Time. He needs some time without that kind of stimulation.
He needs to take it seriously as well, not masturbating without lube, only use the speed that he would have sex with, and a light touch is required.
If he's having with the light touch idea, Tenga makes a male masturbater that should provide a good buffer for a few sessions.
May I present the moby?
I’m definitely breaking out the moby for a huge cunt like that.
Edit: since apparently people like this, and y’all nasty, I’ll link the amazon page. Check out the Q&A
Also changed a few words. Y’know, for clarity.
As a guy it can be super fun to add applying a condom to foreplay.
Another thing that was helpful for me was incorporating condom adjacent toys into foreplay.
Such as a Tenga egg or a masturbation sleeve.
- Tenga Egg on Amazon
my bad, misread.
A little silver bullet can do the trick but if you really want to save up and surprise her one day try this. Comes down to preference but basically most powerful/high acclaimed "massager" on the market.
You can get them off amazon
It’s really good quality but it’s a little difficult to create. I suggest watching their YouTube video before trying!
Time to buy two of those sex machines, DIY an arduino hookup, and then write a program for it that will vary the speed of the secks and allow the computer to dom you both at the same time.
Id be interested in sponsoring your "shove a giant dildo up a facists orifice" endavour
Straddle-horsey bounce bounce dildo-matic 5000
But the truth is nearly as bad.
Love botz bangin bench extreme stool.
I like mine best.
Enjoy! I know I love mine! Money well spent. There are cheaper ones from other companies but that red bench to mount the dildos on makes all the difference in getting the angles right to hit that g spot every stroke.
Will this one do, or are you thinking about larger dildos? It comes in black though, and it will be really hard to hide it properly.
srs I do not understand the cult following of the Lelo products. they look weird, the performance is suboptimal, and they're EXPENSIVE. but then again, I'm a fan of the actual Punisher, so take my advice with several grains of salt.
Is it made for this purpose, or just happen to work out?
Edit: I think I found it, or something similar. Learn something new everyday.
Have a NSFW Amazon link. Personally I'd say it long since crossed into the "only if you're brave enough" category of potential dildos, but here we are.
For the "curious", it's a dildo.
> Total Length: 15.1, Insertable Length: 10.8, Maximum Insertable Width/Diameter: 3.9, Maximum Insertable Circumference (Girth): 12.25
Link to clean up your Amazon browsing history - may take 15-20 minutes to show up in there so you can remove it.
I use a TOM, but its a pretty obvious device. https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B00A52GCJG/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
But its freaking awesome! positions things correctly and can take a riding!
This is the one I bought:
You can adjust from very slow to are you kidding me fast. Torque with no load at low speed will need some additional adjustment when putting under load...that is thrust for insertion. I typically get things lined up and slowly increase the speed (voltage) until the machine has enough torque to effectively insert itself. This also keeps you from treating your subject like a punching speed bag. Once inserted, adjust speed to appropriate level of squirm you desire.
At higher speed, it has enough torque to punch a hole or a nice thump. My only issue with the stroke is that it is very linear, meaning I wish it had a bit of pause at max insertion before pulling out. This will be something I will be modifying later so that it hits and stays firmly planted for a moment before withdrawing.
With any of these machines, there is a bit of subject adjustment that has to happen or if using with strict bondage, adjustment of the machine positioning.
I think you nailed the two most recommended things.
I have the Aneros prograsm and it was worth every penny. I do understand not wanting to waste the money in case you don't like it (I did the same thing as you and wasted money on a dildo and a vibratory that I didn't like and threw away), but I don't know any specific aneros knockoffs to suggest.
I have a knock off NJoy and it has been fantastic. As stated by another user if you get one that is made with the same grade of stainless steel it should be just fine. This is the one I got from Amazon:
The Njoy wand is a must!! I was EXACTLY as you described... external only orgasms, but enjoyed and was still turned on during penetrative sex. I knew I was missing something.
I bought this https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0773GTR7C?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
It has been directly compared to the Njoy and it is indistinguishable. If the Njoy wand was any better than this, I would kill over.
It not only provided my first direct g-spot and subsequent squirting orgasm, it's more. This part is harder to describe... but it also made my g-spot more sensitive. Kind of like when your mind can detect your thumb without you moving it or anything touching it. That's what it did for my g-spot! Like I discovered a whole new body part. Subsequent couples play and exploration became much more successful in the g-spot hunt and stimulation game.
I still like a little external stimulation along with internal to really take me over the edge. And anal play is awesome in its own right.
I also found that instead of your partner asking "tell me what you like/what feels good", is to have them doing their thing and then say "do you like this OR this", "here OR here". The choice between 2 actions is much easier to define than an open ended question. I hope that makes sense!!
TLDR: Buy the wand; keep experimenting; happy orgasming
This goes back about 15 years, purchased the product from an online sex toy shop. Apparently you can still buy it off Amazon. clone a willy if I remember correctly you make a plaster cast of your dick then pour in a rubber polymer.
Don’t have it anymore, but as I recall it was pretty stiff and not as pleasurable for her as the real thing.
Hmmm. Probably The Great American Challenge. It's a fucking huge dildo. It's not the dildo itself that's scary, it's imagining someone sticking it up inside themselves. I kinda want to buy it just because it's purple.
I got a Hismith machine on Amazon. Used an Amazon card and saved up points for it, only way I could justify the $450 for a fuck machine.
It's amazing. You can have a gentle slow fuck or an absolutely aggressive pounding at the twist of a knob. I've been able to have multiple anal orgasms in an evening.
There are a lot of attachments and dildos, all within the reasonable price of sex toys.
This is the one I bought my wife. If you made one yourself you could have the single rod go back the opposite direction making it half the length. I might be making a chair with the parts from this and the sybian underneath.
I’m glad to hear your comfortable in your body! A lot of people also really like the NJOY wand and you can read amazing reviews online from women. Nothing is a guarantee but here’s a cheaper version. It stimulates the g spot!
And I get what you mean now! It’s not so much about the sex but about connecting with your friends. I know that sucks a lot and I felt behind as a teen too. I don’t know what really to recommend besides connecting to them in other ways. There’s so much time for you to have that experience and then be able to connect!
Hismith Fuck Machine
If you can afford it, get the app controlled version. There are patterns you can "play" that aren't just one speed.
u/Swegatronic can you send this dick mould kit to u/Its_Giza, and u/Its_Giza can you shove your pp in it and create a mold of your dick, then send it back to u/Swegatronic so he can suck on it? To be fair, you need drop a few pubes into the mold so that when it's done, swega can take a nice long slurp of that wang and feel the little pubes tickle his tongue.
Cheaper than a flight across the pond, mate!
Have you looked at a sex stool - can really help you bounce up and down on a dildo. My wife loves hers and cums/squirts like crazy.
sex stool link
A Hitachi Wand with a speed controller is never a bad gift.
https://www.amazon.com/Master-Cock-Super-Dildo-Black/dp/B00MOTE1Y6?th=1 here you go homie, it's on sale right now for 600 dollars instead of 1000 so it's a steal.
Just suggestion but you could look into getting her one of these if youre unsure about bringing another person into the mix. https://www.amazon.com/Hismith-Premium-Machine-Wire-controlled-Dildo/dp/B01N6340A8