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Most things you'll find on it these days is women asking how to reconcile their beliefs with their sexual desires.
This is because feminism and sexual submission can very easily be seen as incompatible.
"You're also making the claim that bad Doms rape. Those aren't Doms."
Literally the entire point of my article is the "No TRUE Scotsman" fallacy, and yet here you are...using the very logical fallacy that I critique in my article (No True Scotsman). Irony. Whether you consider them Doms or not is irrelevant. They consider themselves Doms.
"Playing victim is okay." That's really interesting, because people accuse radical feminists of "playing the victim" even though we actually empower ourselves to NOT allow ourselves to be the victim anymore. We choose not to be told we're "fucking filthy whores" in bed while being paddled with instruments. We choose to get educations instead of saying that the sex trade is an empowering "career choice" for women. For the lesbians, we choose not to partner with men and therefore do not give men power in our personal lives.
"Also your source, while probably a good read..."
No, it actually IS a good read. Your saying "probably" implies that you haven't read it, because if you had, you'd have said "it's not a good read," "it's an okay read" or "it's a great read." And if your stance is pro-BDSM, you should at least hear out your opposition if anything to strengthen your own arguments. Again, the book is called "Unpacking Queer Politics" by Sheila Jeffreys. "Beauty and Misogyny" is also a good read too (even though it doesn't have much to do with BDSM).
Also, as someone with a BA in Sociology, I know how studies get funding, and I know about surveyor bias, I know about how to manipulate data to get the results you want. Chances are if the researcher has an agenda, it will come out, whether from the funding process of who is paying for the "research," from participants willingly skewing data, or the researcher skewing final results based on different types of statistical tests. I can tell you that for me personally, I'm a lot healthier and happier now that I no longer practice BDSM compared to back when I was. In some ways it was a coping mechanism, but in other ways all it did was trigger me throughout the entire scene. Even with me being "in control." Besides, you speak of coping mechanisms...a lot of so-called coping mechanisms are entirely unhealthy, like substance abuse, self-mutilation, eating disorders, and others. A lot of "coping mechanisms" are detrimental. The entire fact that you need a coping mechanism means that you still have a lot of psychological work left to do in order to get past your traumas.
In the meantime, here are some reading materials that you might like.
Here is an entire BOOK dedicated to the topic of being BDSM-critical, if that's more your interest.
On the topic of pornography as propaganda, so a little off topic, but still of interest: http://againstallevidence.wordpress.com/pornstitution-basics/