You need to find somewhere else to live. Until such time that can be arranged I suggest investing in a sleep mask.
I have lived in similar situations before and from my experience people like this DON'T GIVE A FUCK ABOUT YOU. They are not bad people per se, they just have no empathy. Good luck.
Depends on the sleep mask. I've had really crappy ones & I've had great ones. I love this one. It blocks out all the light and conforms to your face with no light leaks. Plus the eyes are rounded so your eyelashes don't touch the mask.
One of the most helpful things I ever got was actually a gift! It is a weighted eye mask that can be cooled in the freezer. It helps me fall asleep better when the headaches get really bad, and the cooling sensation helps so much. As an added bonus I can sleep in a room no matter how bright it is. It's fairly inexpensive as well (link to the one I have below).
Hopefully this can provide some relief for others!
You can buy basically anything on Amazon and it will come in a plain brown cardboard box. Under-the-mattress restraint systems work well and you can tuck them away when not in use. If buying things online isn't possible, you can get rope at the hardware store. If you do get into rope bondage, make sure to read extensively on safety. And someone who is tied up should not be left alone.
For a blindfold, I really like this silk sleep mask. It's very soft and it covers well without putting pressure on your nose bridge.
Check out /r/bdsmcommunity for more help.
Thank you!! I used a bluetooth sleeping mask that I got just so I can listen to subliminals (comfortably) while i sleep lol
Bluetooth Sleep Mask
I went to a sleep doctor who wouldn't even give me a sleep study because she's like, "You have insomnia. A sleep study will show us nothing." My issue is both going to sleep and staying asleep. I decided against medication (I've been living on 3-4 hours of sleep for so long it doesn't seem worth it) but then a few months ago I saw a conversation some friends were having on Facebook about sleep masks. The Manta sleep mask was recommended. My issue has never been needing darkness to sleep, but I figured I would try it, anyway. It has honestly made a huge difference. I still wake up after 3 or so hours, but since I can no longer open my eyes and look at the clock, I go back to sleep, while before I would be awake for at least 2 hours.
I don't know if this could help you (it didn't help my brother - insomnia runs in my family - but my 13 year old niece took his and it's been great for her) but may be something worth checking out!
Amazon has a great sleep mask that will cover both eyes. It has space over the eyes so you can still blink of open your eyes without your eyelashes dragging. Does not apply pressure though, and like I said it will cover both eyes.
Yep, I got one from amazon. It's wireless, powered through bluetooth on your phone and I can sleep comfortably on my side while I have it on.
I got this one: https://www.amazon.ca/Bluetooth-Eye-Headphones-Joseche-Microphone/dp/B07F59HQRC/ref=sr_1_8?keywords=bluetooth+speaker+sleep&qid=1561152607&s=gateway&sr=8-8
IMAK Compression Pain Relief Mask and Eye Pillow, Cold Therapy Headache, Migraine, Sinus Pain, Patented, Universal Size https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001HTYJLO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_F2kiFbDD0Q11W
Consider this one too! It’s weighted so it provides relief and stays in place, and it stays cold for a while. I have a few so I can rotate them in the freeze when needed. Currently laying in my bath tub with an ice hat on my head and a soft ice pack tied loosely around my neck.
I recently added glass french doors to my bedroom and it's crazy bright in the room at 6am now. My wife also likes to look at her phone at night with her screen on full brightness. I picked up this eye mask and I get some of the best sleep now.
I got this for headaches but I also pull out my lashes and find that it helps eyelid swelling IMAK Compression Pain Relief Mask and Eye Pillow, Cold Therapy Headache, Migraine, Sinus Pain, Patented, Universal Size, Great for Travel & Sleep, Blocks Out Light https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001HTYJLO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_S2ZZJDHB84TDV450H0SJ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
This is the mask I picked up, btw:
If you sleep during the day due to working 3rd shift, I might also recommend blackout curtains in combination with a sleep mask - especially if the sun is hitting your window directly.
Finally, taking 5 mg of melatonin when going to bed has helped me tons.
If this doesn't do the trick you could also try ear plugs to block out any daytime noises.
A year ago when I started , this was the first mask I purchased, Mask 1. Since then the mask has been kinda falling apart and the space for eyes have never been wide or deep enough. Has become terribly uncomfortable during treatments . Yesterday I just got this Manta Mask Mask 2. Just from trying the Manta for sleeping for one night ( Ive never been able to wear one to sleep, but this one lasted) it seems like a world of difference , not only comfort but complete darkness. Its expensive , but seems like it will be worth it.
