Anthony de Mello - Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality
(actually, the freely available audio talks these are a transcript from). Coolest Jesuit priest ever IMHO
This occurred to me the other day, thoughts are the domain of the ego, you will never win there. It seems one of their main purposes is to ensure the continuation of the ego, outside of just being a miscellaneous collection of crap.
This reminds me of 'Awareness' by Anthony de Mello. Good stuff:
Two things that helped me:
What is, is
The world as we know it is based on a general agreement (things are the way they are, because we're globally fine with it).
Some people have the drive, the will, the calling to change the general agreement. I recognize myself as one single ant in an ant colony, and decided to start from myself and little by little, slowly by slowly to radiate toward others, may they be family, friends or people who cross my way.
It starts from the center. It is what it is. You are what you are. And you are enough, at your center, you are enough. As theoretical as it may sound, first take care of you, then radiate. It starts by taking time to enjoy small things, to walk in parks or forest.
This book helped me tremendously on that path.
Have a safe trip, brother.
Awareness by Anthony DeMello. I've seen it referenced several times previously in other Reddit threads.
When I read it I was an active Catholic / Christian with many questions about my faith.
In simple terms, De Mello shows the common threads throughout many religions - Jewish, Christian, Hindu, Buddhist (and Muslim, too, I think). He discusses how many of the great spiritual leaders shared very common ideas which largely pertain to being in the Here and Now.
My friend gave me a cassette tapes of the seminar that was the basis for the book. While I had read Awareness at least 5 times previously, I had a better understanding of it after hearing the tapes. The book is funnier than I had realized. He's laughing most of the way through the seminar.
I've read many of his other books, too. I think that if more authors like him were read, there would be many fewer disagreements between people over religion.
You should read Awareness by Anthony de Mello
Here is a sample of what you will find in the book :) :
> Last year on Spanish television I heard a story about this gentleman who knocks on his son’s door. “Jaime,” he says, “wake up!” Jaime answers, “I don’t want to get up, Papa.” The father shouts, “Get up, you have to go to school.” Jaime says, “I don’t want to go to school.” “Why not?” asks the father. “Three reasons,” says Jaime. “First, because it’s so dull; second, the kids tease me; and third, I hate school.” And the father says, “Well, I am going to give you three reasons why you must go to school. First, because it is your duty; second, because you are forty-five years old, and third, because you are the headmaster.” Wake up, wake up! You’ve grown up. You’re too big to be asleep. Wake up! Stop playing with your toys.
You need to read this book, he addresses all your questions and will probably change how you view love (most of your questions are really dealing with lust, the rest are with attachment - not love).