Read and follow this book. If you are diligent, it will change everything. It takes work. Hubby needs to be on board.
Raising Your Spirited Child, Third Edition: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062403060/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_9o71BbPH5QVCB
Bottom line: you are in control, you just need to remember that, and find the method of behavior modification that works with your SS.
This is an example of the neoliberal bullshit that passes for economic opinion all over the world. It's everywhere. It's so popular to blather on about apocalyptic public debt that the fiction has been fictionalised!
The "collapse" that people incessantly tell boogieman stories about involves these nations defaulting on their debt. On the governments running out of money because they can't borrow any more of it from their citizens or from foreign markets. Of hyperinflation, people pushing wheelbarrows of cash down the street to buy bread, police and military abandoning their posts because they're not getting paid ... that sort of thing. The book I linked to is an entertaining look into the neoliberal mindset.
China's debt is denominated in Chinese yuan. America's debt is denominated in US dollars. Australia's debt is denominated in Australian dollars. All of those nations are sovereign in their own currency. Their currency is floated on world markets. They will never default on their debt commitments, because they control their currencies.
... and all that comes after the fact that we've just accepted deficit spending by federal governments even has to be funded by the issuance of debt securities. There's no reason why public debt even has to exist: the reason it does at all is because of a neoliberal ideology called Sound Finance. We either obey the neoliberal dogma (and pretend that it's set in stone and the only way of doing business, at the cost of everything and everyone that isn't immediately profitable), or we risk the wrath of the private rating agencies. So scary.
Cutting for Stone. It's about a small rural hospital in Ethiopia during the 1960s. Lovely storytelling and really intricate descriptions of medical care & procedures (written by an MD).
I didn't realize I was autistic until long after I'd read The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, but I still liked its narrator. It's caricaturesque in its depiction of autism sometime but I still found myself resonating with it. The main character is like a really extreme version of the most analytical and sensitive parts of myself, for better and worse.
It's called Story of Your Life by Ted Chiang. It's in his short story collection Stories of Your Life and Others, which you can buy on Amazon. It's worth it just for this story, but all of them are excellent. Ted Chiang is often cited as the best living SciFi author to never have written a novel.
https://www.amazon.com/Stories-Your-Life-Others-Chiang/dp/1931520720
The Curious Incident of The Dog in The Nighttime.
In this book, Christopher Boone (main character) spends a substantial amount of time doing things by himself, as no one will help- or until his autism isn't understood by people. Striking out by your lone self can be scary, confusing, and uncertain, especially when you're still young and don't have people to guide you. Which is exactly what Christopher goes through in this book.
If you're able to get him something, look into this.
There are so many books that have helped shape me into the person that I am today, but the one that stands out the most would have to be The Art of Racing in the Rain. It’s one of the few books that I’ll go back and re-read every so often. It shows such kindness and compassion from every character involved, even if one is a dog. I feel like i really knew Enzo, that he was apart of my life and loved him so. He taught me what it was sacrifice and to be truly happy for someone else.
The Art of Racing in the Rain: A Novel https://www.amazon.com/dp/0061537969/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_iXLcGbEG7777V
I'd like to recommend Ted Chiang's short story Hell Is the Absence of God which is contained in his short story collection Story of your Life and Others (Goodreads - Amazon)
It is set in a world where the Abrahamic god of the Old Testament actually exists and behaves just as described, like a crazed maniac. There are Angel visitations and the existence of hell and heaven is proven.
I really like the fact that there is a group of humanists who rebel against such a god,and willingly go to hell in order to live an honest life where everyone else just obeys in order to get into heaven when they die.
She certainly sounds spirited! May want to check out this book: Raising Your Spirited Child, Third Edition: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic (Spirited Series) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062403060/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_8BY92MMVWF9GXFC2HM1E
https://www.amazon.com/Mandibles-Family-2029-2047-Lionel-Shriver/dp/006232828X
I went there to re-read the synopsis and, although it's not exactly what you're saying, it's pretty closely correlated.
In The Mandibles , a renunciation of US debt obligations comes prior to price controls. The world’s largest powers gang up on the USA by pegging the world’s most valuable commodities to a new SDR/Bancor-like currency, whereby the reserves for said currency are equally spread around the central banks’ balance sheets around the world (with the notable exception: the USA). I see a populist debt renunciation as the primary driver of price controls, and I doubt constitutional amendments will follow to aid this debacle, but we may be in for some surprises.
This is incredibly difficult, and the "embarrassment" is quite relatable. On one side, you want this to just be a phase. On the other, you think that if you don't act now, it will only get worse. This fear induces quite a lot of anxiety.
We have witnessed close friends who have gone through similar issues with their 2-3 year olds, we have found the methodologies prescribed in these two books quite useful, and we have seen successful results with their own kids (two different families, having known them from birth to 7 years now). My wife and I are reading these now.... we are seeing small signs of spirited behavior, and want to be prepared when the storm hits. There is a fair overlap of content from universally accepted studies, but that just reinforces the methodologies used.
Read this book
https://www.amazon.com/dp/159463193X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_KH2MQZAPPGR9D6JK1B34
The Kite Runner was on the US Navy's recommended reading list for some time.
