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So, telling your mom that you're something that doesn't exist ("queer", trans and now non-binary) is "beautiful"? All in 2 years. Is she going through all the labels she wrote about in her book, which she calls "super-gay"? How old is she, for crying out loud? [edit] 26? Really? Acts like 12 and sounds like 6.
Using that pollyanna personality to blog her life and get "fans". What normal person does that if they have little or no talent?
If I were her mom, I'd take her to a decent therapist and find out what issue(s) is involved in her disordered thinking. Mom already knew because she read the book that her daughter wrote:
The ABC's of LGBT+ Paperback – September 25, 2016
Mom: "Whatever."
>When it comes to intimacy and stuff, don’t really mention it.
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>If you want to be more educated then that’s cool but talking about it with your kid is a bit weird haha.
Hard disagree. I'm totally with you on offering an environment with affirmative support and love, but we're also talking about parenting, and sometimes parenting is about having awkward conversations that are still important.
Gay kids don't get sex ed. By and large, their issues aren't addressed at school or any other environment in an honest, factual way. These kids find out by experimenting, sometimes by making stupid mistakes, and occasionally by making mistakes that they'll have to deal with for the rest of their lives.
Dad, it's time to read up. You don't need to completely re-do the talk, but you need to reinforce the most important parts (condoms always) from a new perspective, and reiterate that you're available to answer questions now that y'all have a better understanding of each other. Also, consider getting some books! Even if your son isn't super excited to come to you with a particularly . . . graphic question, a good book might have the answer. There're lots of great books, like maybe this one. And consider getting this one for yourself! You don't need to know everything, but you need to be prepared to learn anything -- sounds like it'll be a great journey for the both of you!
If you don’t mind using a free trial, there’s a book on Kindle Unlimited that helped me get a little bit of a grasp on this sort of thing. And, if you read it before your trial expires, Amazon should give the author money in return! The ABCs of LGBT+ by Ashley Mardell
Eerily similar situation in my family. My wife is in her mid-40s and is kind of agnostic; she doesn't call herself queer, while also rejecting straight identities. I'm out queer and bi as of six months ago.
Last week I learned our daughter came out on a social media platform, and also thinks of herself as pansexual. Her coming out so young honestly threw me for a loop too, I think mainly because it happened so close to when I came out.
After some fretting, I came to an obvious conclusion: she too deserves the dignity and recognition that I so recently asked for. And identifying as pan may turn into being gay, or more hetero-flexible. We are getting her a queer guidebook for Christmas (we settled on LGBTQ: The Survival Guide for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Teens). But we aren't pressing her to take sides or further clarify her sexuality. I want her to have resources while also making her own decisions about who she is. Honestly, I'm more worried about her being teased once in-person schooling starts again than I am about her adopting a pan identity being a problem.
If it helps, I think being queer is just less unusual for our kid's generations. My daughter has a friend who also identifies as pan, and my wife and I have a lot of queer friends. I once asked her: what percentage of people do you think are queer? Her response: oh maybe 50%. Now must be a glorious time to grow up, compared to when we did!
I recommend “The Gender Quest Workbook: A Guide For Teens and Young Adults Exploring Gender Identity” by Testa, Coolhart and Peta.
A couple of the authors are trans psychologists. The book walks the reader through all of the confusing terms and provides a stable way to figure out gender identity. Not all of the exercises are great, but I still do some of them with adult clients! Well worth it in my opinion.
Amazon link: The Gender Quest Workbook: A Guide for Teens and Young Adults Exploring Gender Identity https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1626252971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_isUrFbNP6GHAA
My kid strongly recommends this book recommended by their therapist. https://www.amazon.com/Trans-Teen-Survival-Guide-Fisher/dp/1785923412
Instead of going to class as an objective what about develop communication skills to advocate for self. That’s general enough and may actually end up with them in class more.
I work with adults so my experience is different, we have clients identify objectives themselves. This kiddo is old enough to figure out what they need. As a bonus you can teach them how to work around systems not built for them in how you help them identify and structure an objective.
Beyond the Binary might be a good one!
