Seriously....bulb enemas are your friend. Not that you HAVE to do anal, it's not for everyone, but my wife and I both love it and this $10 piece of plastic and silicon keeps us clean.
https://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-AA505-Enema-Bulb-Red/dp/B002SKG8GU
fortunately you don't need to clean your colon, just the rectum, the small portion of the colon just before the bend. just eat a lot of fiber for a few days prior and you'll be good, but if you're super anxious, get one of these.
but also, i understand why you're worried and it's fine for you to be worried, but if your boyfriend is also paranoid about this and absolutely doesn't want to get any shit on his dick, i advise you to retire the idea of anal altogether. it comes with risks, if you can't handle those risks, it's not for you.
Ohh they don’t make mine anymore but this is similar. Cleanstream Silicone Comfort Nozzle Enema Attachment https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00767NASE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_xLZMDbQ8DWZZQ The great thing about it is it cleans you out from the top down. Much faster and more through then shallow enemas. My doc recommended trying it.
I use the CleanStream shower system. It's quick and easy and have only run into problems maybe 2 or 3 times ever, but that's because I was in a hurry and wasn't paying attention to how much water I was putting inside me.
Yes a high fiber diet should keep you fairly clean but for me it's a psychological thing. I feel better knowing that I am clean as a whistle, which allows me to be present and focus on pleasure, not poop.
Link to the shower system I use: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002FCN7Y2/ref=redir_mobile_desktop?_encoding=UTF8&aaxitk=b013722e3a57cd5115e49e15000d6ea9&hsa_cr_id=4655777310701&pd_rd_plhdr=t&pd_rd_r=0b76a952-1ef6-4f9c-ac5c-87ae0ebd4a53&pd_rd_w=kzHZz&pd_rd_wg=fT1wR&ref_=sbx_be_s_sparkle_td_asin_0_title
I don't bottom much but I do have this shower attachment that has never failed me when I was in that type of mood. I think the problem with most guys is they think that more water is better - but it's not. You're only trying to clean the first portion of your rectum. If the water goes up into your intestines, it will trigger more than you've bargained for at that point. A little water a few times until it comes out clear and that's it.
Get this one, it’s way better than the hospital bottles! Made a big difference for me, along with padsicles (FridaMom also makes some of these, if you don’t want to make your own) and Dermoplast!
You use a kit like this. Do it in the shower and and release in the toilet bowl
Here is one on Amazon
Beauty Molly Anal Douche Superior Medical Materials Douche for Women Men enemas Bulbs, 7 Ounce https://www.amazon.com/dp/B016Q1EQ24/ref=cm_sw_r_sm_apa_fabc_K41693E7YMWM0QR3F2HY?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Get a douche hose attachment that you can attach to your shower head. make sure it has a splitter that way you can disable it whenever you want to take a normal shower. You are correct with eating light. It's important to anticipate sex a good day or so ahead of time. Start off with lukewarm water then work your way to cold. Cold water is important because it does not constrict/get stuck in your tubes. And be sure to watch the pressure of the water that you use. Too high of pressure will hurt your insides. I like to use toys when I'm douching so just in case water does get trapped inside of me it also helps loosen you up. After you believe you are finished take yourself a good 30 to 35 minute break then go back at it again just to double-check and make sure you don't have any surprises. In all honesty it's best to do this two hours before intercourse. That way you are fully prepared and getting back to your diet watch the food and take and what exactly you do and take you don't want to drink a liquid or food that will give you an immediate bowel movement such as coffee, or milkshakes. I know I'm reading to some bottoms that actually helps them with starting process. Even though I am not sexually active anymore I myself douche at least twice a day. One in morning before work and second after work. It keeps me feeling clean. I hope this helps good luck. Here's a link to an Amazon website with douche hose and attachments https://www.amazon.com/GNEGKLEAN-Bathroom-Handheld-Shower-Cleaning/dp/B07PKB2TYC
I just watched a Baby Registry youtube video and the woman shared that they make these little mini, handheld bidet doohickies that are perfect for bathroom hygiene postpartum. I'll do a quick search and see if I can link it. Definitely planning on picking one up closer to my due date
Here it is: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TXLZ8MR/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_9WCBMWZW6A4WG2H34FHR
I go once every morning, sometimes again later if I eat a lot.
