This. Also, keep puffing along while you read. Then quit at the end. Boom you’re free.
I quit smoking cigarettes over a decade ago, after a year of patches and gum and starting up again and quitting again and again. What finally did it for me was this book. It doesn't tell you anything you don't already know, but the way he says it makes it really sink in. You can probably get a copy from your local library if you don't want to buy it.
Your partner ought to quit too. It's bad for him, the secondhand and thirdhand "smoke" isn't good for you, and he should be supporting you while you do this. Leaving his shit around is the opposite of that. On the other hand, if he's not thinking of quitting himself already, he'll probably be awful to deal with during the nic fits. Kinda need to weigh how much you want to deal with that. I'd definitely make him vape outside from here on out, though.
I hope someone who has actually read this chimes in but as far as I know, it’s a quit smoking book. The writer smoked for 30 years and wrote a book about how he easily quit and I see a lot of now non smokers on this sub that speak a lot about it. Here is the Amazon link.
This type of meditation is about letting go of craving by relaxing the body. The mind and body are connected. By affecting one you affect the other.
https://www.dhammasukha.org/_files/ugd/d704f3_ff9b4f72690046a4a79955a1ab7c2ea3.pdf
https://www.dhammasukha.org/getting-started-with-twim
You might also find Allen Carr's method for quitting smoking helpful. Probably applicable to drugs other than nicotine. https://www.amazon.com/Allen-Carrs-Smoking-Without-Willpower/dp/178404542X
Allen Carr is the writer (in theory). The version I bought is here but there are others: https://www.amazon.com/dp/178404542X
Maybe we could be quitting buddies. 🤷♀️. Here’s the book I’ve been told to read.
Read or listen to "Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Smoking"
https://www.amazon.com/Allen-Carrs-Smoking-Without-Willpower/dp/178404542X
Works like magic