This comes from the video, "Why girls become boys," which is filled with entirely false claims about transitioning and transgender people. If you are trans or think this video would be triggering to you... IT WILL. PLEASE do not watch. This is one of their worst videos on sex and gender.. I can't believe people actually believe this? At the end of the video, the woman speaking says it's okay to disagree with your child's gender identity and take away their social media because "you're the adult."

The woman interviewed was Abigail Shrier, who wrote a book called "Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters."

I know you said you don’t want advice, but take a look at The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World. You’re not only not alone, you’re surrounded by men just like you, dealing with the past.

Here’s a blurb: > The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out,” but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger—a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide.

They know well that trans men exist and thinking they don't is exactly what they want. Their transphobia against trans men is one of the primary ways they masquerade as feminism.

They know that harassing trans women is, ultimately, a dead end. It doesn't further their ends of extermination (And don't be fooled, that's their end goal). But it does distracts activists really well.

They further their ends by poisoning the well of public opinion using trans men, claiming that patriarchal society has forced tomboys into becoming men. They use the language of feminism, but they subvert it's meaning, in order to trick the public into believing that they are feminists.

While people are focusing on the online harassment campaigns against trans women, TERFs are publishing books about (CW: transphobia) trans men.

Trans men are intentionally targeted quietly by TERFs while they loudly target trans women, in order to divide and conquer, without even having to sow division.

They know exactly who trans men are. They're pretending not to so they fly under the radar.

I sure hope they're not a history teacher. Maybe email them this link.

https://www.amazon.com/Gay-New-York-Culture-1890-1940/dp/0465026214

Homosexuality used to be far more open, and acceptable with certain caveats, until the Lavender Scare.

The book in question is:

IRREVERSIBLE DAMAGE: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters

It's a #1 Best Seller in LGBT Demographic Studies. (According to Amazon). See it for your self <strong>here</strong>.

I wasn't really interested in seeing what this is about, to be honest, I mean, live and let live, as long as no one is hurting someone else, let them live their lives as they want to, however they want to; but now with all the drama, I'd like to read this to see how much of it is total nonsense or not.

> the source of those claims are in the book: https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters/dp/1684510317

I'm not going to buy a book to try and find a source. Can't you just link the source, since you clearly know it. (After all, if you don't know the source, why are you trusting the claim.)

>for your first objection, i'm aware there might be a bias with parents, but the analogy you raise doesn't really make sense. the parents are not making an unfounded scientific claim about causation. they are giving a descriptive account of the behavior that they see in their kids.

And if you go looking at anticvax websites, you'll find that all the parents will claim that their kid became autistic right after the vaccine.

Bias is not just a possibility with the way this study was structured, it is guaranteed.

Honestly, I don't mind. It sucks that trans women receive so much of transphobia, but it's not like I want my AFAB siblings to receive more. We'll hold the line lol. Whenever they do talk about you it's pretty awful.

I actually get about 10 times more mad when people are transmisandrist tbh. Transmisogyny? Eh, just another day. This book? Absolutely fuming.

What comes to mind is The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs.

From the Amazon page, >The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out,” but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger—a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author’s own journey, and the stories of many of his friends and clients, Velvet Rage addresses the myth of gay pride and outlines three stages to emotional well-being for gay men. The revised and expanded edition covers issues related to gay marriage, a broader range of examples that extend beyond middle-class gay men in America, and expansion of the original discussion on living authentically as a gay man.

Take it with a grain of salt, of course, as it may be a little dated and it does not dissect every personality trait and life situation, but I think it has some conversational value.

Wow, a whole two employees! Very newsworthy, NBC.

I don’t see what so bad about the book in all honesty. It’s to be expected that there’d be some pushback

Bi and recently came out as trans. Though you might not be trans, it's absolutely possible. It's good to spend some time thinking about it and explore different identities. Even if you are cis it's good to educate yourself about the stories of others and different identity possiblies. The book "You and Your Gender Identity" by Dara Hoffman-fox helped me out a bunch in figuring it out, though I definitely new before..

I looked this up at Amazon. It omits the anti-LGBT passages.