I don't even do in office treatments and my psych's office is the coziest I've ever been in. You can just tell he wants people to feel at ease in there. It's a real bummer that your doc isn't willing to hear patient feedback to make the experience better.
Since your options are limited, I suggest creating your own temporary environment. Folding camp chairs can be super comfortable if you spend a little bit of money. Here's a rocking chair. Also get a 3-d eye mask. Bring your own music with you and suddenly you're transported to somewhere nice and cozy while in your sterile room.
I got this one off Amazon. It’s worked really well so far. The charge lasts a few days and it charges quickly.
MUSICOZY Sleep Headphones Bluetooth Headband Sleeping Headphones Sleep Mask, Noise Cancelling Headphones Sleep Earbuds Office Travel for Men Women Cool Tech Gadgets Unique Gifts Boys Girls https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TPLZY74/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_W0AVAC7FXK02SRJR74ZK?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
The catch is that adequate darkness is very difficult to achieve in most places. Even if you manage to black out your bedroom, most places you travel to won't have proper black out curtains, or might have a street light shining at the window, etc. Thus, your pursuit will likely end with you wearing a face mask every night. And you have to specifically use a cupped face mask like /u/louderharderfaster said, or you'll get light leak and flattened eyelashes. This one is nice because it has movable eyecups. (I don't use one personally, my partner does, but given my own sleep troubles, perhaps I should...)
Hey! I was in the same situation with my girlfriend when we first started dating. I had a very hard time slapping her or being rough in other ways.
What really helped was covering her face. I actually got a sleep mask from Amazon that's super comfortable and covers most of her face
I'll second this.
I bought the twenty dollar knockoff ones though. It is a "sleeping eye mask." I keep it up over my eyes while watching and pull it down while sleeping. It works amazing.
After about a year the battery has started to degrade. I have to charge it every other day but it's not a big deal.
The ones I bought aren't on Amazon anymore, but I'm pretty sure this is the exact same thing.
I adorethis one from amazon. Its easily the best one I have ever bought. Ive had it for 2 yrs now and its still in great shape. The elastic is just now starting to stretch out so I'll probably get a new one sometime in the near future.
Your post will probably be deleted cuz rules.
But if you're looking for a real deal, blackout sleep mask, look no further! Best one I've ever purchased and I've worn a lot of masks over the last 10 years.
Not a troll. Just trying to spread the good word.
The original comment was deleted for some reason. In case anyone else needs it, here is the link they posted:
I love this one. I wear it over CPAP headgear. Adjustable nose clip helps it stay in place and blocks light better (slide it up after placing mask on). Mavogel Cotton Sleep Eye Mask -... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07D3M5TTZ?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I don’t use this one daily, but I use it when I am traveling and the room isn’t dark enough (at home I have two sets of blackout curtains), ALASKA BEAR - Natural silk sleep... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GSO1D9O?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I have to put it on first and then the CPAP mask over it (I use Philips dreamwear nasal cushion). It’s a really comfortable mask though.
I have to sleep with tv type noise, so I either have the tv shows on my phone with it face down, or an audio book. I need the talking to keep my mind from wandering off into work or unpleasant topics. Not sure if that would help you or not.
Weed. And this eye/temple massager kinda takes the edge off while you’re using it. It has heat and alternating pressure over your temples, eyes, and sinuses. If you’re like me and squeezing your head feels good when you’re in an attack, it’s worth a try. And cheap so not much to lose if it doesn’t help at all.
I recommend this sleeping mask (I use it everyday, it blocks the sunlight coming through from really sheer curtains really well): https://www.amazon.com/Contoured-Sleeping-Blindfold-Concave-Meditation/dp/B07KC5DWCC/ref=asc_df_B07KC5DWCC/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=242021611153&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=18299155294874553198&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9003010&hvtargid=pla-589288157240&psc=1
aside from that, I also agree with talking to your roommate and if that doesn't work, escalating to the RA!
Do you have any kind of massager? I bought one of these for migraines but it really helps clear out my sinuses.
I like the olbas inhalers you stick up your nose and sterimar saline sprays. I've also had some success from using eucalyptus bath salts.
I hope you can find relief, clogged sinuses are horrible.
