{"product":{"product_id":"0452289963","title":"A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose (Oprah's Book Club, Selection 61)","price":null,"image_url":"https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41h3oTpeC8L._SL500_.jpg","url":"https://www.amazon.com/dp/0452289963"},"comments":[{"body":"Let people who want to be miserable be miserable. You can't charm or argue them into being content or happy. You can gift them an [Ekhart Tolle](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963) book for Christmas, but that's about it. \r\n\r\nTry to let go of your feeling of responsibility over her and her family's enjoyment of the holiday. You  did nothing wrong, and you are not responsible to pay for last years \"sins\" for the rest of your life. Talk with your spouse about what you guys want to do this year, and if it doesn't involve them, that's fine","subreddit_name":"Mildlynomil","author":"EatYourCheckers"},{"body":"Hey, I'm not that person, but [A New Earth](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963) by Eckhart Tolle was a game-changer for me.\r\n\r\nBasically we get so locked into our obsession with the past and the future that we almost always forget about the present. And when you think about it, the present is always the only moment that you ever live in. We can't live in the past and the future never comes, it's just a succession of present moments. So make the best of the present for a better future you.","subreddit_name":"AskReddit","author":"greatunknownpub"},{"body":"Awesome self-awareness and an important first step toward greater overall peace and contentment. But you probably don't have to look anywhere for happiness, though growth and change are likely to be part of the process. I enjoyed [A New Earth](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963) and it was a very popular framing of the sort of inner work that goes into overcoming many of our misconceptions about who we are and what's really important. All the best with your process!","subreddit_name":"Anger","author":"GrowingInGratitude"},{"body":"Please text 741741 crisis text line.  You will have someone to talk to in real time over text.  There are millions of people who feel like you do.  You are not as alone as you think.  \r\n\r\nEdit: try this book as well.  It can make a huge difference.  So can similar books.  Knowledge is power. \r\n\r\n[A new Earth](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963)","subreddit_name":"2meirl4meirl","author":"AJRollon"},{"body":"In addition to everyone's recommendations here, as an additional tool I highly recommend picking up one of [Eckhart Tolle's books](https://www.amazon.ca/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;qid=1492799808\u0026amp;sr=8-1-spell\u0026amp;keywords=echkart+tolle)  \r\n\r\nThis book is not a bunch of \"spiritual mumbo jumbo\". It contains tons of practical advice that we all can use.  If it carries more weight with you, Oprah considers Eckhart's book one of the 10 favorite books from the last decade.","subreddit_name":"Calgary","author":"MrG"},{"body":"Kysy helvetin hyviä kysymyksiä! Pistää ihan mietityttään.\r\n\r\n\u0026gt; Ovatko siis myös tietoisuudesta tulleet ideologiat haitallisia ihmiselle? Voiko tietoisuus luoda ihmiselle hyödyllistä ideologiaa?\r\n\r\nPeriaatteessa ovat. Buddhalaisuus ja hindulaisuus johdattelevat tietoisuuden heräämiseen. Ne eivät ole uskontoja samalla tavalla kuin Abrahamilaiset uskonnot. Mutta tietoisuuteen johdattelevat ideologiat voivat myös olla haitallisia, jos ne eivät onnistu toteuttamaan tehtäväänsä. Joku ihminen, joka on tässä epäonnistunut saattaisi *ajatella* \"minä olen buddhalainen, olen parempi kuin tyhmät kristityt\". Tosi kärjistetty ja ei varmaan kukaan näin tietoisesti ajattelisi, mutta pointti on validi. \r\n\r\nSanoin aikaisemmin että tietoisuus ja ideologia ovat vastakohtia. Se on ehkä vähän väärin sanottu. Tietoisuus on ideologian puute tai puutos. Ajatellaan verraten: tietoisuus on kaunis maisema, ideologia on valokuva maisemasta. Joskus se kuva on todella vääristynyt ja vääristetty ja ruma. Jo mainitut buddhalaisuus ja hindulaisuus ovat erittäin lähellä totuutta. \r\n\r\n\u0026gt;Onko mahdollista erottaa onko kielellisesti tuotettu tieto lähtöisin ideologiasta tai tietoisuudesta?