"You can’t choose your sexuality, but you can choose Jesus. Now you can choose a Bible, too. " *cackle* Hell yeah.

https://www.amazon.com/Queen-James-Bible-God/dp/0615724531

One book that really resonated with me and my own experiences was Julia Serano's <em>Whipping Girl.</em> There's a lot of stuff that critiques feminism and talks about how masculinity and femininity are treated in society, but for you the most interesting parts will probably be her personal anecdotes. The most important thing you can take away from it is that everyone has a radically different experience.

When did your character realize they were transgender? When and how did they transition? How supportive or hostile was their environment, and how did they feel about themselves? Keep in mind that being transgender affects so many parts of your life, but in the end it is only one part of you. Trans people are people, just like everyone else, and we come in all different types and flavors. We can be introverts or extroverts, kind or cruel, insightful or oblivious, artists or accountants, saints or sinners. Figure out who your character is, who the playwright has written her as and how you are interpreting her, and then figure out how being a transwoman has shaped and influenced her. And after you've done that, I would go to your trans friends and ask if your interpretation has any unrealistic or offensive stereotypes. I can't imagine them being upset if you're sincere and coming from a place of respect. And if you don't feel comfortable, you can always ask reddit.

This book really helped me a lot, but as a beginning step you can give some time to brainstorming or looking up things you’d like to try and then trying them. I started with shaving my legs (which felt incredible even though I cut them up something fierce) and buying some long socks. I moved on to buying some jewelry and dresses, then clean-shaving my face, and have loved every step (just bought a skirt, some sports bras, unisex converse shoes, and a few cute tops). Of course what you do will change depending on what you’re looking for and what you’re interested in.

I’d also recommend a gender therapist if you don’t have one yet because having someone to talk to who can help you sort your thoughts and give an experienced outside perspective is amazing.

Good luck! We’re all rooting for you to find yourself whoever that may be ☺️

(copy and pasted my answer from another question much like your own, I feel like this was good enough to say again)

Here's what helped me when I asked that question.

1. think about all the hate and vitriol aimed at the transgender community, including all the legislation that seeks to erase us from existence.
2. think about all the expense, time, and painful recovery from surgery.
3. ask yourself who would sign up for this if they were not in fact transgender
4. ask yourself if you are willing to endure all this in order to feel like yourself.

I think that may help. If you need further help on the subject, I would consider seeing a therapist who is knowledgeable in trans related issues. Also, if you don't want to go quite that far may I sugest a book that is currently helping me sort this stuff out. I'll post the link to the Amazon site, but you can get it other places. It's called "You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery" by Dara Hoffman-Fox. They are a non-binary gender therapist working out of Colorado and also doing YouTube videos on the subject. I highly recommend watching a few. Again they were a big help.

Amazon link to book-https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1510723056/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05__o00_s00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1

If you like to read, have time and also have like $20, Dr. Debra Soh talks about topics related to this in her book "The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths About Sex and Identity in Our Society."

I really enjoyed the book.

https://www.amazon.com/End-Gender-Debunking-Identity-Society/dp/1982132515

It has some very positive reviews, don't be so afraid of it.

https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters/dp/1684510317?tag=masterplayer-20

I think this falls afoul of the hippocratic oath. The primary goal or medicine is Do no harm. Transitioning after puberty is harder but no child is mature enough to make that decision clearly. We ought to default to avoiding an irreversible transition until we can be sure that its what the patient wants. An adult patient might regret not transitioning earlier but that risk is outweighed by the risk of a young child or teenager who is encouraged to make an "informed decision" that they are not capable of making.

Incidentally, Joe Rogan had author Abigail Shrier on the podcast to talk about this subject a few days ago. She wrote this book.

there's not a single species that reproduces sexually for which it's been conclusively shown that heterosexual relations are the only one. and about 1500 species for which homosexuality of some has been observed. you can always buy this book if you're curious. it's a completely normal, widespread kind of behavior.

yes, animals need to pass on their genes for evolution to work, but said animals also have to grow up. it's been shown that the single females sometimes have their young/eggs in the nest of homosexual couples who raise them (geese), animals also have gay sex to solve conflicts (dwarf chimps), to strengthen bonds (lions), or they have orgy's to resolve tension (dolphins). many animals, just like humans, have sex simply because they like doing it, and some of those prefer homosexual relations.

same sex behavior has its uses in nature, and a small gay community in any animal species is evolutionarily advantageous, or at the very least not disadvantageous, otherwise it would have been eliminated a long time ago. it wouldn't have proliferated in every single animal species.

the word "abnormal" assumes there's something wrong with it

definition: "deviating from what is normal or usual, typically in a way that is undesirable or worrying."