As much as I try to avoid giving Amazon money, it was where I found the one I love the most for comfort, battery life, and price. It's this MUSICOZY one that's silk/flat. The ones with the eye socket space felt weird to me personally lol
Turn the lights off completely and get a sleep mask like this. It allows you to fully open your eyeswhile wearing it and still block all light. It's a serious gamechanger for K-holes. You get total immersion with zero distractions and hole for longer. You also just might have K that's cut to shit. It's WAY more common than people think. There's stats somewhere I saw that showed that a huge % of street K in america was actually RCs like 2-fdck ( who's holes I think totally suck, if you can even get there) and are also cut to shit!
My roommate in college was a douche and was always turning the lights on when I slept. A sleeping mask kept me from going insane. Give it a try.
Invest in a good sleep mask. This is the one I found that I love! This will block ANY and ALL light. It's also very comfortable to wear.
I highly suggest a sleep mask that allows you to open your eyes while wearing it. Like this one. It drastically improved my experiences.
I've been using this sleep mask. It's not 100% but it helps quite a lot, and there's no worry about feeling druggy the next morning.
We had these. It was kind of obvious to the nurses when I was trying to sleep because I had a c-section and snore loudly when sleeping on my back (can’t side sleep for weeks with the incision). I literally just ignored them until they addressed me or until my husband woke me up if I didn’t wake up when they tried to address me.
This is the one I have now: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TPLZY74/
It's lasted me a year so far with no drop in performance and it's pretty comfortable. The previous one I tried had the controls by the side of the head which meant laying down the wrong way pushed them into your head.
You are welcome
This should help a lot. I have been living in airbnbs for a year with varying noise levels and have very sensitive hearing. Was almost going insane, but these completely changed my life:
Pump the white noise directly into your ear and it will block out almost all of the stomping and crashing noises
My neighbors never turn off their lights and they shine directly in my bedroom window all night long. Buying a sleep mask was the greatest thing I ever did. HI have this one
This is the best eye mask on the market. It allows you to comfortably open your eyes while wearing it, something you’ll subconsciously do throughout your trip
Been using one of these for a couple years. Used cheaper ones before that and have to say I should have gone with the more expensive one to begin with. Ultra comfortable and keeps all the light out.
I spotted some in person at an Indigo the other day.
If buying without trying is an option , I’ve had this one for a while and it’s been perfect. It’s soft and wide enough to fully cover eyes and block light.
I actually like this option, too. I'm in school to be a therapist and so I'd be curious to pull research on the efficacy of some of these, but my go-to is like the brainwave binaural beats for sleep. You could probably use anything, though.
You can set your phone to automatically shut off after a certain time period if you're concerned about it interfering with deep or REM sleep. If you set your phone face down on your nightstand or the floor next to your bed, it's probably ok to use sound involving the screen.
I know some people (me included) can get anxious with regards to sounds and open space, so if you need something extra or you sleep with a partner who doesn't like noise, I've been recommending these eye masks with headphones built-in. You are by no means obligated to look at these, I'm not getting paid for Amazon links, I just keep a list of sensory stuff for friends who might also be highly sensitive or have trauma disorders. I like to use mine with earplugs and then turn the volume up a little because they become almost completely noise-cancelling at that point. (You can also use earplugs with regular headphones during the day if you need like a nervous-system reset where you're completely void of all sound except for ambient noise.)
But always, do what feels comfortable for you and your sleep needs.
Thank you for reading this egregiously long post, links below.
Link to ambient sleep sounds
Link to weird headphone eye mask combo
You doing what works for your circadian rhythm: priceless.
First do not put a time limit on recovery, if you do and your body is not ready your return to work will not end will. Again do not push your body, you have a lot to learn and depends on the surgery, if they have to cut your abdomen during surgery the recovery will be even longer. That being said. Contact manufacturers like Hollister,coloplaste, convatec etc and get free samples, you will be ahead of the game knowing what products you might want to use. As for the hospital get this
Bluetooth headset and sleep mask. Rooms always seem to have to much light when trying to sleep and noisy ( loud room mate) Music to drown out the noise. Good luck
Seconding the sleep mask, I have this one that I LOVE and use it a lot at home when I need a break. I have an extra one I keep in the car as well. I also wore it in an outside setting recently—I got a tattoo and wore it during the appointment! I felt a little self-conscious but it helped block out all of the sensory stuff that would’ve typically overwhelmed me otherwise.
