It’s hard to go from atheism to fundamentalism, especially when one has been taught basics of free thought, empiricism, and skeptical thinking. Perhaps someone could be feeling a sense of missing community or purpose, but the list of secular communities that can fill this role is rapidly growing. John is speaking from some anecdote, but I’m not sure the data backs up his claims. I think there is a much higher likelihood of a child reared in a fundamental religious household of maintaining those beliefs than in a child who is reared in a secular one.
Now, a couple book recommendations if you have the time beyond listening to podcasts. Parenting Beyond Belief and Raising Freethinkers. The two go hand in hand.
My thoughts, coming from a mixed faith marriage, are to try and raise my kids in a way to teach them to think critically for themselves. If they choose mormonism, I hope it will be a well thought out choice, and if they truly believe that is their best chance to thrive and be happy, I will support that choice, even though I disagree with so much of the religion’s belief system and cultute. Whatever they choose in life, I hope to equip them with the tools to make good, well-informed, choices that will allow them to thrive in life.
ETA: Both of these book titles also have their own podcasts that are probably worth checking out to get some additional perspectives.
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Clearly you need this because your own link literally fucking says Rosenbaum fucked kids. Also Snopes can eat a bag of dicks for writing a 1000 word dissertation to dance around the fact that all three of them had long histories of being criminals and pretending they were in the right when they all attacked a minor with varying degrees of lethal force as he was running away. While I'm here, just to make sure all the little Snopes simps come crawling out of the woodwork yet again to yell at me for daring to insult their messiah. Fuck Snopes, fuck Snopes, fuck Snopes. Come and get me you little mouth breathers, I love watching you desperately piss into the wind to defend the honor of a fucking website.
Not surprising considering how many baddies Don starkell and his kids ran into whilst paddling to the Amazon from Bronx park in Winnipeg
I do Montessori at home for my 2 under 2. I suggest to start with this book:
Montessori from the Start: The Child at Home, from Birth to Age Three https://www.amazon.com/dp/0805211128/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_XTNK5MY4ZJRP987K7C49
I can't recommend this book enough for new parents. On Becoming Babywise. My wife and I followed this book for both kids, well really just the first we got lazy on the 2nd and we still have trouble getting him to stay in bed at 4 yrs.
Except on Amazon, as you can clearly see if you did a 15 second search of amazon for the book. Here, let me help.
https://www.amazon.com/EDUCATION-8-12-year-olds-PARENTS/dp/1549718371
OMG, the ALL FAKE!!!! Book, right there for sale on Amazon.
Ok, so, the Facebook post might be fake (surprise there). I went on Amazon to check it out and it does seem to be about "how to have the talk" and keeping children safe from harm. Check for yourselves: https://www.amazon.com/EDUCATION-8-12-year-olds-PARENTS/dp/1549718371
Most likely a troll post. I regret not researching before commenting.
We bought these and have been really happy with them. First Little Readers Parent Pack: Guided Reading Level A https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0545231493/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_WGV3Y8S76D8773QPJY9D?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
The other thing we got was a magnetic board that is also erase marker. It came with all kinds of magnetic letters. Usually I make a simple word, he writes it and pronounces it. We play it like a game.
I guess it depends on where he's getting stuck. Is it individual words? IE, does he have trouble seeing C-A-T and saying "cat"? One issue I've seen at that level is trouble blending the first two letters. They'll say "Cuh-Aa-Tuh" instead of "cat." One thing that sometimes helps is blending the first two letters together before approaching the third - "Cuh" -> "Cuh-Aa" -> "Ca" -> "CaTuh" -> "Cat."
If he can read some words but has trouble with books, then try simple beginner reader books. The libraries around here have this series, which I think is great (some are a lot harder than others, though). Amazon has some similar ones, like this (I didn't like these as much, but they're decent).
Keep in mind that different fonts can trip up early readers (for instance, having the "a" with a hood, or the "g" that has a circle at the bottom", and a lot of kids books can be pretty difficult to read.
There's a great book you could check out called Parenting beyond belief'. It helps nonbelievers with these difficult questions your children may have.
Parenting Beyond Belief: On Raising Ethical, Caring Kids Without Religion https://www.amazon.com/dp/0814474268/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_C3S3H14M9DJQPY7XGRAB
As it isn't clear, I'll note that it's a book Parenting Beyond Belief.
Haven't read it myself but the reviews are decent.
If you enjoy the subject of EI, I highly, highly recommend you give Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett a read.
It’s an extremely well-written examination of EI that touches on how (Western) cultural norms affect how we process emotions (or don’t). Author is founding director at the Yale Center for EI and does a great job keeping the content succinct and relatable, while citing tons of relevant studies.
Can’t recommend it enough to anyone interested in the subject or who can benefit from improved EI (like our boy Tom here).
Trust : firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.
"I dont trust Samsung" but if you have to buy it do x.
I got you with this as well. Make sure you use my link so that i get a little kick back ;)
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0913063029/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_FSTW5ZHEN95HQGNZ0NRP
I recommend this, will really help you bring on your reading comprehension
Welcome to Reddit. Most of the time it’s a crap shoot to what you will get.
Happy to help. It takes a lot to start to open up and will be hard at first. I really do think finding someone to be able to talk with will help a lot. Anger is a second emotion and has an underlining emotion causing it. It’s important to dig deep and think, what is making me feel anger, why do I feel angry. It’s good to ask these questions for all your emotions. You start to understand where these emotions are coming from and why you feel them. Accepting that you feel an emotion is important too. Ask questions, learn, and accept and slowly you will work through each thing and know how to handle emotions when they come up again.