Medieval thinking meets religious fruitcakerey
No recommendations regarding the daycare, but highly recommend this book. I also have a spirited, high-energy child who struggles with transitions and this book is amazing.
Here's a book that you might want to read now because it sounds like you're going to have quite a spirited child on your hands. There are so many ways that it's a blessing but it does make life a little harder sometimes. You have to find different ways to cope with their spiritedness.
There's a very good book on just that storyline, for non-economists:
https://www.amazon.com/Mandibles-Family-2029-2047-Lionel-Shriver/dp/006232828X
Forget about Global Warming, or Zombie Invasion, or the singularity: This sci-fi is by far the worst horror tale to librights.
One of my instructors told me about with a character who has autistic traits, it's called Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese. Two links are included below for the Wikipedia biography and Amazon
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cutting_for_Stone
https://www.amazon.com/Cutting-Stone-Abraham-Verghese/dp/0375714367
My autistic brother's therapist recommended this to me for my I-suspect-ADHD son, and it's been incredibly helpful: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Your-Spirited-Child-Third/dp/0062403060 (3rd edition is updated, audible also available)
I actually know/knew a lot of what I'm reading here, but having it condensed and reiterated and feeling some sense of commiseration has been really helpful. And it has in truth helped me identify and avoid some of my own triggers.
She wouldn't call herself a conservative (while presently writing for The Spectator), but Lionel Shriver's <em>The Mandibles: A Family, 2029-2047</em> is a fun read.
The Art of Racing in the Rain. It's a fiction book which looks at the love of driving and a generally good story. It's not too long and a great thing to hammer through on a plane ride or over a weekend. The description of a hot lap is amazing.
I read a lot when I was off sick from work The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein was a roller coaster of emotion up and down, I read the whole thing in one sitting because I was so caught up in the narrative. It killed a day for me, I didn't even realise it was well past time to sleep by the time I finished.
I watched a lot of Netflix too, but it made me feel worse if I just laid on the couch for too long just mindlessly watching things I'd seen before and knew well. But if you've not seen Brooklyn Nine Nine that is definitely worth a watch.
If you like puzzles that keep your hands occupied, there are lots of puzzles and contraptions on Amazon that might help busy your hands and distract your mind.
Hope you feel better soon!
I would be remiss if I did not make a post here, if only because I have seen discussion of some of my favorites (like Terry Pratchett, Neil Gaiman, Philip K. Dick, Patrick Rothfuss, to name a few), but I haven't seen a few names that have, for better or worse, inspired me to become the writer I am today, and who would definitely make my Top 5 List...
Anne McCaffrey and Orson Scott Card.
McCaffrey, for those who didn't know her in her lifetime, was the wonderfully talented author of the Dragonriders of Pern series, and the first author to ever make me cry when reading a book. Yes, I'd been emotional before, but I wept tears of real sadness from one of her novels. Painful, hot, gut-wrenching tears. I had to put the book down. In her writing I've also felt pure rage, tender affection, and some not-so-small measures of happiness too. Her writing was, and continues to be, some of the most moving I have experienced, and I cannot recommend her highly enough.
Orson Scott Card is a name some of you might recognize from his hit novel Ender's Game, which is where I picked him up too, but you may be surprised to learn he's written a lot since then, and not all of it is Science Fiction. His mastery of the last-minute reveal puts so many others to shame, his writing is both thoughtful and engaging, and his stories interesting in their own rights. There aren't many authors I would follow down a rabbit hole about young kids going missing in a tight-knit Mormon community (Lost Boys, for those interested), but Card is one of them, and he delivers. He's not for everyone, and I get that, but he's definitely one of the best in my book (ha! puns!).
But I think that's enough for one post. Maybe I'll come back and name the other three specifically some other time. ;)
Its a variant of OCD. We all have it to some degree. My sister has to check all the door twice to make sure they are locked. Sometimes she gets out of bed to double check that she didn't leave the stove on, etc.
There a great book called:
Rules for a Knight by Ethan Hawke
Also The Moon Is a Harsh Mistress and it is excellent!
The first in what I hope will be a series of stellar Ted Chiang adaptations!
ANYONE who is into beautiful, idea-centric sci-fi will benefit from the book this is based on! http://www.amazon.com/Stories-Your-Life-Others-Chiang/dp/1931520720
It's one of the toughest decisions to make but this silly book helps me when I have to say good bye to my dog. http://www.amazon.com/The-Art-Racing-Rain-Novel/dp/0061537969. Is a fictional tale from a dog's perspective but you'll cry at the end.
I would highly recommend "Stories of Your Life and Others," by Ted Chiang. http://www.amazon.com/Stories-Your-Life-Others-Chiang/dp/1931520720
Also, "The Best Science Fiction and Fantasy of the Year," edited by Jonathan Strahan. http://www.amazon.com/Stories-Your-Life-Others-Chiang/dp/1931520720
I would highly recommend "Stories of Your Life and Others," by Ted Chiang. http://www.amazon.com/Stories-Your-Life-Others-Chiang/dp/1931520720
Also, "The Best Science Fiction and Fantasy of the Year," edited by Jonathan Strahan. http://www.amazon.com/Stories-Your-Life-Others-Chiang/dp/1931520720