Those mask headphones are good, but I still feel the plastic bits a bit too much. This is my current favorite sleep mask: link It's got a wire nose bridge for a better seal, a thin band that sits above my ears, and it's one of the few that doesn't have black trim. (For some reason, all of the ones with black trim have left marks on my pillowcases.)
This sleep mask is AMAZING for actually sleeping with, but it would also keep most, if not all, off the pressure off your eyelashes. My regular eyelashes don’t even brush against it.
Manta Sleep Mask - 100% Blackout... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PRG2CQY?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Hi, I’m using an USB powered eye mask for warm compresses and it’s absolutely perfect (https://www.amazon.com/RENPHO-Massager-Compression-Bluetooth-Rechargeable/dp/B07SM61FCT). I let it heat up 1min before putting it on. I like the fact that the temperature is constant and no cleanup involved.
At the end, I simply push down on my eyes, using my fingers without applying any major force, starting from the top.
This is the one I have and I’ve never had issues with it tangling:
Alaska Bear Natural Silk Sleep Mask, Blindfold, Super Smooth Eye Mask (One Strap) https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B00GSO1D9O/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_2WS0XXJ4THEJ986ZTYAG?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I highly recommend this blindfold. It works well for nod-doning.
Most people just use 3M ear muffs. The amount of noise reduction you want versus weight is up to you, but I would recommend the Peltor.
I got one made by Renpho on Amazon that’s nice. Limited-time deal: RENPHO Eye Massager with Heat, Bluetooth Music Rechargeable Eye Heat Massager for Relax and Reduce Eye Strain Dark Circles Eye Bags Dry Eye Improve Sleep, Mothers Day Gifts https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07SM61FCT/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_dl_TK2V1R8D91NXRTCG018Z?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I'm not sure if these would work for you, but having tried weighted sleep pillows (felt great but fell off during the night), normal sleep masks (didn't like how they squashed my eyes), I settled on the MZOO eye masks. The strap is adjustable to you can make them tighter as the elastic wears out over time, they're constructed of a very commutable memory foam, and they have pretty deep pockets over your eyes so it doesn't matter if your eyes are open or shut, they still block out the light. I also wear them at night if it's at all breezy in our bedroom so I don't get dry eye. Highly recommended. https://www.amazon.com/Contoured-Sleeping-Blindfold-Concave-Meditation/dp/B07KC5DWCC
Better get yourself a good sleep mask, light exposure while sleeping is linked to greater rates of cancer, increased chance of developing Alzheimers, etc.
Are you me?? I feel like I could have written this exact same thing. I’ve been trying to use ear plug but they make my ears irritated and itchy. I have a decent sleep mask ( MZOO Sleep Eye Mask https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07KC5DWCC?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share ) but doesn’t help with the noise part.
I went from 8a-8p to 8p-8a in October. If you have days off before the switch try to nap a little bit during the day and then stay up as late as your body will let you. Then nap during the day the next day and repeat. It took me about a month to feel actually adjusted but I’m 6 months in now and I love my shift.
As far as day sleep goes, get blackout curtains for your room, I even got a sleep mask (the best one)
The transition from days to nights is interesting but once you get a hang of it it’s great.
I have two- I have this silk basic one that is pretty comfortable- it was about $10.
I just got this “fancy” one with built-in flat headphones and was about $20-link here. Listening to a familiar podcast while falling asleep helps me control anxious or obsessive thoughts. It is much thicker than my other one and took me a night to get used to. The Velcro in the back isn’t my favorite so I have an eye out for one that fits more like a wide, flat headband, but is still able to black out all light.
Still looking for the best fit, but these have definitely improved my sleep and I don’t wake up during the night anymore.
this kind of mask doesn't have that problem. its what i use
I’m a little like your oldest. I have a hard time sleeping unless conditions are perfect (for me 😆). What’s helped me is white noise or my “sleepy time” music which is the BetterSleep app on my phone and I have a custom mix of the sounds available.
I have had success with this:
Bluetooth Sleeping Eye Mask Sleep... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07F59HQRC?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
It’s a sleep mask with Bluetooth ear buds built in. So it makes things pretty dark and the sound goes right in my ears which is helpful — also it doesn’t bother anyone else in the room. Maybe give it a try for the oldest
Thats why I have hulu. I can't handle commercials or what it is in them. Waking up to unfamiliar sounds or silence is so jarring it makes it nearly impossible to go back to sleep.