I haven't used it myself but I've heard good things about this workbook for people exploring their gender! https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Quest-Workbook-Exploring-Identity/dp/1626252971?dplnkId=ab02c533-3dfc-40ac-ade3-7556f3f9bf78
No but books like this one are, which spew the same ideas.
"I am always working to understand who I am. What does it mean for me to be a light biracial Black cis female? Action takes the form of being aware and noticing injustice and checking stereotypes. It’s using my lens of anti-racism, figuring out what it is I’m seeing, and taking action.
Remaining silent is not okay. It is not an option. Black folx, Brown folx, Indigenous folx, and Folx of the Global Majority are being harmed, oppressed, and killed every day. If you are white, light (like me), or a non-Black Person of the Global Majority, use your privilege and your proximity (or closeness) to the center of the dominant culture box to fracture the very foundation of our racist society. If you keep doing this and continue to put more cracks and dents into the structure, you’ll shake it all up so it can crumble."
Also amab mid 30s here I feel the same way.
Check out the book gender quest. https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Quest-Workbook-Exploring-Identity/dp/1626252971/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?adgrpid=58913881667&gclid=Cj0KCQiAubmPBhCyARIsAJWNpiMw3kEuQKSpr1Z0UivAP2yvf9MT8fMuc1Tyn05KjlSR7XdevI-Nn0IaAoxfEALw_wcB&hvadid=274721247488&hvd...
It's made for younger folk but it helps tear down those internal transphobic walls your talking about.
Your further than me in all this.
I hope this helps.
Okay then, here's a good book I found for you off of Amazon. Have a nice day (or evening depending on where you are!)
Sounds like you are doing great.Tell your child you love them and will always be there for them, and listen. But also allow yourself time for yourself to get used to this new information. It's only been 2 hours!
My daughter came out as lesbian when she was 13. The fact she shared it with us at an early age means she felt sufficiently safe with us. We love her and were super supportive, we are also open and tolerant and have quite a few gay friends.
Despite this I have to be honest and admit that it was a surprise to us and we had to get used to the idea. As loving and tolerant as we are, this was our daughter and - as heterosexual parents - it was just not a scenario that we had imagined before. I never had an issue with it but initially I did worry a lot: will she be bullied in school, will she find love easily, will she have a more difficult life because of this etc... ?
It all worked out in the end. My daughter is amazing and doing great in life. But what did help me personally was to also read up more for deeper insights and understanding. At recommendation of a gay friend I found this book quite helpful: https://www.amazon.com/This-Book-Gay-Juno-Dawson/dp/1492617830/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=this+book+is+gay&qid=1639410640&sr=8-1
There is a significant difference between Critical Race Theory and teaching the history of racism. CRT has an inherently activist component. The American Bar Association publishes a magazine on Human Rights with a good summary of CRT scholarship. From the article:
>as many critical race theorists have noted, CRT calls for a radical reordering of society and a reckoning with the structures and systems that intersect to perpetuate racial inequality.
CRT and Anti-racist texts frequently argue for ** a radical reordering of society** and that is the part that differs from teaching a history of racism.
See for instance, Tiffany Jewell's This Book is Anti-Racist
> If you are white, light (like me), or a non-Black Person of the Global Majority, use your privilege and your proximity (or closeness) to the center of the dominant culture box to fracture the very foundation of our racist society. If you keep doing this and continue to put more cracks and dents into the structure, you’ll shake it all up so it can crumble.
There is a difference between teaching about Socialism and outright advocating for the destruction of Capitalism. That is the difference between teaching the history of racism and teaching CRT.
If you want simple (physical) literature, this book may be worth checking out:
https://www.amazon.ca/This-Book-Gay-Juno-Dawson/dp/1492617830/ref=sr\_1\_1?crid=MMQD2H4S28H4&dchild=1&keywords=this+book+is+gay&qid=1633316958&sprefix=this+book+is+%2Caps%2C176&sr=8-1
Help is out there, but this is the wrong sub! It’s for timeline pics only. Try r/MTF r/trans or r/mtfhrt . But now that you’re here…
Since you don’t have access to therapy, there’s a good book specifically written to help teens who are gender-questioning sort through their feelings. It has been helpful for lots of people, even for myself when I was first transitioning.
