The best Suicide books: Reddit reviews

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YTA my wife has also been diagnosed with BPD and has spent her own time in facilities. Learn about your wife's disorder. I recommend this book specifically written for those of us that find ourselves close to someone with the disorder.

It's not gonna magically make everything alright. But if you're anything like me, you're gonna find the righteousness of your righteous anger will start to melt. You're gonna start to understand why she acts the way she does, because you'll finally be able to understand why she thinks the way she does. And you'll learn how to handle it differently.

Once she's out make sure she gets into some sort of DBT program. Hospital stays do about Jack shit without continuous follow-up.

Great book on this called "On Killing - the Psychological Costs of Learning to Kill in War and Society

On Killing - Amazon UK

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It explores killing in war through history and the effects, largely linked to proximity of the kill, had detrimental effects on the killer.

Some notable facts about the book that I can remember after reading it 10 years ago:

Knife/Bayonett kills, though exceptionally rare in more recent wars, had the most devastating effects. Soldiers cited as feeling a man's last breath had a big hurdle to climb.

American soldiers in WWII were exceptionally bad shots, especially when shooting Germans. Turns out most Americans didn't want to kill people, even during the heroic march to victory. All-time terrible percentage of shooting.

War attracts psychopaths and make up something like 5% of combatants who are out to kill and not the norm.

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If you are interested in this topic I highly recommend the book. Things I read have stayed with me and it never surprises me how much this topic comes up in conversation.

I mean, yes because no one here can predict the future or how you'll turn out. Dr. Kay Jamison wrote a best selling book, An Unquiet Mind, about being a clinical psychologist with Bipolar I Disorder, so obviously it can be done. However, your mental health and experience is different from hers and I'd recommend stabilizing the condition first, especially given the treatment resistance and its effect on your previous graduate studies. Are you engaged in CBT, ACT, or some other evidence-based practice for depression? It sounds like your doc is a psychiatrist or prescriber primarily. While a mood stabilizer is the first line treatment to stabilize mania, a Bipolar I depressive episode usually requires talk therapy as the primary treatment due to the risk of many SSRIs inducing a manic episode.

Edit: she's a clinical psychologist, not psychiatrist. My bad.

Here are my 5 best ways to beat anxiety and depression.

1.) Get this book. It's a classic self-help book that's scientifically proven to beat depression. It's the #1 self-help book recommended by doctors in the United States. You can get it for free at your local library

https://smile.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380731762/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=feeling+good&qid=1557361193&s=gateway&sr=8-3

2.) Meditate. Download the free "Insight Timer" meditation app or do YouTube ocean sounds while wearing headphones. It rewires your brain after 6 weeks.

3.) Live in the present moment. When your mind wanders on anxious thoughts, bring it back to the present moment. Over and over again.

4.) Pray and practice a religion. This will benefit you greatly. Start going to religious services.

5.) Exercise 5 days a week. Try to exercise for at least 30 minutes at a time. Something where you build up a sweat.

Good luck and keep in touch.

Living an average life is a whole lot better than being dead. If you were dead, you wouldn't be able to do any of the things you enjoy. You'd just be dead.

Here are my 5 best ways to beat anxiety and depression.

1.) Get this book. It's a classic self-help book that's scientifically proven to beat depression. It's the #1 self-help book recommended by doctors in the United States. You can get it for free at your local library

https://smile.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380731762/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=feeling+good&qid=1557361193&s=gateway&sr=8-3

2.) Meditate. Download the free "Insight Timer" meditation app or do YouTube ocean sounds while wearing headphones. It rewires your brain after 6 weeks.

3.) Live in the present moment. When your mind wanders on anxious thoughts, bring it back to the present moment. Over and over again.

4.) Pray and practice a religion. This will benefit you greatly. Start going to religious services.

5.) Exercise 5 days a week. Try to exercise for at least 30 minutes at a time. Something where you build up a sweat.

Good luck and keep in touch.

I'm so sorry to hear you and your family had to go through that. Hopefully, your family had a support group. Sudden loss like suicide can be really hard to endure. It doesn't help that it's so unexpected. If you're still struggling with coping, I highly recommend this book. It helped me through my best friends sudden passing last year.

My grandma is the same way, too. In an unfortunate yet fortunate way, I'm glad I'm not the only one who's gone through this type of situation with a church. I actually thought my church was the only one to go against its own teachings and virtues. I'm not crazy after all!

I highly suggest reading On Killing: The Psychological Cost of Learning to Kill in War and Society by Dave Grossman. It gives excellent insight into how the military desensitizes people to killing and the effects it has had on soldiers, past and present.