I bought this shower attachment (haven't used yet). Should I get a longer wand attachment? Not sure if it matters if I just hold the water in long enough such that it flows up into the colon or if I need to actually get the attachment to go up to the colon.
A lot of stuff on Amazon can be found cheaper on Ebay. I pay @ $1 for acceptable quality panty hose, a little more for crotchless pantyhhose. My fav panty style, Vanity Fair String Bikini Panties Illumination 18108, can be found cheaper on Ebay. Don't be afraid of Chinese vendors; they're all over Amazon as well, and generally speaking as honest as any vendor - it just takes a longer delivery time.
For those who can’t/don’t want to alter their plumbing I suggest the portable bidet or “peri bottle”. I had surgery on my butt a few years ago and had to use this afterwards because wiping was so painful. I still use it to this day because it is 100000x more clean and pleasant and I can control water temp etc. it has changed my life for the better!!!
I use this one but if you search portable bidet or peri bottle you’ll find tons of options.
Eat a lot more fiber than you think you need and this
Reading this, it very much reminded me, of, well, me, including the conflicting recommendations :-)
For example, I had exactly this problem "'Ive done enemas with a bulb and it seems like every time it takes over an hour of filling myself up and emptying out before the water runs clear. " And it is certainly a mood killer, to say the very least. And further, according to some sources, a simple wipe is all that is needed but this would NEVER work for me (perhaps because we go at it pretty hard..not sure).
Anyhow, I tried enemas with bulbs, different positions, holding the water longer, and really nothing seemed to work consistently. And even when it did, I was worried that there would be a mess which, again, is certainly a mood killer. This was unfortunate because I really love getting pegged hard (really hard).
After much searching, and at one point almost calling it quits, I decided to go "all in" and pushed my chips to the center of the table so to speak. By this, I am referring to a shower enema (I have this one: https://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-LE776-Shower-Enema-System/dp/B002FCN7Y2)
At first, the thought seemed a bit much and quite involved. But let me tell you, it has been an absolute game changer. I quite literally hop in the shower, and am completely cleaned out in about 5 minutes (on average). I have been doing this for about 6 months, and not only has there never been a mess, the pegging itself has felt even better. I think this is mostly psychological, in that I can completely give in to the experience and enjoy.
(I will also take fiber as well, which seemed to help, but the game changer was the shower enema).
Prep and protection. I don't recommend going from zero to penis if you don't have much experience down there. Try not to eat too much leading up to fun time but definitely include lots of fiber in your diet. Makes prep work easier if you have something like this. A lube launcher and a cute butt plug to warm up with aren't bad ideas either. If pain is a problem down there you could try numbing cream or poppers but I don't recommend them for the inexperienced. There's potential to do harm with numbing cream and poppers just aren't good for you.
Use plenty of lube. Sliquid Sassy is a thick water based lube gear to anal play. Continued practice will help your body adjust. A shallow enema could also help. An enema bulb would be all you need. Something like the one at the link.
Hi! 🙂 Certain medications can be really bad for sex drive. That's why so many girls go with monotherapy or E with progesterone, to have better odds of keeping their sex drive and functionality if it isn't a huge source of dysphoria. If you had a good sex drive before hrt? Maybe it's worth considering. If not? Maybe you lean more to being an Ace? It took me decades to realize I lean that way and to be ok with it. It's totally valid. Satisfying intimate relationships are still totally doable as an Ace. As far as the bottom stuff? If you can, go see a proctologist. Depending on the cause of your pain down there, doing away with it may be totally possible with some time and effort. When I used to play down there I found this, a lube launcher and wearing a plug for a bit to warm up a big help. Yeah the prep can be a bit annoying for sure. I found eating lots of soluble fiber helped make prep easier. That and poppers 😅 but I don't recommend those, they're not good for you. You could also try 5% lidocaine cream down there 15 minutes before doing anything but you have to be careful doing that, it's easier doing damage by accident with stuff being numb down there.