\r\n\r\nKirjoitukset, sanat ja ajatukset voivat vain osoittaa tietoisuuden suuntaan ja ohjata mieltä heräämään tietoisuuteen, mutta kuten jo sanoin eivät voi olla sitä itseään.\r\n\r\nJos sua oikeesti kiinnostaa tämmöset hommat niin mää suosittelisin sua lukemaan [kirjan](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;qid=1489777079\u0026amp;sr=8-1\u0026amp;keywords=a+new+earth).","subreddit_name":"Suomi","author":"ScotchDream"},{"body":"This is going to sound like someone parachuting in to drop a quick nugget of info and bailing, but it's not meant to be that. This book REALLY helped me deal with my anxiety attacks and the way I thought about myself. I highly recommend it:\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963","subreddit_name":"LifeProTips","author":"aagha786"},{"body":"Absolutely. No human is worthless, and it is only in the dimension of the ego that one can feel good or bad about themselves in light of past happenings.\r\n\r\nI recommend you read [A new earth by Eckarth Tolle](http://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963) and learn more about the ego - and in that way learning to unidentify with your past actions and the guilt that came with it.\r\n\r\nNo human is perfect, and it is our flaws that make us beautiful. Really. We've all made mistakes friend, but it is our intention that is important. \r\nRemember all the good things you've done, you're only human.","subreddit_name":"Meditation","author":"AlmightyEazel"},{"body":"All religions do their best to point to that which cannot be reduced to words. My own recommendation would be to start with a book that recognizes this truth.\r\n\r\nA New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose https://www.amazon.com/dp/0452289963/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_O9oZub0JMM215","subreddit_name":"religion","author":"MyEgoSays"},{"body":"[This book](http://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;qid=1346114981\u0026amp;sr=8-1\u0026amp;keywords=new+earth+eckhart+tolle) is great for understanding more about yourself. Basically, it is about the ego. There is part describing the workings of the ego and part pointing to the remedy. Essentially it says that everybody's purpose in life is to live in the present moment as much as they can.","subreddit_name":"ask","author":"frotoe08"},{"body":"Your attention is like a muscle. The more you train it, the better the control you have over it. [Mindfulness training](https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/) will help you gain better control over your mind. It doesn't take much effort, just 15 to 20 minutes a day of doing nothing but focus your attention is enough and is scientifically proven to work. As you become better at focusing your attention, it will become easier to force yourself to stop having negative thoughts, which will break the negative reinforcement cycle. Go here if you have specific questions: /r/Meditation\r\n\r\nI like [this book](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963) from Eckhart Tolle. Has 5500 ratings, 4.5 star. [PDF](https://www.apnamba.com/Ebooks-pdf/A%20new%20Earth.pdf). It's eclectic in its approach, it doesn't mind leaning on Freud, Jung, Buddha and Jesus and it's not too long.\r\n\r\nIt basically tries to explain and teach you to distinguish between you, the observer and you, the inner voice (of ego) and how this inner voice causes a lot of the problems we face in every day life. And how to silence this inner voice that causes jealousy, anguish and a wide range of other issues.\r\n\r\nTake 5 minutes every day [to practice gratitude.](https://www.pasadenavilla.com/2020/11/18/gratitude-and-depression)\r\n\r\nOnline resources:\r\n\r\n* [Buddhism for beginners](https://tricycle.org/beginners/)\r\n* New to Buddhism? [Get a short overview and practical advice. ](https://studybuddhism.com/)\r\n\r\nHighest rated books:\r\n\r\n* [The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberatio](https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Buddhas-Teaching-Transforming-Liberation/dp/B00KNAZA52) 4.8 start, 900+ ratings\r\n* [Why Buddhism Is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment](https://www.amazon.com/Why-Buddhism-True-Philosophy-Enlightenment/dp/B073XT51R3) 4.3 star, 600+ ratings\r\n\r\nGo here if you have more questions: /r/Buddhism. They also have a [very detailed FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/Buddhism/wiki/faq)\r\n\r\n\r\n[Trust Issues: Why Is It So Hard for Some People to Trust?](https://www.psychalive.org/trust-issues/)\r\n\r\nThere are numerous aversive childhood experiences that contribute to children's mistrust and lack of confidence. For example, parents' inconsistent responses or their failure to deliver on their promises create insecurity and distrust in their children. Parent's frightening outbursts of rage can shatter a child's trust in a predictable world.