"on killing" by Dave Grossman provides a lot of insight to this. Exceptional read On Killing

I went to see a therapist for a 1 hour session today. It didn't help, so I'm seeking a long term therapist. I also picked up the book I Don't Want To Talk About It from the library and am going to read this one next.

I am at 2.5 months since my wife of 15 years died at 39. She also was a healthy amazing mother and wife and overnight was overtaken by cancer. There is nothing to take away the pain but you find some ways to limit the suffering. I highly recommend reading, It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand https://www.amazon.com/dp/1622039076/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_9NXPHE84M9M590RZEVC4

People are going to tell you to look at the good and what he would have wanted but they are just trying to make themselves not feel the pain you can’t avoid.

If you can't go to counseling for your depression, then at least read this book. It was recommended by a counsellor and has helped me a lot:

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, by David D. Burns

https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380731762/

That’s a very good point, if you like working through things on your own and reading books, the Feeling Good Handbook is a great way to do that: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0380731762/.

But if you can afford therapy, you may as well do both - buy Feeling Good, read a few chapters on dealing with anxiety, and also find a therapist that you like.

Here's an interesting book on the subject (sorry Amazon link - no affiliation!)

https://www.amazon.com/Killing-Psychological-Cost-Learning-Society/dp/0316040932

>The good news is that most soldiers are loath to kill. But armies have developed sophisticated ways of overcoming this instinctive aversion. And contemporary civilian society, particularly the media, replicates the army's conditioning techniques, and, according to Lt. Col. Dave Grossman's thesis, is responsible for our rising rate of murder among the young.

It’s ok to be a wreck right now. You suffered possibly one of the worst tragedies in your life and need time to heal. Here is a post someone shared with me when my father passed.

Also this book: “It’s Ok That You’re Not Ok” helped my friends understand their grief as well. PM me if you are interested and I can send you a free pdf of it.

Therapy is always a good idea in this circumstance, don’t be afraid to reach out for professional help. Best wishes!!

For whatever reason, when I read the question, this book came to mind.

Nope, it's just your obsessive compulsive disorder combined with your body dysmorphia disorder.

It's OCD because you keep posting this same thing over and over. Read Brain Lock by Jeffrey Schwartz to help get it under control.

You look slightly older, which I should hope so because 5-6 years has passed. I'd be worried if you didn't look older at all. It's normal for people to look older when several years pass. It's called aging. It happens to everyone. It's normal. Some guys have gone fully bald in the same time span. You're lucky you still have hair.

I’m in mental health and would still recommend going to therapy, it’s a great safe relationship to start working through the anxiety. However, for self work id recommend feeling good by David burns

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy https://www.amazon.com/dp/0380731762/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_1WWNXKNXWD5NK3PPCVZR

Agree with you totally. We’re genetically programmed to be anxious. Certain Congnitive Behavior Techniques are helpful. This book is not well researched just an ephiphany. You can try a more structured approach by seeing a qualified medical professional. If you want to read a book try “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0380731762/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_u.V-Fb16E8QJ9”

Another great book is Ending the Pursuit of Happiness: A Zen Guide https://www.amazon.com/dp/0861715535/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_7sW-Fb7RPK3SK

I'm in the same boat pretty much. Just recently diagnosed as BP2 right after my 21st, and the way i've been handling it is learning as much as I can about my disorder. I would encourage you to look into An Unquiet Mind by - Kay Redfield Jamison. Also meditation and mindfulness really helps me and so does kicking caffeine it triggers severe mood swings for me.

Link to book on amazon

There are over 7.5 billion people in the world. I guarantee there are people out there who will want to be your friend... but first you must be friends with yourself.

Depression fucking sucks. It saps the enjoyment away from most activities, makes you feel like you're living in a perpetual hell, and can make every endeavor feel futile.

You aren't alone. I'm assuming that you're in your teens given the context clues in your post. These years of your life will eventually become a memory, something that you look back and learn from. Things change given time. However, the only thing in life you truly have control over is yourself.

Personally, I'd urge you to look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It's something that's helped me tremendously in managing and evolving in who I am. Our world shapes itself around us while we shape who we are. There's a phrase that sticks in my head whenever I think before vs after doing therapy for so long... "Things don't get better... you do."

I highly recommend a book called Feeling Good:The New Mood Therapy. You can get it on Amazon for about $4 (including shipping) used. Or you can find it in .pdf form here if you can't get it in physical form.

I wish you the best of luck. It's taken a lot of time and work for me to personally get to the point where my depression is a faint memory. I know you can get there as well. If you need to talk send me a message and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.

Edit: Because I can't English correctly before coffee it seems.