The sleep headphones I use are below and I personally recommend them.
My submissive loves her blindfold. She's very much driven by touching sensation and removing her vision heightens the experience of her skin. We searched for awhile to find a blindfold that could stand up to our rigorous play, provided total blackout coverage, and was comfortable at the same time.
This is the one we use:
At some point I may try a full BDSM hood but she also wants hairpulling so the blindfold could be our ideal solution.
my son is a very light sleeper.
he got a super dooper eye mask
Why use a mirror at all? There’s nothing inherently magical about it.
Perhaps getting a blind fold that has depth to it so that you can have your eyes open while seeing nothing but black.
You can get these from Amazon.
Something like this:
MZOO Sleep Eye Mask for Men Women, 3D Contoured Cup Sleeping Mask & Blindfold, Concave Molded Night Sleep Mask, Block Out Light, Soft Comfort Eye Shade Cover for Travel Yoga Nap, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07KC5DWCC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_7V42YKV2E07C6F6MJTF6
NTA. They also make make sleep masks with noise-cancelling headphones built in. They're on Amazon for only about $20. https://www.amazon.com/MUSICOZY-Headphones-Bluetooth-Everything-Christmas/dp/B07TPLZY74/ref=sr\_1\_3?crid=18TVEWR5G32UW&keywords=sleep+noise+cancelling+headphones&qid=1646028788&sprefix=sleep+noise+ca%2Caps%2C143&sr=8-3
Yep, it helps dull the pain from my forehead, this is the one I have, it’s a bit flimsy but it works well. I got it as a gift last Valentine’s Day
IMAK Compression Pain Relief Mask and Eye Pillow, Cold Therapy Headache, Migraine, Sinus Pain, Patented, Universal Size, Great for Travel & Sleep, Blocks Out Light https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001HTYJLO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_K4X2G0J92E71YFJM15GR?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I mean I guess technically?
One of these things
I'd recommend these: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07KC5DWCC/
They don't put any pressure on your corneas, instead all pressure stays on the bone line around your eyes.
I have this silk sleep mask and its great. Hasn't stretched out.
https://www.amazon.com/Alaska-Natural-Sleep-Blindfold-Smooth/dp/B00GSO1D9O/ref=sr_1_9?crid=11WGJCIFHU88W&keywords=sleeping+mask&qid=1643710524&sprefix=sleeping+mas%2Caps%2C229&sr=8-9 any sleeping mask will do
I just bought a 20 lb. weighted blanket from LLBean. It came on Thursday but I haven't tried it yet. I am going to do so tonight. I find the heavy, leaded apron they put on you at the dentist very soothing and comforting, so I think I'd be a good candidate for a weighted blanket. (Many people on the autism spectrum like deep pressure, and I believe I am on the spectrum.) I also have been browsing for eye masks on Amazon. Many report they don't like having their eyelashes squished, etc... I think I will try this one, which has a lot of good reviews, and it has these contoured eye cups that won't have the mask right up against your entire eye. https://www.amazon.com/Contoured-Sleeping-Blindfold-Concave-Meditation/dp/B07KC5DWCC/ref=pd\_lpo\_3?pd\_rd\_i=B07KC5DWCC&psc=1
Invest in a decent eye mask. I own this one and it’s pretty comfortable and cheap. Use it every night
They don’t last long, but I really like the shape and weight of this one:
Sleep Mask | Eye Mask for Sleeping Men/Women Better Than Silk Our Luxury Blackout Contoured Eye Masks are Comfortable - This Sleeping mask Set Includes Carry Pouch and Ear Plugs https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00FJQFJX8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_D6TYCS0W53E89WADX7BV?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
But be warned, they are cheaply made and fall apart over time.
This one is my favorite.
sleep mask Amazon link
I’ve tried a lot of different masks, and this one is by far my fav.
My son uses this one instead -
I'm not the person you asked, but I got this one for Christmas and LOVE IT. I can open my eyes and not have my lashes touch the mask, which would irritate the fuck out of me.
I've been using one of these for years for migraines. The gentle weight and pressure, along with the blackout aspect, helps immensely.
My boyfriend got me an amazing face massager with heat for my tension headaches and it helps so much. I have no idea where he got the idea from but I’m very grateful.
I can't personally couch for how effective it is, but what about a contoured sleep mask ?