A book that could help as well is permission to feel . Good book on being more open with your emotions and feelings
I wish you the best again.
Welcome to Reddit. Most of the time it’s a crap shoot to what you will get.
Happy to help. It takes a lot to start to open up and will be hard at first. I really do think finding someone to be able to talk with will help a lot. Anger is a second emotion and has an underlining emotion causing it. It’s important to dig deep and think, what is making me feel anger, why do I feel angry. It’s good to ask these questions for all your emotions. You start to understand where these emotions are coming from and why you feel them. Accepting that you feel an emotion is important too. Ask questions, learn, and accept and slowly you will work through each thing and know how to handle emotions when they come up again.
A book that could help as well is permission to feel . Good book on being more open with your emotions and feelings
I wish you the best again.
I'm so sorry about your parents. This makes me feel homeschooling needs to become a lot more restricted and overseen in our country. I homeschool myself and while many homeschoolers do a good job with their kids, there's too much freedom for people to abuse or educationally neglect kids without any intervention. But I digress.
First, I recommend you get your brother some comic books. I'm not joking. Comics are a wonderful way to become motivated and learn to read. You have action pictures, shorter dialog (less intimidating to pick apart but more mature content than a reader book for little kids), and a lot of comics actually use some amazing vocabulary words as well.
If you don't have income to buy any, see if you can at least get to a library. Many libraries carry comics/graphic novels these days in the teen reader/kids sections. There are a lot of varieties so it's very likely you could find something he'd like—even if he's not into super heroes.
Second, if you have access to a tablet or smart phone, download a reading app. This may be tougher for your brother as most are geared to younger kids, but if you get him the comic books first, he will have motivation to learn. I recommend an App called Reading Raven. The narrator has a very nice voice, it's pretty easy to follow, and not buggy.
There are also good books on how to teach children to read. There's a few different types you could look up on Amazon for reviews to buy or find later at your library. We really liked this one: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0913063029/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Congrats!
I highly recommend this book for new parents. It saved my wife and I.
This sounds so much like my childhood it's scary, right down to the story about the lock. Except that my parents also sent weird emails to the head of the school telling her I'd "lied" when I didn't; tried to make me repeat a grade level at the same school; forcibly drugged me on experimental meds (stimulant amphetamines) without any diagnosis and completely on a whim, ignoring my screaming, crying and begging, which was unbelievably traumatic (ages 12.5 and 16.5, respectively); unwillingly IQ-tested me through the end of high school; sent me to a neurologist where electrodes were glued to my scalp to find out what was (in my mother's words) "wrong with me"; tricked me into attending various "appointments"; and told pretty much everyone in their lives that I was a "special needs" kid (I wasn't). All of this in addition to their regular shouting and frightening tantrums.
Also some creepy / very disturbing sexual stuff from my father.
I am in my 30s and still don't speak to them.
I wish I had some advice for you. All I can say is that it does get better. Think seriously about college and your plans for getting out. You don't have to stay in touch with them as an adult, but do try to live a good life. Success is the best revenge.
To the lack of motivation in school, you might find this book relatable.
https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Baby-Wise-Giving-Nighttime/dp/1932740139 The best gift we got at the baby shower. Had him sleeping 10 hours at 10 weeks old and 12 hours since 12 weeks old.
Therapy does help. Many therapists work on a sliding scale, so if it's an issue of cost, there are ways around that. But if for some reason you still can't go, I at least recommend the book Permission to Feel. It's written by the founder of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. He had a tough upbringing and emotionally distant parents, which led to him being under developed emotionally. It tells that story alongside his methods for understanding your own emotions. It also good into how to communicate those feelings to others, which can be incredibly difficult for some. Great read.
Work on your emotional vocabulary. This app will help you recognize and label your emotions.
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-mood-meter/id825930113
Based on this book:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250212847/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_t1_AMuTFbMTSRC9E
And you clearly can't read but that's ok! There's still hope for people like you! Just follow this link and I'm sure you'll find it will seriously improve your life.
Have a great day!
On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep https://www.amazon.com/dp/1932740139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_0khEAbHVSJA9E here is the amazon link! I started giving a nightly bath and then a bottle before bed. I did everything at the same time every night. Babywise goes into a lot of better detail and had a lot more stuff you can do. I ended up not needing to do any of what they suggested cuz my kids responded to the routine.
Canoe? https://www.amazon.ca/Paddle-Amazon-Ultimate-000-Mile-Adventure/dp/0771082568
There are many great campgrounds in Nopiming and Whiteshell park along the Winnipeg River.
Seriously though - your question has added another data point to my awareness of the challenges folks without means face. Years ago passenger trains ran from Winnipeg to places like Grand Beach. That would have been how many escape the city for the day or weekend.
We have become more technically progressive with our fancy cars, etc but the impact to mass transit (long distance buses, trains) seems to be a step back.
You should definitely read this book - Paddle to the Amazon
The guy left Canada, spent a year paddling South and made it to Brazil. You could start on the Red River and make it to the Gulf in a year.
I'm not a parent, so I haven't read it personally, but I've heard great things about Parenting Beyond Belief: On Raising Ethical, Caring Kids Without Religion
I read, well skimmed, Baby Wise and while I thought the author was kinda smug, our kid got through sleep regression in 3 days. Highly recommend Here’s the link on Amazon
On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep https://www.amazon.com/dp/1932740139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_0UqRDbT0KDYFA
What you just said just now made no sense whatsoever. If you were attempting a comeback, job well done. You proved my point.
Anyway I'm done with you. I'm not going to teach you how to read. Here's a book for that though: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-Kids-Read-Dummies-Tracey/dp/0764540432