The Gender Quest Workbook: A Guide for Teens and Young Adults Exploring Gender Identity https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1626252971/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_a_J27ZP8WB4J14NK5XX0CE?psc=1
Also, if you just need an ally or want someone to ask questions to, you are welcome to DM me any time!
If he's shutting you out when you try to talk to him, maybe leaving a book on his bedside table might be an idea? There are shitloads of them aimed at teens and I found this one in seconds.
This Book Is Gay https://smile.amazon.co.uk/dp/1492617830/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_GAEJCCFF101B4TTMBMJV
I loved this book called 'The ABCs of Lgbt" when I came out to myself! You can buy it on Amazon and it might also be nice for you to read as parents. Also, the movie 'But I'm a Cheerleader' and gay YouTubers like AlexisandLillian, AlaynaJoy, BreanneWilliamson
Book link: https://www.amazon.com/ABCs-LGBT-Ashley-Mardell/dp/163353409X
This book, The ABC's of LGBT+, is an excellent guide to most gender identities I've heard of. There are multiple models of gender present with discussions of their advantages and limitations. The book also features interviews with people that identify with various identities as well. Very comprehensive, and they will likely find something relatable in its pages.
I’ve been working through a similar thing with my therapist. I’m not entirely sure if Im nonbinary, trans, or if it’s a different issue like body dysmorphia or something. She’s having me go through a gender workbook with her that has actually been very helpful and also just very interesting to read. It has you do some little activities and explains gender and sex and presentation and everything, and I’ve found it very useful so far. Here’s a link to it on Amazon if ur interested, there are other places that have it also (I got mine from Barnes and Noble). I defo recommend it if ur looking for a little extra help or even if ur just looking for more info on gender in general.
https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Quest-Workbook-Exploring-Identity/dp/1626252971
“The ABC’s of LGBT+”is a good book by Ashley Mardell (who has since transitioned into Ash Hardell). It gives perspective on the idea of a spectrum as well as a long list of identities
I also just found this website which has a general list
I wonder if you can try to work through a journal/workbook with your daughter to help her better understand how her ADD impacts her life. Sometimes, when you live with ADD you often don't realize that what you think or feel are not typical. This is especially difficult for teens who don't have the life experience to understand that not everyone struggles to focus or remain on task.
I have used this guide with my students and along with conversations it can help bring about some new understandings.
https://www.amazon.ca/ADHD-Workbook-Teens-Activities-Motivation/dp/1572248653
You can definitely be a mix of everything if you want, gender has no specific rules and a lot of what we consider to be "masculine things" vs "feminine things" are just social constructs.
It's also perfectly fine to be a cis-gendered man who feels like and identifies as a cis-gendered man, but wants to look like what society thinks girls look like some days. The great thing about personal identity is, is that it's personal...it's yours and you can choose to express what you feel however you want.
There are a LOT of labels out there - genderfluid, genderqueer, nonbinary, etc... A lot of people don't feel comfortable labeling themselves, but some people definitely do feel that labels can help them to better discover their identity and find community in shared experience, and either way is OK too.
I'd recommend getting a copy of the book, The ABC's of LGBT+ by Ashley Mardell - it does a really good job of examining sex, gender, and LGBTQ+ identity and might help you find some clarity.
It's on Amazon at the link above, but you might also be able to find it at your local library.
Just do your best to be a general nice person and know that there might be times you'll have to correct yourself and do so gracefully and you should be fine. The internet naturally brings out the worst in a lot of people and it is not a true reflection of the world. If you're really interested in learning more and you're not opposed to some reading I recommend taking a look at the book that helped me: The ABC's of LGBT+ by Ashley Mardell
I've heard of cinnabons, although we used to have a place in the mall... not sure if it's there anymore but it was called aunty anne's or something? Well you could buy a large cupful of cinnabite things with icing to dip them in. it's like a mouthgasm in a cup. Although I got that idea from a recipe book I had a few years ago.
EDIT: Here is the book I got it in middle school, and it's actually pretty good. The chocolate spice cake recipe is fantastic, that was a big hit at thanksgiving one year. (also, that page is practically glued shut with ingredients, lol)