> If the goal is to build a set of skills, where's the text that talks about what specific skills BPDs lack, why they lack them (e.g. what were the exact developmental processes that were interrupted), how to build them, and what are common missteps that occur while building them? Can you provide a single reference that goes into that level of detail?

Sure. https://www.amazon.com/DBT%C2%AE-Skills-Training-Manual-Second/dp/1462516998

It's not the pain olympics, you are allowed to feel your grief. It's the loss of hopes for that baby, as well as the baby itself that you are mourning.

My therapist shared a resource with me regarding rights of parents and children in a loss situation, and one of the bullet points was to acknowledge the baby. It existed for however long you had them, a complete lifetime no matter how brief.

I've been leaning on "It's OK That You're Not OK" recently and it has a section that covers how friends and family try so hard to help, but just make it worse. Comments like it's a lesson from a higher power or it just isn't the right time. The point she makes is that these events suck, and maybe you didn't need the lesson. I'm paraphrasing of course, her version was much more eloquent.

I hope you are able to heal, wanting to grow your family is stressful enough without having life on difficult mode. /ttcafterloss is full of wonderful people, and there's a few other subs that also might be a good fit if/when you decide you want to try again.

I must admit I'm a bit disgusted by how the US keeps playing mental illness for laughs. It's like prison rape jokes. If you have a mental illness, you must somehow deserve it. If you go to prison, you deserve to get raped. It's part of the whole justice boner culture.

Kanye West is mentally ill. He's got bipolar disorder. Egomania is a part of the disorder. And people with bipolar disorder tend to commit suicide not when they're depressed, but when they're manic. It's a devastating illness.

I encourage everyone to read An Unquiet Mind by Kay Redfield Jamison.

Delusions of grandeur is a symptom. It's not a choice.

I know that a lot of people want to "eat the rich" and that you enjoy it when rich people suffer, but in so doing you are increasing the stigma surrounding mental illness and you should be ashamed of yourselves. Poor people are more likely to suffer from mental illness. 20-25 percent of homeless people suffer from severe mental illness. By perpetuating the myth that people with mental illness has total control over their own behavior you are sentencing them all to mockery and condemnation.

Kanye West needs professional help.

Having an honest and open discussion about mental illness isn't as much fun as gay fish jokes, but it's important.

Two month waitlist to get into my program at NYC and tbh the group therapy sessions were much more healing and helpful to me than the days we did DBT, which were basically just mini classes on each module and what they meant. I feel that all the modules are pretty straight forward and simple to understand though, it’s just a matter of taking the action to even try to do things differently from what we’re so used to- that’s the hard part. Sometimes it even feels a bit condescending because the modules seem like such common sense and obvious, but i realized that in all reality when things really got heated my default was to go into nuclear self-destruct mode, it really does take a lot of discipline/determination to make lasting change.

Good luck! The whole DBT manual and worksheets written by Linehan herself is on amazon for $52 DBT® Skills Training Manual, Second Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/1462516998/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fpU4zbQQ1P8E4 It’s written for providers but I think it’s more helpful than the one written for us, she goes into the clinical side of things explaining how and why the modules are effective which is great insight

My girlfriend gave me this link when I started seeing her: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/personality-disorders/helping-someone-with-borderline-personality-disorder.htm

There are books as well, I was given a suggestion from this sub: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Someone-Borderline-Personality-Disorder--Control/dp/1593856075/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1447540474&sr=8-1&keywords=loving+someone+with+bpd

And echoing others here, tough love = pushing them away

yeah, it's a DBT book! the updated version just came out: http://www.amazon.com/Skills-Training-Manual-Second-Edition/dp/1462516998/ref=dp_ob_image_bk

though you get a better handle on the topics if you're in therapy. here's a link to the interpersonal communication bits specifically: http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/ie_handout_8.html this website really helped me before i got the courage to start therapy.

thank you for reading my blog. i'm glad you got something out of it.

I've seen this book often be highly recommended for people who are in a relationship with someone with BPD: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1593856075/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1593856075&linkCode=as2&tag=mewilm-20&linkId=S4BIU2YY7ECULA2B

Grief doesn't have a timeline and yes, grief can manifest itself physically as well as emotionally. It is the most powerful of negative emotions.

I recommend reading It's OK That You Are Not OK. Its one of the best that I have read.

- a nurse

I highly recommend It's OK That You're Not OK. I lost someone a couple of years ago, and after angrily burning through multiple unhelpful self-helps books, all of which seemed to be telling me to hurry up and quit being sad, this book was incredibly validating.

My girlfriend gave me a book about how to uh, how did it phrase it? Something about how to live with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder. I read it dutifully, and it certainly explained, in compassionate but logical terms, what people with BPD experience.

Might be worth it to get. . . oh, wait, found it.