\r\n\r\nBest articles I could find on how to address trust issues:\r\n\r\n* [7 Signs Of Trust Issues + 11 Ways To Get Over Them](https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/6833/trust-issues/)\r\n* [Working through trust issues](https://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2016/11/trust-issues/) can feel like walking on broken glass. You just know you're going to bleed.\r\n\r\nLetting go, regardless, requires one thing above all: Taking the risk of being hurt.\r\n\r\nThe process looks something like this:\r\n\r\n1. Be willing to risk the pain of learning to trust.\r\n2. Find a trust partner (a therapist or coach can work, if they understand trust issues).\r\n3. Learn how trust works (how it is earned and how to extend it).\r\n3. Take emotional risks with your trust partner.\r\n4. Confront your trust prejudice, suspicions, fears and painful feelings around trust as you take calculated risks.\r\n5. Learn from the process, rinse and repeat until you can consciously trust and know how to extend trust well.\r\n\r\nThe best videos on dealing with trust issues:\r\n\r\n* [How to Deal With Trust Issues](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ci-zID4EAPU) (5min)\r\n* [3 Ways To Overcome Trust Issues](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=162q6hyBNes) (9min)\r\n* [How To Rebuild Lost Trust In A Relationship](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYuxLfB_VAY) (11min)\r\n\r\nBest book:\r\n\r\n[The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting Relationships](https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Trust-Building-Lasting-Relationships/dp/1572243805)\r\n\r\nThere is a small group of people (that generally deal with anxiety issues as well as trust issues), that will have an above average amount of trouble trusting others. These are people with avoidant personalities. Generally this is a lifelong issue that starts in early childhood.\r\n\r\n[Test for avoidant personality disorder](https://psymed.info/avoidant-personality-disorder-test). Let me know if you scored over 34 and I'll give you additional (self help) resources.","subreddit_name":"Advice","author":"ParkingPsychology"},{"body":"You learn from your mistakes and you move on. If you can't do that, you lack control over your mind. If you lack control over your mind, start meditating.\r\n\r\nYour attention is like a muscle. The more you train it, the better the control you have over it. [Mindfulness training](https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/) will help you gain better control over your mind. It doesn't take much effort, just 15 to 20 minutes a day of doing nothing but focus your attention is enough and is scientifically proven to work. As you become better at focusing your attention, it will become easier to force yourself to stop having negative thoughts, which will break the negative reinforcement cycle. Go here if you have specific questions: /r/Meditation\r\n\r\nI like [this book](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963) from Eckhart Tolle. Has 5500 ratings, 4.5 star. [PDF](https://www.apnamba.com/Ebooks-pdf/A%20new%20Earth.pdf). It's eclectic in its approach, it doesn't mind leaning on Freud, Jung, Buddha and Jesus and it's not too long.\r\n\r\nIt basically tries to explain and teach you to distinguish between you, the observer and you, the inner voice (of ego) and how this inner voice causes a lot of the problems we face in every day life. And how to silence this inner voice that causes jealousy, anguish and a wide range of other issues.