Anyway, I hope some of this helps you out. 💖💕
Get hubby a Peri bottle for the other bathroom.
Yes. A green garden hose, butt naked, in the front yard, in front of the neighbors. 😂😂😂😂😂
Of course not. I use one of these.
It’s rough traveling without one. But TMI, I bring a travel one with me! It works great! It’s not as great as a real one but your travels are better with it than without.
Cynpel Peri Bottle for Postpartum Essentials, Feminine Care | The Original Portable Bidet, Hemmoroid Treatment… (1 Count (Pack of 1), Blue) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B081ZH2XHB/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_RADCWWRZD91E6K7ANCDF
Get one of these from your local drug store or Amazon. Flush 3-5 times depending.
I wouldn’t eat for several hours before. I prefer pegging in the late morning as I’ve already fasted overnight.
Buy some psyllium fiber and take it everyday. Double the amount the day before pegging.
If you’re going to play with the back door shit happens, but it should be a brown drop or two of (mostly) lube.
hahahahahahahahaha - bought this half an hour ago: https://www.amazon.com/Beauty-Molly-Superior-Medical-Materials/dp/B016Q1EQ24/ref=sr\_1\_2\_sspa?keywords=anal+douche&qid=1648354919&sr=8-2-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEzVFdHT09WTFZVVlBFJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMDIwMjAxMU1...
One, 2 if the first one moves something, of a bulb enema at most and I'm good to go. https://www.amazon.com/Beauty-Molly-Superior-Medical-Materials/dp/B016Q1EQ24/ref=psdc_3760941_t2_B002SKG8GU 10 minutes at most. Truth is, shit happens, literally. Especially when it's spontaneous sex. Anyone phobic about a little shit on their dick probably shouldn't be having anal sex. Been having butt sex for 40+ years and even a little poop hasn't happened that often.
Cleaning isn’t mandatory, just depends on how much shit you’re willing to put up with🧐🤪
Some say a diet with lots of veggies, less meat and fat and junk food, and a daily addition of psyllium husks for fiber is enough to keep things pretty clean.
I use a simple enema bulb, and can be clean in about 10 minutes.
RANEU Enema Bulb Kit with Lube Anal Douche Superior Materials Douche for Men Women Made of Comfortable Material (Black) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XHGQZX8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_SP78F3QWECJ25H6NNW6Q
Also available at your local drug store..
Enjoy🤩
They have it an Amazon for cheaper Cynpel Peri Bottle for Postpartum Essentials, Feminine Care | The Original Portable Bidet, Hemmoroid Treatment… (1 Count (pack of 1), Blue) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B081ZH2XHB/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_X4JEEXZ5P26N42D639XA
https://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-LE776-Shower-Enema-System/dp/B002FCN7Y2
Bought this enema hose thing to use in the shower. Put the beak inside you, turn on the warm water, fill your insides up, shit everything out, repeat until the water comes out clean.
I have one of these that I use daily when not using my shower setup. https://www.amazon.com/RANEU-Superior-Materials-Comfortable-Silicone/dp/B07XHGQZX8/ref=sr_1_5?crid=15ZODKCLYHSCI&keywords=enema%2Bbulb&qid=1644525595&sprefix=enema%2Bbulb%2Caps%2C92&sr=8-5&th=1 remember you are not trying to fill your colon up with water just to give it a quick rinse. 2 squirts are usually enough to get me 99% clean.
RANEU Enema Bulb Kit with Lube Anal Douche Superior Materials Douche for Men Women Made of Comfortable Material https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XHGQZX8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_RXQ0AE19FFTF13BRVYXP You can buy an enema kit on Amazon for under 20 bucks. We use this after we drop then shower and shave our bits. By the time we’re done we’re ready for playtime….