if you hit the right spot just behind my cats whiskers he will get so relaxed he makes a kind of snoring noise
i make the same noise when my wife uses one of those scalp massagers on my head
That’s right damnit! The most masculine thing is to be perfectly confident with what you like and who you are, regardless of whether it’s “masculine” or not. Theres going to be someone who makes fun of you for anything you do. Don’t dress nicely? You’re a lazy slob. Dress too nicely? Must be gay. Enjoy wine? What a sissy. Talk about how you’d rather drink beer than wine? You uncultured redneck.
Just do you the best way you know how.
Also, have you tried one of these?
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_jMGKDb9EBZMA4
The Tingler head massager.
I was showing a friends husband and he made me stop and give her the Tingler because it felt like cheating.
I recently bought this and love it! Here's a link: LATME Electric Scalp Massager with 4 Replacement Massage Heads Portable Head Scratcher with Tissue Kneading Nodes Gifts Idea Stress Release Full Body Massage for Muscles Back Shoulder Calf Pain https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B07MKNK6BD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabc_Ynw8FbYNWQFWQ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
It makes so much sense that you'd get anxious around bedtime given that trauma! I'm really, really sorry. I have a whole nighttime routine I've constructed since I had a weird bout of unexplained insomnia - turn off screens, cup of tea, washing face/brushing teeth, constantly reading little bits of a book before going to sleep, etc. I don't mean to suggest all of that would magically fix that, but I wonder if even doing something small and kind for yourself like putting on fuzzy socks or drinking some hot cocoa or using one of those head scratcher things might help change your emotions around that time. I'm the furthest thing from a therapist, I'm just a big fan of being kind to yourself. :)
Here you go!
Because mdma makes your skin so sensitive, these scalp massagers are next to heavenly when you're rolling. It's pretty amazing even when you're just sober.
https://www.amazon.ca/Body-Back-Companys-Scalp-Massager/dp/B00383CFKO/ref=asc_df_B00383CFKO/?tag=googleshopc0c-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=335051387701&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16337170398807696558&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&a...
that thing is wonderful and gives me the chills, its like a a so-so great feeling doing it to ur self, but its next level head orgasm or headache 100% instant removal (for as long as you do it when you stop it slowly comes back lessened)
Do you ever have a bite of your favorite food, maybe a dessert, and just let it sit on your tongue and enjoy it? Or get head scritches and just enjoy it without thinking about it?
That's what I'm doing when I'm looking at my wife's face: I'm just enjoying looking at something pretty. I don't need a constant stream of inner dialogue to enjoy looking at her, any more than when I have chocolate ice cream.
Relevant: men in relationships should buy one of these things for their partners for Valentine's Day and then just run it over her scalp gently for a minute or two: https://www.amazon.com/Scalp-Massager-Heads-Relaxing-Scratcher/dp/B07K1NRN5T
This will blow you away on the come up
USAGA Head Massager Scalp Massager 20 Fingers Head Scratcher for Head Body Relaxing https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07K1NRN5T/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_F521VV6REC862WE68NA9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
For all those head scratch enthusiasts try this stupid looking thing... it’s wonderful actually
Body Back Scalp Massager, Head Scratcher, Manual Head Massager for Stress Relief, Relaxing Scalp Scratcher, Tingler for Gentle Hair Stimulation (1 Pack, Color Varies) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_NWM1XDY88W9HGTHKPJXM?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Those wire head massager thingys:
Body Back Scalp Massager, Head Scratcher, Manual Head Massager for Stress Relief, Relaxing Scalp Scratcher, Tingler for Gentle Hair Stimulation (1 Pack, Color Varies) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_g_DJ4R7CMKWQYEZGC7SQTY
Body Back Scalp Massager, Head Scratcher, Manual Head Massager for Stress Relief, Relaxing Scalp Scratcher, Tingler for Gentle Hair Stimulation (1 Pack, Color Varies) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_V2Z096M64EE35B1VNKPS?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
This. On your head. It’s only $6 on Amazon. If you Haven’t tried it, you’re missing out. Have someone else do it to you
Body Back Scalp Massager, Head Scratcher, Manual Head Massager for Stress Relief, Relaxing Scalp Scratcher, Tingler for Gentle Hair Stimulation (1 Pack, Color Varies) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_9W9JWK15YGVQE06TNAJD?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Get you this. https://www.amazon.com/Massager-Body-Back-Company-Stress/dp/B001IHXFQK
It's fucking awesome. Works for bald heads like mine and those with full hair like my wife's. Also fun while tied up and blind folded. ;)
I purchased this to help with tension headaches / migraines - I wouldn't say it "cures" them by any means but definitely offers some much-needed relief!
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07MKNK6BD/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Argan, marula, or rose oil would be luxurious massage. If you have a Trader Joes near by they will carry at least one of them for a good price. Or do a search for any natural stores nearby, there's a good chance they'll have it for cheaper prices than buying from a beauty store. As for a massage tip you could purchase those popular stone massage tools like this Ulta facial roller. Pop it in the fridge for a more invigorating massage. For head you could purchase the metal pronged scalp massager too. If you're in the US and have a TJMaxx, Marshalls, or Ross check their beauty section since these tools are cheaper there.