\r\n\r\nTake 5 minutes every day [to practice gratitude.](https://www.pasadenavilla.com/2020/11/18/gratitude-and-depression)\r\n\r\nOnline resources:\r\n\r\n* [Buddhism for beginners](https://tricycle.org/beginners/)\r\n* New to Buddhism? [Get a short overview and practical advice. ](https://studybuddhism.com/)\r\n\r\nHighest rated books:\r\n\r\n* [The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberatio](https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Buddhas-Teaching-Transforming-Liberation/dp/B00KNAZA52) 4.8 start, 900+ ratings\r\n* [Why Buddhism Is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment](https://www.amazon.com/Why-Buddhism-True-Philosophy-Enlightenment/dp/B073XT51R3) 4.3 star, 600+ ratings\r\n\r\nGo here if you have more questions: /r/Buddhism. They also have a [very detailed FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/Buddhism/wiki/faq)","subreddit_name":"Advice","author":"ParkingPsychology"},{"body":"Your attention is like a muscle. The more you train it, the better the control you have over it. [Mindfulness training](https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/) will help you gain better control over your mind. It doesn't take much effort, just 15 to 20 minutes a day of doing nothing but focus your attention is enough and is scientifically proven to work. As you become better at focusing your attention, it will become easier to force yourself to stop having negative thoughts, which will break the negative reinforcement cycle. Go here if you have specific questions: /r/Meditation\r\n\r\nI like [this book](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963) from Eckhart Tolle. Has 5500 ratings, 4.5 star. [PDF](https://www.apnamba.com/Ebooks-pdf/A%20new%20Earth.pdf). It's eclectic in its approach, it doesn't mind leaning on Freud, Jung, Buddha and Jesus and it's not too long.\r\n\r\nIt basically tries to explain and teach you to distinguish between you, the observer and you, the inner voice (of ego) and how this inner voice causes a lot of the problems we face in every day life. And how to silence this inner voice that causes jealousy, anguish and a wide range of other issues.\r\n\r\nTake 5 minutes every day [to practice gratitude.](https://www.pasadenavilla.com/2020/11/18/gratitude-and-depression)\r\n\r\nOnline resources:\r\n\r\n* [Buddhism for beginners](https://tricycle.org/beginners/)\r\n* New to Buddhism? [Get a short overview and practical advice. ](https://studybuddhism.com/)\r\n\r\nHighest rated books:\r\n\r\n* [The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberatio](https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Buddhas-Teaching-Transforming-Liberation/dp/B00KNAZA52) 4.8 start, 900+ ratings\r\n* [Why Buddhism Is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment](https://www.amazon.com/Why-Buddhism-True-Philosophy-Enlightenment/dp/B073XT51R3) 4.3 star, 600+ ratings\r\n\r\nGo here if you have more questions: /r/Buddhism. They also have a [very detailed FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/Buddhism/wiki/faq)","subreddit_name":"Advice","author":"ParkingPsychology"},{"body":"\u0026gt;Seems trivial, but I tend to miss words when I write and Idk how to fix it.\r\n\r\nI do it all the time. It's because I write so much in my case. I also swap in completely wrong words on occasion. I just do a proper check of what I wrote. It's fine. In return for that reduced accuracy, I can type faster and then I get to review my thoughts when I read what I wrote. It's a good habit.\r\n\r\n\u0026gt;I’m also a little concerned if this is part of a bigger issue... Because I also mess up basic math sometimes ie 3/3=0. \r\n\r\nReading? Or in your head? Because when I read that I made the same mistake, lol. But in my head, I would never make that mistake. I just use calculators most of the time. I'm quite clever, you know. I just sacrifice accuracy for speed.\r\n\r\nIf it is really important, I can slow down my mind. It's just that most of the time it doesn't matter. If you can't slow down your mind when needed, well then you should probably start meditating. That way you can get control over that.\r\n\r\nI think what you described is probably (one of the) symptoms of ADHD, by the way (and I do have that somewhat). But meditation should work for that, regardless of the cause.