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It's the article Why Women Had Better Sex Under Socialism by Kristen R. Ghodsee, which explains the reasons why women had better sex under socialism. She also wrote a book on this subject.
Norah Vincent interview for anyone who's curious. Skip to 9:25 if it doesn't do so automatically. The interview was about her experiences while writing "Self Made Man".
Why Men Earn More - The Startling Truth Behind The Pay Gap and What Women Can Do About It - Warren Farrell
ISBN - 0814472109
edit - I forgot a source for gender bias in education.
It was the late Christopher Hitchens who first taught me about the inhumanity of Mother Teresa, though I'd watched a lot of clips of his I haven't read his book, The Missionary Position.
What does it mean to be a wretched person? Maybe it means to be someone who feels no greater joy than watching another suffer unto death, just to feel the satisfaction of being there, when in all their desperation and without basic respite, accepting your religion on their deathbed.
By her own accounts she watched nearly 30,000 people come through her doors, and with broken empathy managed to convince them that their suffering only brought them closer to god. I'd like to know how anyone came to the conclusion that this woman was worthy more than anybody else of earning a Nobel peace prize.
Well, Mother Theresa is an expert on the subject. She left humans in her care to die in pain, denying them medical care and antibiotics. Her policies led to deaths from untreated injuries and diseases in the filthy, poorly managed hospices she ran (The Missionary Position: Mother Teresa in Theory and Practice https://www.amazon.com/Missionary-Position-Mother-Teresa-Practice/dp/1455523003/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&qid=1473084988&sr=8-1&keywords=hitchens+mother+teresa&linkCode=sl1&tag=chitch-20&linkId=58b39e60ab5d4a6a041d265dc54c8221)
Christopher Hitchins had quite a bit more to say about her; she cozied up to the Duvalier family who ran Haiti as a savage dictatorship for years and considered Charles Keating (disgraced savings and loan executive who bankrupted hundreds of elderly retirees when his pyramid S&L investment bank collapsed due to his greed and mismanagement) as her good friend.
She also opposed contraception and compared contraceptives to abortion, even though India women begged for them so they wouldn't be forced to give birth every year.
> I understand a frustration with rigid, societal gender roles.
OK, but please understand that that's not what gender identity is about.
Suppose we tell you, "We're going to transform your body to female, and that's how everybody is going to see and relate to you for the rest of your life. But don't worry! We're not saying you have to be feminine! You can be as masculine as a woman as you like! But you have to be a woman."
I don't think you'd be cool with that. Possibly a few people have a lot of built-in gender flexibility and could roll with that punch. A lot more people think they could handle it, but in reality probably could not - Nora Vincent thought she could, for example, and almost lost her mind, even though her change was only outward/social and not bodily.
Hummm...não tenho ideia, mas vou chutar do meio do campo.
Tem o caso de uma mulher lésbica que se disfarçou como homem e viveu 18 meses assim. Ela tem uns insights bem interessantes e inclusive teve uns dates com mulheres. Para ela, em termos de relacionamentos e sedução, o papel do homem é MUITO mais difícil que o da mulher. O homem precisa se provar e há todo um tipo de pressão para seduzir, enquanto que para a mulher o papel é muito mais simples.
Eu concordo em boa parte com isso. Atravessar uma sala e abordar uma mulher que você acha extremamente sexy e que tem um sorriso bonito e tal é extremamente difícil e aprender isso é um caminho longo e repleto de frustração. Por isso, por exemplo, que você vê muito nerd masculino virjão, e muito menos mulher na mesma situação, e por isso que pipocam tópicos do tipo "como chegar na crush" partindo de homens, e não de mulheres.
Ter sexo com frequência é muito mais fácil pra mulher, no final das contas, e acredito que um cara que é bi mas que é socialmente morto pode acabar "migrando" pro outro lado, talvez por ser mais fácil e se sentir mais realizado sendo desejado, seja da forma que for.
Como eu falei no início, é um chute do meio do campo e nada impede que eu tenha isolado a bola do estádio.
Bi and recently came out as trans. Though you might not be trans, it's absolutely possible. It's good to spend some time thinking about it and explore different identities. Even if you are cis it's good to educate yourself about the stories of others and different identity possiblies. The book "You and Your Gender Identity" by Dara Hoffman-fox helped me out a bunch in figuring it out, though I definitely new before..
regarding the non-penis portion of your post. there was a book by norah vincent called Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man. i haven't read the book, just norahs explanation of it. basically, she spent a year dressing and acting like a man. but, she had to quit because she became suicidal as a result of it. so, this isn't a thing for cis women. some may say they want to do it, but they really don't because they don't do it. and if they were to try it, they would wind up like norah.
the difference here is that you are expressing your desire that you are or might be a man for many reasons, and part of it is not feeling female. that's very different than saying you want to be a man for male privilege. i guess the point i am trying to say is, is that your feelings aren't equally comparable to cis women. try asking that question and ignoring the privilege part. would you arrive at the same conclusion?