These are made to use on dry or wet hair, even in the shower! I believe it depends on the type. Can also help stimulate hair growth.
It's not something that I miss in the way that some others do but I find that sleeping with a body pillow helps with the cuddling thing. I also find myself touching myself gently in non-sexual ways (rubbing my own neck, rubbing my own feet). Before the pandemic, my best friend and I always made sure to hug each other when we saw each other.
I have heard these are really good. I love the sensation of someone brushing my hair or petting me and I've heard these simulate it.
https://www.amazon.com/Massager-Body-Back-Company-Stress/dp/B001IHXFQK
Bought this this scalp massager thing on Amazon. It is usually under $5, and was $4.50 when I got it. I think it's just up a few bucks because of holiday sales.
Such a minor thing but it really made a difference when I was too overwhelmed to wash my hair and didn't have the energy to scrub the layers of grease from my hair and scalp that had built up because I hadn't been showering periods at a time. The dirtier I felt the less I wanted to even attempt and part of that was feeling like I couldn't get my hair completely clean just using my fingers at that point anyway.
It made showering easier and made feeling like showering made a difference when my brain was telling me there was no point.
Sure.
Get one of these. (This is an overpriced one, should be able to find them significantly cheaper)
USAGA Head Massager Scalp Scratcher 20 Fingers Head Scratcher for Head Body Relaxing https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07K1NRN5T/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabt1_MulSFbBAJGS2F
So it’s not sold for this purpose NECESSARILY, but I have great results when I scrub it into my scalp with a silicone scalp massager. It’s a lemon hair rinse.
Something about the acidity I guess is very soothing and ph balancing for me.
It has helped me with both scalp buildup AND it somehow also remedies dryness/irritation much better than any greasy old moisturizer. I should note that I have used specific scalp masque/treatments before, and I was not as satisfied with them as I am with this product.
* The instructions say to use it after conditioner, but I have much better results using it between shampoo and conditioner.
If you don’t want to try this, I’d also suggest lurking around the curlygirl sub or looking on curlygirl forums and blogs. Nobody knows hair/scalp health better than girls with curly hair. They’re basically hair magicians.
One of these head scratchers: https://www.amazon.com/Massager-Body-Back-Company-Stress/dp/B001IHXFQK)
It may sound silly but I smile and giggle every time someone uses it on my head. It literally gives you a brain-gasm.
I love it. The cat loves it, too. It really feels like a light massage vs just a vibrating thing. The movement of the nodes makes it kind of "walk" along where you're massaging, making it feel even more like a massage.
LATME Electric Scalp Head... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07MKNK6BD?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
There are many others different prices and come in packs of five! I got one for Christmas and love it!!!
I've found that nice slippers or a scalp massager is a nice, general gift for women
I gave my high school boyfriend's mom some brownie brittle, she seemed pleased I even thought to get her a gift. I'm sure she'll like whatever you get her!
lol... get one of these:
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Back-Companys-Scalp-Massager/dp/B00383CFKO/
Kinda kidding, kinda not. You can't actually scratch it because its basically "static" from the nerves reconnecting, but using something like that will still feel good and probably not hurt you.
The itch lasted a few months for me, then feeling gradually came back in my scalp over a period of a few months. Not 100% back to normal around the incision site a year later, but I dunno how much sensitivity you need on the top of your scalp?
Not gonna lie, I remember doing that with one of my sister's brushes when I was a little kid. Those little nubs on the bristles felt so good on muh face!
Kinda reminds me of these things...
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Back-Company-12400000050-Massager/dp/B001IHXFQK
In recent times I've spent an hour marveling over the glorious feelings that these produce. No fucks were given.
It is some sort of scalp massager. Source: Amazon
Well it isn't. Ever used one of this head massagers before? The sensation you'll get is very simmilar. It's very, very relaxing.
They are super fun and if you're into ASMR, too, it's an incredible combinations.
Edit: We have The Tingler scalp massager: https://www.amazon.com/Tingler-Therapeutic-Scalp-Massager-Massage/dp/B0006VSX1Q
I bet for an elephant, that feels really good. Probably feels like this:
I had forgotten to find the comment thread for your video and say thanks for the awesome video. Hadn't seen any of your stuff prior to this one, but it took me about 30 seconds to subscribe.
You should try one of these, too. (Buy 3 or 4, they're somewhat fragile). They're awesome. :)
Oh yes! The head tingler. It gives me brain orgasms.
And it's right here for 4 bucks!
having to have worked black fridays in the past i know better than to buy anything today. BUT i'm really tempted to buy this http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001IHXFQK/ref=ord_cart_shr?ie=UTF8&m=A1IP6NWLSWHZ3Q posted by another redditor in some other thread
And for UK dwellers. Thanks for the heads up DigiSmackd - that's an awesome price! I just ordered mine now.