reprogram Yourself to Think Like a Permanently Thin Person(tm). Stop Overeating and Binge Eating and Stick to the Food Plan of Your Choice! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014V1Q6SI
Just get right back on track. You will feel normal again in about a week. I have been there and done that, so I know. Don't get derailed over a couple days of bad eating. They do not undo weeks of hard work, but your Inner Pig (from the aforementioned book) wants you to think they do so that he can binge on and on and on. Silence that nasty inner voice and do your thing.
I am coming back to this convo today to let you know about another resource I found yesterday. I wasn't feeling well Saturday so I spent a lot of time on the couch reading. :) This book, Never Binge Again, has great reviews and is free for Kindle on Amazon and also this guys website. There are a bunch of free resources on his website to supplement the book. I read almost the entire book in a couple hours (it's short), and it was very impactful! It's not for everyone, that's for sure, but I know it's already helped me. Going to keep The Pig caged for sure, haha! If you read it you will know what I mean. :)
I feel your pain. I am the same way with sweet stuff. If you haven't run across it yet, check out this guy's book. Free on Amazon if you're in the U.S.; free PDF from his website if you're not:
https://smile.amazon.com/Never-Binge-Again-Permanently-Overeating-ebook/dp/B014V1Q6SI
this book called bigger leaner stronger is a really good book on how to make more muscles. even tho it's mostly popular with body builders it works for making muscles for boxing too. especially the diet part
https://www.amazon.com/Bigger-Leaner-Stronger-Building-Ultimate-ebook/dp/B006XF5BTG
I'm not trying to make you feel bad either. My suggestion is the free book never binge again. The premise is you make food rules of some sort that you choose, and then any thoughts that tell you to break those rules are from what they call "the pig" or a separate part of your mind that is focused on short term gratification despite long term goals. It is also a lot of just habit. Don't let the pig talk turn you off though.
That is what worked for me.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014V1Q6SI?ref_=cm_sw_r_mwn_dp_C6F3H768VW27JJQZKMWM
The cardio isn't really necessary, mainly just the weight training. Also, you could get great results just doing 3x per week if 4x is too much. And you don't need a trainer, you just need to dial in your diet/nutrition and follow a decent routine like Mike Matthews' Bigger Leaner Stronger or Rusty Moore's Visual Impact Muscle Building program (which is the one I used to do my original transformation).
This book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bigger-Leaner-Stronger-Building-Ultimate-ebook/dp/B006XF5BTG
is brilliant. You can ignore some (most/all) of the diet stuff if you want as it's aimed at people who really want to get into it, but there's workouts in there and clear instructions on most of the major lifts (and any lifts that are in the workouts but not described in detail you can youtube). I started at the gym following his workouts, scribbled bit of paper with the plan tucked into my shorts - found it really useful
(I think from looking at your profile that you're a guy but there is an equivalent book for women too if necessary)
I can no longer do back squats, deadlift and bench press due to lower back and shoulder injuries (unrelated to weight room). Currently I follow Unstoppable by John Rusin twice a week. Monday is Upper and Friday is lower. here's the lower workout
I also do 2 X days bodyweight training using Freeletics.
I can only get away with Goblet squats 7 sets of 5 reps with 22kg/48 lbs dumbbell or kettle bell depending on what's available at my gym.
Before pandemic, I used to run a 5 day per week split from Bigger, Leaner,Stronger by Mike Matthews
Excellent Home Gym + PT, especially in the beginning to help you with the right weightlifting techniques. After that optional.
Read the following book and follow its advice, does not take long to read. It really has everything you need to embark on the right path, has been transformational for me personally as well.
https://www.amazon.com/Bigger-Leaner-Stronger-Building-Ultimate-ebook/dp/B006XF5BTG
I'm only on my third day, but Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Smoking Without Willpower (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07G146HCS/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_d_asin_title_o02?ie=UTF8&psc=1) helped me the most.
Never Binge Again (free on kindle https://www.amazon.it/Never-Binge-Again-Permanently-Overeating-ebook/dp/B014V1Q6SI )
I think this book is a good coverall, in terms of diet and exercise.
It also reviews cutting and bulking cycles.
Best of luck!
https://www.amazon.com/Bigger-Leaner-Stronger-Building-Ultimate-ebook/dp/B006XF5BTG
If vaping is an unaffordable option, a friend of mine quit using Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Smoking Without Willpower which includes advice about vaping and exercise. He highly recommended the book.
I’ve never seen anyone recommend it here so I’m not sure it’s allowed. Fully expecting this to be deleted if so!
I’ve found great help with Never Binge Again. Binge free for over 6 months and not a single bite of carbohydrate-loaded junk food. I can’t stop once I start so I just don’t start.
It’s a very different way of looking at things and gets a lot of hate from people who have read a few pages of the book and think it’s nuts. But it’s changed the way I think about food and made it easier to give up what I know is terrible for me.
The e-book is free on Amazon.
I basically tell my inner saboteur to fuck off, it won't have its way. I had all kinds of therapy and such for BED. It never really helped. This free Kindle book helped me realize that I am so much more powerful than the primitive part of my brain I used to allow to tell me to binge or eat crap.
You're in a binge cycle. Decide it's against your character to binge. "I am not someone who binges!" Then it doesn't take any willpower because it's something you've already decided you just don't do.