The best Parenting Teenagers eBooks: Reddit reviews

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Long winded answer coming but yes! I didn't even realize until my most recent relationship. I've dated a good amount, was always super insecure in the relationships, and usually broke up with them before they could break up with me (even though, realistically, they probably weren't going to).

Anyway, in my current relationship in the beginning, I was doing the same thing...constantly feeling like he didn't really like me or want to spend time with me, acting okay with it and holding that deep down, and then blowing up later. I knew I was acting "crazy" and wanted to stop it, but I just couldn't. Anyway, I googled it, came across Anxious Attachment, realized it fit me to a T, bought the book "Insecure in Love" and read it, and started practicing the strategies listed. Additionally, I explained to him why I acted the way I did, sent him this link as a suggestion, and would bring up my feelings as soon as they happened instead of pushing them down. He's been really great and patient and I feel like for the most part, I'm now in a "secure" relationship. Of course I still have days where I think he's going to break up with me out of the blue, or he's annoyed by me or whatever, but for the most part, I feel much more secure due to changes we both made.

Boys and Sex.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2020/01/the-miseducation-of-the-american-boy/603046/

I wasn't amazingly impressed with the book as a whole. As someone else pointed out, it's a rather limited demographic mix (largely upper-middle class guys in America. There's a lot of lacrosse and crew and...)

And the book didn't place much of any focus on the pressures men/boys face from women. I kind of felt that the author's own POV kind of swamped the boys' voices. Your mileage may vary.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RFLTCD8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_3YUbGbSGKGF3F

https://www.amazon.com/Boys-Sex-Hookups-Navigating-Masculinity-ebook/dp/B07RFLTCD8

Peggy Orenstein’s Boys and Sex explores this topic pretty comprehensively. If you don’t want to read the book, she did a bunch of podcasts around the time of the release.

Its completely age appropriate 5yrs old is when kids start enforcing social norms. If you don’t talk about race directly society will cover it for you and you might not like what comes up. In How to not raise kids who are assholes she goes over the science behind it. You want to be direct and tell her your thoughts and feelings, the “everybody is the same lets not talk about it approach” doesn’t work.

That's tough and it may not even be the truth.

I had a bestfriend from when we were toddlers until I was in Grade 5 (he was a year older). My friend started to not want to hang out because he was going through puberty and just wanted to eat instead of 'play'. And, unfortunately I started to bully him and make fun of him at school because of it. My mom asked me one time why we didn't play anymore and I just told her he was smoking and hanging out with bad kids to stop her from asking. The thought process of a kid being that if it's something I know my mom doesn't want me doing she will be happy I'm not hanging around him.

Kids can change over time and even they don't always understand it. The key is to really listen when they talk to understand what they are getting at. And, if this is the truth from your kid's perspective he's going to be dealing with a bunch of emotions he doesn't understand. From envy of his friend having a girl to anger and frustration of losing a best-friend to loneliness as now he has to fill the hole of a best-friend with something else.

This book really helps give you a better perspective when talking with teenagers.

I don't remember if it tackles exactly what you mentioned but I've enjoyed reading How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk even though I'm not a parent (I was on a nonviolent communication tear) and thought it contained great communication advice

I just happened to see the stat that the vast majority of men in prison, and that are mass murderers, had no father in the home.

https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Crisis-Boys-Struggling-About-ebook/dp/B01N4UAA8I

Yes, I really relate to this - I think it has a lot to do with having an insecure attachment style, at least in my case. I found this book helpful: 'Insecure in Love' by Leslie Becker-Phelps.

This page has some useful techniques for dealing with stress/anxiety: Resources for Dealing with Trauma, Stress and Anxiety

I keep my partner interested by being interested in them and attentive to them. I don't really feel like I have to go out of my way though - we have similar love languages, so it just comes naturally. Learning about your partner's love languages and attachment style can help. It sounds like you might have an Anxious attachment style, and what I've found is that LDRs tend to activate anxiously attached people a lot more than regular local relationships. I'd recommend checking out this book: Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It

I'd recommend checking out the book "Insecure in Love". It's for people with an Anxious-Preoccupied attachment style: https://www.amazon.com/Insecure-Love-Anxious-Attachment-Jealous-ebook/dp/B00KBEHMJ2/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1506325595&sr=8-1&keywords=insecure+in+love

I don't have a daughter, and actually when I read this book I wasn't even married or had kids, but it was an on going tradition at my previous workplace to buy this book for a dad that was expecting a baby girl and my friend that was expecting at the time told me about it after he read it.

I think this might be something you are interested in, the book is called Strong Father Strong Daughter.

http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Happening-Body-Book-Girls-ebook/dp/B007PJZQDU

I received this around 9-10 years old. It walks a good line between conversational and clinical. It relies heavily on line drawings - illustrative, but not too detailed.