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If your wife wants to have the baby sleep in the bed, get her a co-sleeper bassinet that stays on the bed. It gives the baby a safe place (firm flat surface) to sleep and also let’s you be close to her. We used this one and it was great.
Baby Delight Snuggle Nest Harmony Portable Infant Sleeper, Silver Clouds, Unique Patented Design, Baby Bed - New!! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014F7UEXG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_4DN700N9J4F42YHKB4SS
Seconded! We had one like this (I bought a used one for $10 on Facebook Marketplace) for the early days. My son wanted to be close so I'd fall asleep with a big pillow propping up my arm and I'd sleep with my hand on his chest. He seemed to tolerate that ok. The only bummer about in-bed bassinets is that usually you can't fit a husband in bed because they take up a lot of space. So my husband used to sleep on the sofa or blow-up mattress in a different room. It's all about survival when they're so small.
I've been staunchly against cosleeping but I have been sick for 3 weeks with a virus that is like a cold but it is also in my eyes. I have light sensitivity and have to lie down in the dark a lot. (I'm communicating with my doctor regularly.)
I have been nursing in bed during some of these times because DD is also sick with a shotty nose and has been nursing a lot. I fell asleep once with her latched and woke up to my husband trying to pick her up and put her in her crib without waking me. It terrified me. She is 16 weeks and could roll over, but I could roll onto her! It happened to my husband's cousin, she fell asleep on th couch with her baby and the baby fell into the crack in the cushions and suffocated. It is so sad.
I use a cosleeper with mesh sides and it helps immensely. I only sit up to breastfeed now (No lying down unless I'm not a bit tired), and the cosleeper makes it easier so I can bedshare safely on occasion. I never have her in the bed when my husband is in the bed because he is a heavy sleeper, a sleepwalker, and be flails his arms. It is difficult to resist letting my daughter sleep next to me as it is comforting for both of us, but I am too afraid something would happen. I got the cosleeper on Amazon for like 50 bucks and we keep it folded up under the bed so I can grab it when I need it. I highly recommend one. I feel it is the only safe way to bedshare.
Anyone who gets this cosleeper, I recommend you use a small fitted bassinet sheet to cover the mattress (if it fits tightly), because the mattress cover that comes with this one is polyester and I noticed it rubs off my baby's hair. Reviews on Amazon said it too. Happy safe sleeping, everyone!
Baby Delight Snuggle Nest Harmony Infant Sleeper/Baby Bed with Incline Wedge | Silver Clouds Fabric Pattern | Portable Bassinet/Co-Sleeper with Sound & Light Unit | Waterproof Foam Mattress w/ Sheet https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014F7UEXG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_hVTVDb1HT2KNM
Hey it’s me a year ago. Mine too hated the bassinet and crib.
It gets better. Hang in there. This too will pass. The first three months are notorious for a reason. If possible, sleep in shifts. If that means leaving for the couch while mom is on duty and vice versa, so be it. We basically started our nights at 6:00pm, and each slept for six hours while the other was on baby duty (minus breastfeed breaks for mom). I have no clue how single parents do it. Hats off to those supermoms and superdads.
For my baby, we kind of cheated and caved in and got a cosleeper basket like this one.. That way we could sleep next to her without rolling onto her. Worked really well, as she got to be close to us, and we could keep a hand on her tummy, plus we got to lie down. Another similar option would be a bedside cosleeper bassinet.
Blanket swaddles never worked either (she wiggled out easily), but she did really well with the Velcro sleep sack swaddle thingies from target.
Yup my newborn is 13 days old and sleeps great by himself during the day but at night husband and I have to take shifts. He does from 10-1, then I feed him, then he take him back until 4AM.
Luckily husband is a night owl and doesn’t have to work right now, but when he does go back he won’t be able to do until 4 anymore.
I’ve had luck with a cosleeper in the bed, like this Baby Delight Snuggle Nest Harmony Portable Infant Sleeper, Silver Clouds, Unique Patented Design, Baby Bed - New!! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014F7UEXG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_EZDVFV8JWMM9SNDXBZWV
I can put a hand on him and he’s settled pretty well the past 3 nights. But that can always change.
My advice is to just do what works from day to day right now. Their sleep will change as they get older, and a routine could be easier to implement.
Honestly my daughter was a poor sleeper and we held her in shifts until she was around 4 months old! But most babies are better by that point.
They also have co sleeping bassinets like this which i loved. Just a hand on my son's chest was enough to keep him calm or put him back to sleep. It's also very portable.
They also have co sleeping bassinets like this which i loved. Just a hand on my son's chest was enough to keep him calm or put him back to sleep. It's also very portable.
we got a portable bassinet that folds up and has a hard plastic frame. it fit perfectly in our queen bed and our son’s NICU team said it was a great option and only $50
Baby Delight Snuggle Nest Harmony Portable Infant Lounger | Silver Clouds | Unique Patented Design | Baby Lounger , X-Large (Pack of 1) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014F7UEXG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_PK2ZWGEV2Z8HFZBEQWTS
Co sleeper I have no idea if this is "approved" or not- I am pretty sure they say the only safe place for a baby is in the crib, but I know people use these. If it came down to the baby either being in my bed or being in my crib in their room, I would pick the crib. A lot of parents put their babies in their nurseries from the beginning, you just dont hear about it because SIDS and all.