Shows lots of signs of social contagion. There's a great book called irreversible damage out now that is getting a lot of attention. It's written from a data driven perspective

https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters/dp/1684510317

Entryism is a hell of a thing.

Note that now that the wokeists have enough lawyers and judges in, they're trying to make the bar exam easier. I.e., they want to open the door for an infinite number of wokeist activists to claim to be lawyers.

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Edit: As an aside, I'm absolutely gobsmacked that book is available on Kindle.

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https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters-ebook/dp/B07YL6XK55

https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters/dp/1684510317

Haven’t gotten around to it yet, but the author’s interview on Rogan was a breath of fresh air.

The culture on the most popular social media sites will make you feel crazy for doubting that suddenly all of these definitely-not-attention-seeking teens are somehow swapping genders (and species, in the case of a notable Twitch personality).

I find the entire movement to be mass insanity perpetuated by a handful of quite radical folks.

I think the Natural Law theorists are to blame. However, scientific knowledge changes. What is natural now may not have been natural before.

https://www.amazon.com/Biological-Exuberance-Homosexuality-Diversity-Stonewall/dp/031225377X

The ABA walking back a promotion of an anti Trans book is hardly a “book burning”. The book is still available, with overnight delivery, from Amazon.

A book by Abigail Shrier (currently #1 bestseller) has a whole chapter on this issue. On doctors having to basically instantly agree with kids self-diagnosing and then working backwards from that conclusion in order to fit the narrative. And on repercussions what happens if doctors don’t agree.

We have lost all checks on this topic because it’s such a hot woke topic at the moment, that doctors simply won’t even fight anymore as they will get called a transfobe if they doubt a 10 year old’s self diagnosis.

https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters/dp/1684510317

The book in question, rated 4.5 out of 5 stars. By an actual journalist, not an activist.

https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters/dp/1684510317

In the media you hear a lot of trans acceptance and that’s trans people are real men / women just in the wrong body. Me personally , I don’t think trans should be discriminated against but it seems like we are going through “ trans mania “ right now and they are forcing it on people . I have read a lot of literally and research that many trans regret their transition and it has led to a lot of suicide , depression, life expectancy of mid 30s, and other health issues because we still are not 100% sure of the long term consequences of gender transition. How do you feel about websites like this : https://sexchangeregret.com/ Or books like this https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters/dp/1684510317

That both talk about people regretting sex change and that the increase in the number of people declaring themselves as trans dramatically increased . Do you think this kind of stuff is harmful? Have you read it? Why did you decide that you regret the transition? Have you met someone who transitioned younger but lived to be above the age of 65+?

Thank you for this AMA- I’m sure you can shed light on a different side of Trans the media doesn’t cover so much. Those who regretted it

Gay New York: Gender, Urban Culture, and the Making of the Gay Male World, 1890-1940 by George Chauncey (published 1994) describes how the word queer was commonly in use by gay men in NYC in the first half of the 20th century. Book goes into lots of depth but to summarize it had a similar meaning to "masc 4 masc" with heavy overtones of respectability politics. They held faeries and other gender deviants in the lowest regard and would throw them under the bus at any opportunity. Thought very little of women.

it's unclear to me how the subsequent "reclaiming" of queer relates to this. except that I personally associate it with affluent people. I believe it has been disseminated through elite institutions.

book is available free to read online at archive.org or buyable amazon.com. don't let the cover deceive you, it's not centered around rich white gay men as much as possible.

Great questions. There has been a rise particularly among middle school aged girls claiming gender dysphoria issues. Girls who haven’t been treated in early childhood for the mental disorder. Bisexuality is also exploding. Abigail Shrier had written on this and speaks to it a good bit.

https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters/dp/1684510317

Yup, read it all (fellow rambler here).

You bring up a lot of interesting points that definitely warrant a deeper look. Some of them resonate with me, but I’m still early in my questioning journey, so I can’t help with what they mean. I can however recommend a resource: https://smile.amazon.com/You-Your-Gender-Identity-Discovery/dp/1510723056

There's no ultimate test - you have to go through the introspection work and come to peace with yourself. I can recommend a book that's helping me (I've been questioning for a month now): https://smile.amazon.com/You-Your-Gender-Identity-Discovery/dp/1510723056/