I would highly recommend Beyond the Content to you and anyone else in your situation. It's a book on mindfulness and test prep by a former colleague of mine who's a mindfulness instructor in addition to being a GMAT / GRE instructor.
I recommend “The Gender Quest Workbook: A Guide For Teens and Young Adults Exploring Gender Identity” by Testa, Coolhart and Peta.
A couple of the authors are trans psychologists. The book walks the reader through all of the confusing terms and provides a stable way to figure out gender identity. Not all of the exercises are great, but I still do some of them with adult clients! Well worth it in my opinion.
Amazon link: The Gender Quest Workbook: A Guide for Teens and Young Adults Exploring Gender Identity https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1626252971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_isUrFbNP6GHAA
Here's Dee's views back in 2008
He's always been a very awesome dude, who will even teach you about puberty.
Plus, Twisted Sister is maybe the most underrated thing of all time. I only knew their radio hits un until a few years ago. Check out Under the Blade, You Can't Stop Rock and Roll, Tear it Loose, Destroyer, Love is for Suckers, etc. Great, great stuff!
I haven't used it myself but I've heard good things about this workbook for people exploring their gender! https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Quest-Workbook-Exploring-Identity/dp/1626252971?dplnkId=ab02c533-3dfc-40ac-ade3-7556f3f9bf78
Also amab mid 30s here I feel the same way.
Check out the book gender quest. https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Quest-Workbook-Exploring-Identity/dp/1626252971/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?adgrpid=58913881667&gclid=Cj0KCQiAubmPBhCyARIsAJWNpiMw3kEuQKSpr1Z0UivAP2yvf9MT8fMuc1Tyn05KjlSR7XdevI-Nn0IaAoxfEALw_wcB&hvadid=274721247488&hvd...
It's made for younger folk but it helps tear down those internal transphobic walls your talking about.
Your further than me in all this.
I hope this helps.
Help is out there, but this is the wrong sub! It’s for timeline pics only. Try r/MTF r/trans or r/mtfhrt . But now that you’re here…
Since you don’t have access to therapy, there’s a good book specifically written to help teens who are gender-questioning sort through their feelings. It has been helpful for lots of people, even for myself when I was first transitioning.
The Gender Quest Workbook: A Guide for Teens and Young Adults Exploring Gender Identity https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1626252971/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_a_J27ZP8WB4J14NK5XX0CE?psc=1
Also, if you just need an ally or want someone to ask questions to, you are welcome to DM me any time!
I was never into Twisted, but he wrote an interesting book for teens on how to get through life I thought had some interesting and candid moments in it. The part about peer pressure where he talked about having to negotiate their way out of a tense moment with a biker gang and their leader offered him a line of some unknown substance as a gesture of hospitality was particularly memorable.
If you can find a copy, read it. Amazon.com: Dee Snider's Teenage Survival Guide (9780385239004): Snider, Dee: Books
I’ve been working through a similar thing with my therapist. I’m not entirely sure if Im nonbinary, trans, or if it’s a different issue like body dysmorphia or something. She’s having me go through a gender workbook with her that has actually been very helpful and also just very interesting to read. It has you do some little activities and explains gender and sex and presentation and everything, and I’ve found it very useful so far. Here’s a link to it on Amazon if ur interested, there are other places that have it also (I got mine from Barnes and Noble). I defo recommend it if ur looking for a little extra help or even if ur just looking for more info on gender in general.
https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Quest-Workbook-Exploring-Identity/dp/1626252971
A book that helped me a lot was "Don't Let Your Emotions Run Your Life". I just remembered there's a version of it written for teens that might also help your sister.
By the way I got these principles from here
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Habits-Highly-Effective-Teens/dp/1476764662
first, and then
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Habits-Highly-Effective-People/dp/0684858398
I'd love to pick up a book on the basics of psychology like some of the history and the overall theories/concepts/facts of the current day.
Is this a good book to get? I'm open to any book suggestions! Thanks in advance.