One book that really resonated with me and my own experiences was Julia Serano's <em>Whipping Girl.</em> There's a lot of stuff that critiques feminism and talks about how masculinity and femininity are treated in society, but for you the most interesting parts will probably be her personal anecdotes. The most important thing you can take away from it is that everyone has a radically different experience.
When did your character realize they were transgender? When and how did they transition? How supportive or hostile was their environment, and how did they feel about themselves? Keep in mind that being transgender affects so many parts of your life, but in the end it is only one part of you. Trans people are people, just like everyone else, and we come in all different types and flavors. We can be introverts or extroverts, kind or cruel, insightful or oblivious, artists or accountants, saints or sinners. Figure out who your character is, who the playwright has written her as and how you are interpreting her, and then figure out how being a transwoman has shaped and influenced her. And after you've done that, I would go to your trans friends and ask if your interpretation has any unrealistic or offensive stereotypes. I can't imagine them being upset if you're sincere and coming from a place of respect. And if you don't feel comfortable, you can always ask reddit.
Anyone who enjoyed this talk will be delighted to hear that Cordelia has a book out called Delusions of Gender, which is excellent and, redundantly, has made a lot of men very upset.
The Missionary Position: Mother Teresa in Theory and Practice
Is a great book by - Christopher Hitchens
This book really helped me a lot, but as a beginning step you can give some time to brainstorming or looking up things you’d like to try and then trying them. I started with shaving my legs (which felt incredible even though I cut them up something fierce) and buying some long socks. I moved on to buying some jewelry and dresses, then clean-shaving my face, and have loved every step (just bought a skirt, some sports bras, unisex converse shoes, and a few cute tops). Of course what you do will change depending on what you’re looking for and what you’re interested in.
I’d also recommend a gender therapist if you don’t have one yet because having someone to talk to who can help you sort your thoughts and give an experienced outside perspective is amazing.
Good luck! We’re all rooting for you to find yourself whoever that may be ☺️
(copy and pasted my answer from another question much like your own, I feel like this was good enough to say again)
Here's what helped me when I asked that question.
- think about all the hate and vitriol aimed at the transgender community, including all the legislation that seeks to erase us from existence.
- think about all the expense, time, and painful recovery from surgery.
- ask yourself who would sign up for this if they were not in fact transgender
- ask yourself if you are willing to endure all this in order to feel like yourself.
I think that may help. If you need further help on the subject, I would consider seeing a therapist who is knowledgeable in trans related issues. Also, if you don't want to go quite that far may I sugest a book that is currently helping me sort this stuff out. I'll post the link to the Amazon site, but you can get it other places. It's called "You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery" by Dara Hoffman-Fox. They are a non-binary gender therapist working out of Colorado and also doing YouTube videos on the subject. I highly recommend watching a few. Again they were a big help.
Amazon link to book-https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1510723056/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05__o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Here's the Amazon link. It is illuminating reading. I'm not saying I agree with everything she had to say, but I will say that as a man, it was stunningly refreshing to see someone else acknowledging that male life has entire classes of difficulties that aren't even on most women's radar.
King, Warrior, Magician, Lover
It talks about the 4 archetypes of masculinity, the importance of rituals from boyhood to manhood, and the immature versions of each masculine archetype during the two stages ( boyhood and manhood ).
The main take away is that "in the present crisis in masculinity we do not need, as some feminists are saying, less masculine power. We need more masculine power. But we need more of the mature masculine." The end result is that build up these archetypes in ourselves.
- The Warrior - control of the mind and body.
- The Magician - intuition and knowledge.
- The Lover - love, duty, and having a passion for living.
- The King - Role 1) providing order, Role 2) providing fertility and blessing. ( Helped me better understand why the roles and duties of leader are what they are )
It helped support my individuality and how to overcome some of my insecurities. Some being understanding that as much as I like boxing I'm considerate enough to not punch as hard as I could ( Warrior and Magician ) to silly things like being okay to order fruity drinks ( Lover ).
There's tons more in the book for its size. It's my number 1 recommendation every time.
Constitutional. Chad's just going to catch a dozen STDs and die in a bar fight before he's 30, like the Bourbons did.
I'd be happiest with a system that was close to the US, but with a king instead of a president and a bit more decentralization of power. But I think that even a crowned republic is better than an uncrowned one; Jung believed implicitly, Lewis explicitly, that a country is happiest with a king.
She was a monster. She fetishized suffering, and was the cause of so much of it that it's unfortunate that there's no hell for her to suffer in. Although she probably would love it.
