Liebe Seele 26.5’’ Pliable Rattan Caning Canes Whip Riding Crop, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VHBK4LS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_W1MVT5XHJZGJQY5Q0288?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
This is the one I got and I like it! No soaking required that I know of.
My favorite bondage straps are the double-tongue model that is sold by JimsBDSMGear (Etsy name), which can also be purchased at his website leathercreations.com. They aren't cheap but they're amazing.
My favorite riding crop is actually an equestrian-supply crop from Amazon that costs nothing. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000HHO1XI/ref=cm_sw_r_apanp_AY8t6qIzqNQx6
If you want a handmade crop, made sure that the vendor actually makes leather gear. Their shop should have leather stuff that can be customized. They shouldn't be selling silicone gags imported from China and such.
My favorite leather cuff maker is BitchesLoveLeather, also on Etsy, but good chokers are everywhere on Etsy.
3/4" is not a cane, it's a nightstick. And oak is too heavy. I have used poplar (3/8") with good results. Rattan is very easy to get : https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07VJFVRJX/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o08_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
One of these is recommended.
Horse Supply 18 inch Riding Crop for Horses, Horse Whip with Double Slapper, Leather Equestrian Jump Bat, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RYQ31N5/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ahZJFbTYVCTHV
Not as a whole kit but you can piece mail it. From Amazon
Leather riding crop, 1.5" tip. Makes a real nice slap & good for softer or more aggressive play
Quality Real Leather Hand Made Braided 21 Inches Long Riding Crop/whip. https://www.amazon.com/dp/6042739026/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_.5PAybEMKZNYM
Get your balls back from your girlfriend and it will become harder for her to pull your pants down. Also try one of these:
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dhpc&field-keywords=Sportsheets+12%22+Leather+Impression+Paddle
I use the one with stars on my girl and she LOVES it. It's three pieces that open a bit when moving and creat a great sound and not too much pain unless you go hard.
We also use this( http://www.amazon.com/Tough-English-Riding-Crop-24-Inch/dp/B002ILOYD8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1402535608&sr=8-1&keywords=Riding+crop ), the noise is decent and the pain is in the middle but if you learn how to use it you can move her around with it and it is AMAZING!