RENPHO Eye Massager with Heat, Bluetooth Music Rechargeable Eye Heat Massager for Relax and Reduce Eye Strain Dark Circles Eye Bags Dry Eye Improve Sleep, Ideal Family Gifts(White) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07SM61FCT/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_TR16BJRKPV17H1J4HAHE
what’s nice is the pressure - everything else is a bonus. often i need pressure around my eyes, temples and it hits it just right
Overstimulation can be really painful when someone has headaches after a concussion. He might already get helpful items from the team doctors, but a pair of earplugs and nice light-blocking eye mask would be a thoughtful gift. Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Contoured-Sleeping-Blindfold-Concave-Meditation/dp/B07KC5DWCC/
Yeah my sleep mask was clutch during my long induction!
Despite it being silk it actually washes really well: Alaska Bear Natural Silk Sleep Mask, Blindfold, Super Smooth Eye Mask Unisex (Black) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GSO1D9O/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_AZ11XDC3TNNGJ30BG9AZ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
This is the one Ive been using for a few years now. I'd highly recommend trying out - it's $10 and could change your world lol.
Limited-time deal: MZOO Sleep Eye Mask for Men Women, 3D Contoured Cup Sleeping Mask & Blindfold, Concave Molded Night Sleep Mask, Block Out Light, Soft Comfort Eye Shade Cover for Travel Yoga Nap, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07KC5DWCC/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_dl_BGZ15TR42BBCWHQTWXSZ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Yup. Basically it. You can also hang soundproof curtains over your door if logistics allow it. Attach a railing above your door.
I also bought a nightmask with bluetooth speakers.
Instead of listening to noise, I listen to Hachamachama ASMR to sleep.
Bummer, it seems to work on iOS but maybe not on tvOS...
If it just the noise that helps them sleep, I actually use infuse on my phone to listen to random shows all night also, but I wear one of these:
MUSICOZY Sleep Headphones: https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B07TPLZY74
Maybe worth a shot :)
I bought eye masks with headphones. We both swear by them. Wouldn’t want to go to sleep without them now. I like to wear them up on your forehead while doing late night scrolling then switch over to the YouTube “Rain on Window” video for white noise, once you are ready to lower the mask over your eyes.
MUSICOZY Sleep Headphones Bluetooth Wireless S... https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B07TPLZY74/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_api_glt_fabc_2SKKYDAK08BX7MB443J2?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Then you have to change things. One night baby is your responsibility 100% and the next night is your husbands. And crank up that monitor for him while you sleep somewhere else or buy these and wear them with white noise cranked up.
Sleep Headphones Bluetooth Eye Mask, Joseche Wireless Bluetooth 5.0 Headphones Music Travel Sleeping Headphones Handsfree Sleeping Mask with Built-in Speakers Microphone Washable (Black) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07F59HQRC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_WZXG795B9DF2KY8RE7HV
This way you end up with a full, real night of sleep every other day, which actually makes you feel human again. And it’s FAIR.
Your husband not waking up so you are still 100% managing baby at night even if you aren’t getting up is not fair.
I seriously recommend you pick up 2 lol. I was NEVER an eye mask person but it's so soft and I like to prechill it before bed now.
Ah we are quite similar then.
I lay in bed, under a weighted blanket. I use some pillows to prop my head up and get comfy. The weighted blanket is nice because it holds my body still and I've found that the less you move, the more dissociated you feel. Sometimes, I try to pretend that I am paralyzed and can't move (which is what would happen if you took the amount used for anaesthesia).
I use an MZOO Eye Mask which work very well and doesn't put pressure on the eyes. However, my room is absolutely dark as well, so the mask isn't entirely necessary.
I also use an essential oils diffuser to relax me. Eucalyptus, bergamot, and grapefruit are my favorites.
I listen to techno music sets on Soundcloud by djs that I like, which is nice because the tracks are really long and last for the duration of my journey. I use noise canceling headphones, so with the eye mask and the weighted blanket, I really feel like I'm in my little cocoon.
At the end of my journey, usually around 60 minutes, I really take my time getting up. I just lay there and experience the peace that I feel.
I also like to end with a little stretching. Stretching feels incredible on ketamine.
For the rest of the night, I will avoid my phone/computer, and try to engage in self-care: drink tea, play with my cats, listen to more music, maybe do something creative.