I highly recommend the snuggle nest!! We were gifted one and it's honestly the BEST
We used one of these:
It's perfect for sitting on the kitchen counter while you're cooking. I never felt comfortable using a hot oven or stove while wearing my babies bc it didn't seem safe (I did baby wear all the time tho). Easy to move it wherever you will be.
I got 2 travel bassinets on Amazon. There are a few different brands but they’re between $40 and $80 and they are made for a baby to sleep in.
First lof all, if you aren't already cosleeping get something like this: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014F7UEXG/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_7BRCDSTGRY7V76Z9Q322
I have a similar one that I found at target. It's amazing, you can sleep in your own bed and snake your arm over to soothe baby, helps make sure you get those full 2-3 hour stretches. Absolute game changer, I went from sleeping in a rocking chair holding my baby (not safe but I legit couldn't stay awake). To feeling at least functional again.
Also newborn stage is the worst, it's the least sleep and most shock to your system with little gratification. Once they start smiling, laughing, babbling, or start reaching mile stones and you see this little creature that you made and that you are keeping alive is becoming close to a real human every day. Mine has had noticeable advancements in ability to crawl almost daily for the past 2 weeks. And currently even though she is having a sleep regression and waking up slightly earlier, seeing her smiling face when she sees me first thing in the morning makes me so damn happy even though I'm on like 4 hours of interrupted sleep (I was getting like 7-8 most nights, this regression is hitting hard no lie).
You made a thing! And that thing is going to grow and interact with the world, and you did that! The feelings absolutely get better, 2 weeks your hormones are still insane too, cut yourself some slack. You got this
Both are co-sleepers, as long as it works for you and is safe for sleep. Usually a bed top co-sleeper still has a firm bottom to prevent rolling and suffocation, kinda shaped like a Moses basket or a dresser drawer with handlers and mesh sides like this dockatot or preformed pillows are not designed for safe sleep and should not be used while unsupervised or during parents sleeping so are not recommended for co-sleeping.
We are thinking to get something like this- Baby Delight Snuggle Nest Harmony Portable Infant Sleeper, Silver Clouds, Unique Patented Design, Baby Bed - New!! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014F7UEXG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_0JG9FHMPXBZ4FBZ7FA1E.
We plan to bedshare. We have our place set up safely, and this is very important. I plan to breastfeed, which will lower sids risks below those of not bes sharing. Read up of the safety! Despite all that, we are going to have one of these just in case we feel too nervous.
We did something like this and it worked really well for us. We were in a one bedroom apartment when our daughter was born, and while we didn't actually end up using the cosleepeer too much in the bed, it allowed us to keep the baby by us regardless of what we were doing, but then could also easily move her to the crib if needed. Ours had a white noise machine attached as well, it was a lifesaver!
My baby is a week old and we are going through the same thing! He’s actually fine sleeping in his bassinet during daytime naps. But at nighttime he’s not settling. Husband and I take shifts holding him. I think it’s a pretty normal newborn thing and that they should be more amenable to a routine and schedule and better sleep in a few months.
Or so I’m told. My daughter as a newborn would never ever settle by herself..even after she was a little older m...I tried everything I could think of but we ended up bed sharing at 4 months when I simply couldn’t take it anymore!
Last night I had success with something like thiscosleeper thing last night, I just kept a hand near him and he settled a lot better. Possibly something to try!
We have been using this cosleeper bassinet
Just for the sleep part, I slept the first 2 weeks of my baby's life holding her in a rocking chair. Just nodded off while sitting in the chair. It was the only way I got her to sleep for more than 20-30 minutes, so I feel the sleep struggle. I definitely don't recommend that, but what saved me was one of those in-bed bassinets, something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Delight-Portable-Co-Sleeper-Waterproof/dp/B014F7UEXG/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=cosleeping+bassinet+in+bed&qid=1628081756&sr=8-2
I could essentially cuddle and soothe my baby with an arm reaching over and we both slept a lot better. The walls make it so you can't roll onto the baby and protect the baby from anything dangerous on the bed. Worked for me until my baby started being more mobile and tried to get out of it on her own. This isn't the exact model I got so I can't strictly attest to this one, but there are a couple different types and the idea is the same.
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Also, I have done the exclusively pumping thing, there is an Exclusively pumping facebook group that was amazing for helping with pumping issues. (But they will say things ignore the "fridge hack" and other methods of cutting back on cleaning parts, ignore that, there are safety issues for NICU and babies with immune problems, but for a healthy baby the hacks are completely fine, numerous medical professionals have suggested the fridge hack)
I got a bassinet that you put on the mattress of your bed & that seemed to help. bassinet IDK though, my little girl isn’t great at sleeping
I mean, people put their kids down on the ground on a blanket at home, how'd it any different? As long as, obviously, baby isn't somewhere where they'd get stepped on?! Seems the safest to me (something like putting them on the counter would risk rolling off/falling.) And it seems sort of ludicrous to me to buy something PURELY for one hour a week? I dunno, you could get something like this, I just don't really see what it's doing vs. a blanket! https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Delight-Portable-Co-Sleeper-Waterproof/dp/B014F7UEXG/ref=pd_lpo_vtph_tr_t_2?_encoding=UTF8&refRID=CCBBT10QSCE83ENGYWN2&th=1