The Missionary Position: Mother Teresa in Theory and Practice by Christopher Hitchens
Everyone has issues in their lives on multiple fronts. Trans men have issues around being biologically female, being trans, AND being men. Since they experience discrimination because they are men, they need to be included in men's rights. Not only that, but since they have lived experiences as both female and male they can be powerful allies in the quest for gender equality. Norah Vincent's book about going undercover as a man for 18 months is a great read. I've read similar much shorter stories from trans men that give a unique perspective on male/female experience that most people never get.
https://www.amazon.com/Self-Made-Man-Womans-Year-Disguised/dp/0143038702
Yup, read it all (fellow rambler here).
You bring up a lot of interesting points that definitely warrant a deeper look. Some of them resonate with me, but I’m still early in my questioning journey, so I can’t help with what they mean. I can however recommend a resource: https://smile.amazon.com/You-Your-Gender-Identity-Discovery/dp/1510723056
There's no ultimate test - you have to go through the introspection work and come to peace with yourself. I can recommend a book that's helping me (I've been questioning for a month now): https://smile.amazon.com/You-Your-Gender-Identity-Discovery/dp/1510723056/
I'm currently going through gender questioning at 46, and I've read of others doing so in their 60's, so you're not alone. I found this book to be very helpful:
https://smile.amazon.com/You-Your-Gender-Identity-Discovery/dp/1510723056/
Naturally, we can't tell you which you are, and I'm afraid I don't know the right questions to ask myself. Talking with a gender therapist would be excellent, and I found a lot of value in this book: https://smile.amazon.com/You-Your-Gender-Identity-Discovery/dp/1510723056/
I'm still in the questioning phase myself (and at 46). So far, I've figured out I'm not the male I was assigned at birth, but what I am is still on the other side of introspection and investigation.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Congratulations on sharing all this, I know it's hard.
No one but you can figure out who you are, but you don't sound like you're faking it (a very common concern). "Always knew" is the most well-known story, but not the most common story. Working with a therapist, especially a gender therapist, is recommended. I personally got a lot of value of working through this book: https://smile.amazon.com/You-Your-Gender-Identity-Discovery/dp/1510723056/
*hugs* and good luck on your journey!
> wave of guilt and shame (all directed inwardly
> recommendations of useful sources, blogs, books, articles, etc. that maybe helped them come to terms with their identities
A book I found super useful to reassure me that internalised guilt and shame were mainstream, what the origins and causes were, etc, was: Julia Serano "Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity", second edition, 2016.
Hope this might be useful for you!
There's a great book about "growing up with an immature mentality". It was written in the 70s and still so relevant: https://www.amazon.fr/King-Warrior-Magician-Lover-Rediscovering/dp/0062506064. Let me know if you'd like a TL;DR :-)
Such as hours worked, pay rises, promotions, agreeableness, hard work, maternity leave etc.
That delves into the reason why which eliminates the pay gap
He didn't try to rape them at all. The women were making it up. Stop believing what your feminist allies tell you to believe. You only view this place as sexist because it doesn't go along with your narrative
I'm not saying that. I'm saying that women are more likely to take time off which is a variable
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Why-Men-Earn-More-Startling/dp/0814472109
It is. Your mental gymnastics aren't going to work here
> Which opportunities does she have specifically because she is a woman
- Waitress- it is much easier to get a waiting job as a female than a male. There are many restaurants that only hire women for this position.
- Clerical work- most front desks in offices want a non-threatening looking woman.
- Women's clothing and beauty stores- the majority of clothing and beauty retail space is for female clothing. They make it very clear that only women need apply for those positions.
- Stripping
- Marrying a man and living off of him.
- Patreon, Twitch, OnlyFans, Youtube other websites.
OP really does have a lot of opportunities as a 23 year old woman, even if she's only a 5/10, she has opportunities. She really just has to omit her law degree from her applications, and I'm pretty sure she'll get something.
> I would swap my life as a woman anytime against that of a man. I would not have been raped, I would not have people shoving me their biases in the face everywhere I go online,
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. If you really want to know what life is like as a man from a woman's perspective, then read this book. "Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man." She finds out pretty quickly that being a man sucks.
https://www.amazon.com/Self-Made-Man-Womans-Year-Disguised/dp/0143038702/
When I am around men? Almost never. When there are no men [1] around? Plenty of times.
> what is the best way for me to respond to his tears? how can i best comfort and support him without making him feel emasculated or weak?
Hold him when he cries. Don't say anything [2].
What can cause me to cry? There are movies and passages in books (an example of a book that can reduce me to tears is "Self Made Man").
I don't know about your guy [3], but as I was growing up, crying was a total failure of masculinity. Even my girlfriends would beat the shit out of me.
Notes:
1 - Other than myself, and I don't always consider myself one despite chromosomes, hormones and genitals.
2 - Other than something like "I love you" or "it is OK, I love you."
3 - I am probably your dad's age, if not older than your dad. Fuck you, my beard is grayer than his.