There are eye masks that give space for your eyeballs. I use these
I’ll add another common complaint is that eye masks often don’t block all the light around the nasal bridge. The mask provided in the link does not have a cover on the nasal bridge, so a tiny bit of light still gets through. Its not enough to bother me but if you’re very sensitive to light then you might want one that covers the nasal bridge. My preference is not to have anything covering my nose, it makes the mask too warm.
So this doesn't help now, but I HIGHLY suggest some sort of eye mask or headband with speakers in it.
I use an eye mask that has small, flat speakers in it. I can play YouTube through them and fall asleep without damaging my ears with earphones. You can get a version that's just a headband, too. The speakers are removable so you can wash the mask or band.
There is a brand called Sleep Phones, but I searched amazon for that term and bought the product I have now.
This isn't the same as the one I have, but it's really similar
Best one I ever found, on lightning deal on Amazon right now, might get myself a spare!
Sure the apartment might have a no drill rule but so what? You need to sleep.
However, before you go drilling, have you tried a sleep mask? A really good one like this? https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B07D3M5TTZ/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I occasionally have to work nights and with one of those masks I'll sleep like the dead the entire day. It's a life saver.
I have this one, adjustable strap and comfort pockets for your eyes. It’s the only one I’ve found that didn’t press on my eyelids.
Things that will be helpful along the way.. Idk where she is but “just starting” makes me think she is going through her egg retrieval soon. Since she’ll be poking herself with needles frequently, a cute little ice pack, an eye mask for eventual headaches (like the cooling kind that you can keep in the freezer - I recommend this one https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001HTYJLO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_GTRYZ7KMXGTJN7E8HVKN )
And maybe an offer to watch her fav movies with her. We do quarantine movie nights with friends and FaceTime so we sync up the movie together on a streaming service and text while watching.
I used to fixate on dying, especially at night when I was trying to sleep. A lot of times I can just sort of will myself to not focus on something like that, but with dying, swear to God there were times I'd fall asleep and wake up in a panic about it.
For me, like a lot of things, it became habit, it became routine, and "fixing" things meant I'd have to break that routine - SO - I started a new routine that would kind of signal to my brain that it was time to start shutting down. I have some caffeine-free CBD tea, I have a bit of that about an hour before bed, I try to stay away from my phone and TV (blue light, a super interesting read), and then when I go to bed I might read for a bit, but eventually I put on a Bluetooth sleep mask (like this one from Amazon), and I put on a lengthy podcast or free audiobook (LibriBox is a goldmine of free books) and...I'm not going to say I'M CURED! or anything of that sort, but I'd say that way more often than not I'm not fixated on those thoughts anymore. When it does happen, I lean on the podcast to distract myself.
I think different things work for everyone, for me I tend to get triggered at night in bed. Whenever I’m in bed and I start getting that itchy/sore feelings in my eyelids I grab a cooling/weighted eye mask that I keep in the freezer, this is the one I have IMAK Compression Pain Relief Mask and Eye Pillow, Cold Therapy Headache, Migraine, Sinus Pain, Patented, Universal Size, Great for Travel & Sleep, Blocks Out Light https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001HTYJLO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_WG4Z3TF18N8YV8KM462N. Originally purchased it for headaches but I’ve noticed it also helps for my trich, I probably wouldn’t buy this specific one again because the elastic headband get stretched out. In thread a couple days ago one person mentioned that she had just purchased this for her daughter who is a lash puller, she hadn’t gotten it yet so idk how well it works https://trichotillomaniastop.com/product/trich-stop-oil/.
As far as regrowth caster oil is good, but be very careful if you’re going to use it on your eyelids because it will burn if you get it your eyes. I would recommend you use it at night when you’re going to sleep.
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Or simply find the best Sleep Mark. It's a game changer.
I have a white noise app on my phone. I use a blackout mask with BT headphones in it called MusiCozy. They're awesome because I'm the only one who hears the white noise so it doesn't bug my wife. I wish the battery lasted longer - it gets me through one night but I have to remember to charge them every day and it's rare I remember.
Someone posted their lip results and I asked her if she used headphones and she said she used this Bluetooth sleeping mask!
This is the one I've got. Love it.
^^^ I use this sleeping mask and it's honestly so comfortable. Sometimes I find myself walking around with it up on my forehead like sunglasses!
I used the shields the first night and really didn't like them.
I bought this mask a highly recommend it!
This is the one I use and it stays on nice and snugly and is better at blocking out light than standard ones! I saw it recommended here as a BDSM blindfold lmao but it’s a great sleep mask.