wow! just wow. Butt clenching story right here, reminded me of my own troubles, but you might be on another level.
As others suggested, try the Wise Anderson protocol, it is what got me out of the nightmare. As I m not from the US so I don't know how expensive is the treatment , you have other ways , you can buy the book "A headache in the Pelvis" and see if that relates with you (which judging from the symptoms you wrote, it will), and also you can find techniques and info about Wise Anderson protocol online.
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I really really hope you get better
I know this was probably your first resource but on the off chance you haven't read it go get the book "Headache of the Pelvis"
https://www.amazon.com/Headache-Pelvis-Revised-Expanded-Updated/dp/0972775552
Best money spent and I believe its where I found my stretching specifically for pelvic floor muscles. The one on amazon right now has been updated recently I guess. I'll have to get a new copy for myself too.
https://www.amazon.com/Headache-Pelvis-New-Expanded-Understanding/dp/0972775552
I paid for the book. to be fair, it's drawn out with synopses of pelvic pain but it provided utmost clarity about what type of pain I suffer from and how to relax it.
That said, if you don't have the cash i'm sure you can gather a lot of tips from r/pelvicfloor. Try to sort by top posts of all time.
>I don't know when this started but I first started noticing it when I lost my job a few months ago. The only thing I can think of that could have caused it is prolonged sitting.
Yes, and also the stress of losing your job. Work on stress as well as muscles/nerves (meditation helps)
This books is very informative on things you can do (but you have to ignore the shilling for the author's pain clinic unless you can afford it)
https://www.amazon.com/Headache-Pelvis-New-Expanded-Understanding/dp/0972775552
A Headache in the Pelvis might be a good read as its research mainly focused on male pelvic pain. I am female with chronic pelvic pain and the book has at least given me other outlooks and resource. Valium suppositories helped me more than oral muscle relaxers as my personal experience. I’ve also had suppositories compounded with baclofen and tetracaine (and Valium). Possibly finding a second opinion urologist or even a pain management might help getting answers. Good luck
I am without symptoms 6 months now, after 5 years of 24/7 pain.
After 10 different doctors and tons of antibiotics i discovered the wise anderson protocol that changed everything for me.
I took anti depressants for a year and alpha blockers + quercetin. Now i dont take anything and i am in a zero symptoms condition.
THIS helped me understand whats going
I know you are asking about dating with this health problem. But I'd like to approach this from alternate health discourses. Have you read the book A Headache in the Pelvis?
This book along with therapeutic tools like the Therawand, and possibly Aneros prostate massagers, and butt plugs could potentially help you be pain free and be able to have erections and a libido again.
Pelvic pain can often be due to trigger points within the pelvic muscles. Since you've been tested and there doesn't seem to be a germ factor causing the pain it might be worth looking into. There are a few books on treating treating trigger points caused by pelvic pain. Here is probably the most thorough. It's called "A Headache in the Pelvis"
I highly recommend that you take a look, I suffered from pelvic pain for years without knowing the cause because unfortunately most doctors are not trained in treating trigger points. I hope this helps!
A few things:
- I have a cushion from carmichealthrone.com that's specially designed to keep all weight off your pelvis. They're expensive but absolutely worth it.
- See if you can find a pain doctor who's familiar with pelvic stuff. Mine has me on gralise, celecoxib, and duloxetine. They don't eliminate the pain but they definitely reduce it.
- The biggest thing you need to start changing is the mental side of it. So much of this issue is a muscle-brain feedback problem, where our pelvis hurts, so our brain makes those muscles clench, which makes it hurt even more, which makes it clench even more, and so on. For me, practicing mindfulness and focusing on every little muscle in my pelvic floor is key. It takes a lot of practice, though, so don't get frustrated if it takes a while to work.
- Speaking of, you should go to physical therapy. There are a number of different ways of attacking this issue, but the main one I've had is myofascial release. People are hesitant because it involves the PT inserting a finger up there to massage the muscles from the inside, but honestly, after the initial session anxiety, you get to where it really doesn't bother you. To put it bluntly: we regularly push out pieces of poop from there and aren't bothered by it at all, so why should we be scared of a single finger? It's not like it hurts, it's just sort of weird feeling.
- A Headache In The Pelvis is a classic. It has tons of resources and many of us swear by it. Not to mention, there are plenty of other resources that show up on that Amazon page, so there's probably something good for you in there.
- If you're a male, see a urologist about prostatitis. It's what triggers my pelvic pain, so attacking that issue could be the key to fixing all this.
Hope this helps. Feel free to message me if you want to talk.
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Please take a look at the book - A headache in the pelvis https://www.amazon.com/Headache-Pelvis-New-Expanded-Understanding/dp/0972775552
Just got this: https://www.amazon.com/Headache-Pelvis-Revised-Expanded-Updated/dp/0972775552 and while I haven't gotten far reading it, it seems worthwhile.
Sorry to hear about your insurance man.
These 2 books deal directly with the condition and go over some stretches and trigger point therapy:
A Headache in the Pelvis, a New, Revised, Expanded and Updated 6th Edition: A New Understanding and Treatment for Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndromes https://www.amazon.com/dp/0972775552/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_p0zcxb0ZZHKJ6
Heal Pelvic Pain: The Proven Stretching, Strengthening, and Nutrition Program for Relieving Pain, Incontinence,& I.B.S, and Other Symptoms Without Surgery https://www.amazon.com/dp/0071546561/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_z1zcxb98XDPQ1