\r\n\r\nYour attention is like a muscle. The more you train it, the better the control you have over it. [Mindfulness training](https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/) will help you gain better control over your mind. It doesn't take much effort, just 15 to 20 minutes a day of doing nothing but focus your attention is enough and is scientifically proven to work. As you become better at focusing your attention, it will become easier to force yourself to stop having negative thoughts, which will break the negative reinforcement cycle. Go here if you have specific questions: /r/Meditation\r\n\r\nI like [this book](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963) from Eckhart Tolle. Has 5500 ratings, 4.5 star. [PDF](https://www.apnamba.com/Ebooks-pdf/A%20new%20Earth.pdf). It's eclectic in its approach, it doesn't mind leaning on Freud, Jung, Buddha and Jesus and it's not too long.\r\n\r\nIt basically tries to explain and teach you to distinguish between you, the observer and you, the inner voice (of ego) and how this inner voice causes a lot of the problems we face in every day life. And how to silence this inner voice that causes jealousy, anguish and a wide range of other issues.\r\n\r\nTake 5 minutes every day [to practice gratitude.](https://www.pasadenavilla.com/2020/11/18/gratitude-and-depression)\r\n\r\nOnline resources:\r\n\r\n* [Buddhism for beginners](https://tricycle.org/beginners/)\r\n* New to Buddhism? [Get a short overview and practical advice. ](https://studybuddhism.com/)\r\n\r\nHighest rated books:\r\n\r\n* [The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberatio](https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Buddhas-Teaching-Transforming-Liberation/dp/B00KNAZA52) 4.8 start, 900+ ratings\r\n* [Why Buddhism Is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment](https://www.amazon.com/Why-Buddhism-True-Philosophy-Enlightenment/dp/B073XT51R3) 4.3 star, 600+ ratings\r\n\r\nGo here if you have more questions: /r/Buddhism. They also have a [very detailed FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/Buddhism/wiki/faq)","subreddit_name":"Advice","author":"ParkingPsychology"},{"body":"Your attention is like a muscle. The more you train it, the better the control you have over it. [Mindfulness training](https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/) will help you gain better control over your mind. It doesn't take much effort, just 15 to 20 minutes a day of doing nothing but focus your attention is enough and is scientifically proven to work. As you become better at focusing your attention, it will become easier to force yourself to stop having negative thoughts, which will break the negative reinforcement cycle. Go here if you have specific questions: /r/Meditation\r\n\r\nI like [this book](https://www.amazon.com/New-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection/dp/0452289963) from Eckhart Tolle. Has 5500 ratings, 4.5 star. [PDF](https://www.apnamba.com/Ebooks-pdf/A%20new%20Earth.pdf). It's eclectic in its approach, it doesn't mind leaning on Freud, Jung, Buddha and Jesus and it's not too long.\r\n\r\nIt basically tries to explain and teach you to distinguish between you, the observer and you, the inner voice (of ego) and how this inner voice causes a lot of the problems we face in every day life. And how to silence this inner voice that causes jealousy, anguish and a wide range of other issues.\r\n\r\nTake 5 minutes every day [to practice gratitude.](https://www.pasadenavilla.com/2020/11/18/gratitude-and-depression)\r\n\r\nOnline resources:\r\n\r\n* [Buddhism for beginners](https://tricycle.org/beginners/)\r\n* New to Buddhism? [Get a short overview and practical advice. ](https://studybuddhism.com/)\r\n\r\nHighest rated books:\r\n\r\n* [The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberatio](https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Buddhas-Teaching-Transforming-Liberation/dp/B00KNAZA52) 4.8 start, 900+ ratings\r\n* [Why Buddhism Is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment](https://www.amazon.com/Why-Buddhism-True-Philosophy-Enlightenment/dp/B073XT51R3) 4.3 star, 600+ ratings\r\n\r\nGo here if you have more questions: /r/Buddhism. They also have a [very detailed FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/Buddhism/wiki/faq)","subreddit_name":"Advice","author":"ParkingPsychology"}]}