So I heard about them from Domesticblisters on TikTok, don’t know if she recommends a specific brand but I found at least one kind on Amazon:
Adult Pre-Pasted Disposable Toothbrushes - 144 per pack https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00AU4LNBG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_5PDDDE0RHJBADRJVM6Q3
thought this was fake. but shit is a real product. around 50 cents each. https://www.amazon.ca/Adult-Pre-Pasted-Disposable-Toothbrushes-pack/dp/B00AU4LNBG/ref=mp_s_a_1_7?adgrpid=61383520712&hvadid=310002726663&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=9061026&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t2&hvqmt=e&hvrand=14593378868619052290&am...
Seconding the suggestion of finding KC Davis and following her advice! She recently did a live video on Amazon (you can watch the recording here) going through all sorts of hygiene products and solutions for when you just can't get yourself to "do the things."
Three things that might help you the most:
1) Disposable pre-pasted toothbrushes! Keep them all over your home so whenever you think of it you can just grab one and pop it in your mouth. This takes out a lot of the effort and steps. They don't have a ton of toothpaste on them so you don't even need to spit when you're done!
2) Lower the bar and make your goal as small as easy as possible. Something like "brush one tooth, each day" (at ANY time of day, maybe not even using toothpaste). If you can make the goal small enough, it might be easier to build a habit of doing it every day. Some days you might keep going and brush two teeth (or even all of them), but if you only brush that one tooth, you've still met your goal! Eventually, you might be able to increase the goal, but go really slowly so you can remain successful. Think about it like spinning a wheel... It's easier to keep it spinning than to have to start spinning it from stopped. If you can keep moving towards your hygiene goals a teeny tiny bit at a time, you can build momentum.
3) Make it more interesting. Get a new toothbrush and/or a new kind of toothpaste (maybe toothpaste tablets?). Maybe get several flavors so you can rotate them to keep it interesting. Create a reward system (think a sticker chart or something similar) for building the daily habit. Maybe turn on some music or watch a short video or anything that might make it a little more interesting.
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okay so many people have commented so maybe no one will see this but if anyone does I hope this could be helpful: (please check out domesticblisters on tik tok - she is a game changer and has ADHD)
First, be honest (and forgiving!) with yourself about what your needs are and try to focus a little bit at a time on things that you can incorporate into your life. The world was created for neurotypical brains and I think it can be difficult to realize that you are allowed to do things differently. One example of this (from the tik-toker i mentioned above) is single-use toothbrushes. She was finding it difficult to remember and actually brush her teeth. She bought a bunch of single-use toothbrushes that already have "toothpaste" on them that doesn't require spitting and it allowed her to still take care of her teeth during that time. (one link I found on amazon)
Okay maybe it's waste but literally everything is and there is really no ethical consumption under capitalism and you deserve good teeth. The same goes for those little floss sticks, I will literally keep some in my car and randomly floss when I remember.
Make things work for you! brushing your teeth and flossing in the typical way is not necessary or moral. Taking care of your teeth, though, is important for your health and frankly doing the bare minimum is often enough. And to be honest I've found that a lot of small changes in my environment have helped me in slowly adjusting my behavior.
If you have the insurance perhaps consider getting your teeth professionally cleaned more frequently? I had periodontal issues when I was around your age and it forced me to get my teeth cleaned way more for about a year and it really helped me try to maintain things differently.
These are pre-pasted toothbrushes. 😒
Whether or not this is a reasonable request on her part is sort of a moot point, since it's obviously something she's not willing to budge on. If this is a deal breaker for you, that would be understandable, but it doesn't seem like it is. It's possible that she'll relax about this as time goes on, and that process will probably be quicker if you are accommodating--turning it into a fight will probably make her double down. If your primary concern is that you'd like to be able to kiss at restaurants, I would look into some disposable toothbrushes w/ toothpaste on them already. (https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Pre-Pasted-Disposable-Toothbrushes-pack/dp/B00AU4LNBG?th=1) Pop one in your pocket before you go out, brush right after the steak etc., then you can kiss on the rest of your date.
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Personally, I used to have a similar rule with my gf, and got over it. The smell/taste of meat and dairy is pretty gross to me and I didn't want to start associating it with her kissing me! But over time as we got closer that seemed less and less likely. Best of luck to you two!