Awww you’re having one! :) congratulations!!
I don’t have kids, but was recently looking for a gift for my best friend who’s on baby #2, and high on Amazon’s list was this baby husher machine... it has crazy good reviews and just might be crazy enough to work! Lol
Baby Shusher Sleep Miracle Soother https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D2JN87I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_FRYJCb2MYTWSA
They have tons of different ones. This is the one we used.
This isn't totally necessary, but man it was a life saver for us for the first few months. Good luck to you guys!
Baby Shusher The Sleep Miracle – Sound Machine – Rhythmic Human Voice Shushes Baby to Sleep Every Time – The Quickest Way to Get Baby to Sleep https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D2JN87I/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_2AFY4MDMTZKJM88V6QTP?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Our girl fights the Snoo but maybe not as aggressively. She does respond well to the baby shusher. Worth considering! I lay it down beside her and she responds within a minute or so.
This shusher thing helped us immensely. Basically just relentless shushing. You can control the volume and you can set it for 15mins or 30mins. We put it in our LOs bassinet every night and use it in her car seat.
I am so sick of shushing! My lips hurt from all the shushing! But my twins NEED it. So I got a battery operated shusher device on Amazon. 10/10. Check it out:
Trust me: the $35 is so worth it.
My wife and I found out about this when our first was only four months old. It knocked her out almost immediately. We brought it with us to the hospital when our second was born. We had it running in the room and the nurse noticed it and asked about it. She asked if she could take it with her to borrow it. We said sure.
Two hours later, she came back and told us that it knocked out two babies immediately and three others within five minutes. Prior to that, they had been crying and screaming and keeping each other awake for at least two hours.
I cannot oversell this thing. Trust me, it really, really works.
A Baby Shusher I wish I had this with mine! It mimics the noises inside the womb and is suppose to relax the baby to sleep. :)
Totally agree with this. I have a 4yo and 18mo and the 6S’s are clutch. I also would recommend getting a “shusher” from Amazon. You can just let it do its thing for 15 or 30 min....total lifesaver! Good luck, you’ll do fine.
Baby Shusher For Babies - Sleep Miracle Soother Sound Machine For New Parents https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D2JN87I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_vWDiEbJZZ5MZZ
This shusher was a lifesaver/game changer for us. Also second white noise/heart best and pacifier. But, it also could be a cluster feeding thing. Baby Shusher Sleep Miracle Soother https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D2JN87I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_1PwiCb7Q1XEKT
We put this in the back with LO the first few months when he would flip in the carseat. I loved it for the car but not sure the price is worth it for how long we used it. It has a 15 min or 30 mins setting. Baby Shusher - The Soothing Sleep Miracle for Babies https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D2JN87I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_zU3WwbPP35FZ5
Works really well
https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Shusher-Babies-Miracle-Soother/dp/B00D2JN87I
Congrats! Get this thing https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D2JN87I/ref=cm_sw_r_oth_api_glt_fabc_407TJSNSSN4AW0K9V131
Congratulations.
Though I'm not a parent myself, I work for a high end newborn photographer so I'll just give you tips on my observations.
Swaddle tight with stretchy materials and hold the arms down to the sides when swaddling
if mom is nursing, stay away from gassy vegetables and acidic foods as well. From our experience when the mom eats these things the baby is miserable the next day because of gas. We basically just recommend a boring bland diet. Only for the first few weeks though. After the first 3 or 4 weeks and then its usually ok. Every baby will be different so your mileage may vary. But from our experience 99% of the time we have cranky crying babies for the whole session is because mom had like spicy food or something else. Rule of thumb for us basically if the food has the potential to make your stomach uncomfortable sometimes then it might make baby uncomfortable as well
Get a yoga ball. trying to sooth baby, hold baby with head to your heart, sit on ball and start bouncing gently. Get yoga socks too if you have slippery floors.
diaper rash. Use huggies or honest brand. 9 out of 10 babies that come in with a rash are using pampers. Kirkland brand wipes from costco are great too. Our studio is stocked with huge packs of them.
Formulas. I'm not sure on the brands for this but don't go out buying huge amounts right away because some babies might not like them very much. Might make them gassy too so you may have to try a few brands before you land on the one that is right. There are also ones for sensitive stomachs ( more expensive though)
get a baby shusher or white noise, either this or this one, we use both in our studio.
get chux from amazon (basically look like puppy pads but are not scented or no chemicals) you'll probably seem them at the hospital. use them on your changing table, keep a few in your car. everywhere really so that where ever you are you can change baby an hopefully avoid soiling a bed/car/couch etc.
newborn size clothes is often too big for actual newborns
If you are getting photos taken 7-10 days is ideal. Most of the newborn photos you'll see are of 7-10 day old babies. Time will vary if preme or multiples. Don't wait several weeks and then still expect to get the same type of photos. at the very least try to book within 24 hours of giving birth though that may only apply to the photographer work for because most of our clients book well in advanced but there's always a few every now and then that call in trying to get in the same day and we have to behave ourselves when we explain that wont be possible.
Gripe water, buy it
Don't touch her stomach after she's given birth.
Get her a push present
have your go bag and car seat ready in the car even earlier than recommended. honestly not sure what's recommended but just do it as early as you can. a lot of our clients have been going early recently.
That's all I can think of for now. Good luck to you and don't worry nobody knows what they are doing the first time. Just by making this post looking for advice you will probably be more ready that many of the first time dads that come into our studio. Just enjoy your time together as much as possible those first few weeks and take lots of photos and videos even if its just on your phone. and back them up. babies grow so fast the first few weeks so they will never be that tiny again. Blink and its over. Oh and for the future, age 2 sucks but 3 should be good. you can usually start bribing them by 3. Again I want to reiterate that I myself and not a father (but I hope to be) so take all of this however you like. I've been working at this studio for almost a decade now (i'm 30) and these are just the things that I've seen and learned from all the parents that come in. Also, Asian babies are the best, have one of those if you can, they're usually prefect for their sessions...
(sorry about types, too lazy to go back and fix)
Not a book but absolutely worth the cost. This thing will save a LOT of hours of sleep.
The baby shusher was a life saver for me. Only con is it has only a 15 or 30 min timer
Congratulations! I am so happy for you! That’s very exciting!
I am a very proud Auntie. My sister-in-law (one of them) just had their fifth baby earlier this year and she has a motherhood/parenting blog/Instagram. And shortly after she had baby she made a post about her top baby products this time around (she was saying the same thing, she’s amazed how much has changed and how much new stuff there is that there wasn’t even with the baby right before this last one).
A couple of the weird cool ones that she talked about on that post were
this - baby shusher
these - milk collectors
The baby shusher she linked from Target too but it popped up on Amazon and I figured since this is a mostly Amazon based sub, I’d use that 😂🤷🏼♀️
Not OP but they may be referring to this
Sending all the moral support ♥️
If you're looking for possible help... Have you tried heating the sleep space with a heating pad before putting him down? I hear that helps. Also baby shusher (white noise device) and there's even a vibrating cushion you can add... Desperate times and all. I'm sure you're doing everything you can. Hang in there!
protip: get a yoga ball!! When he won't stop crying hold him to your chest (sort of like you want him to listen to your heartbeat) and then sit on the ball and bounce gently. I'm not a father but in my work we deal with newborns(usually 5days to 2weeks old) everyday. So really my advice would be more during the newborn stage as it will get hard to do once they get bigger but he might still enjoy the bounce.
Also look up something called a baby shusher on amazon. Literally just a machine that shushes for you. Kind of annoying for adults but babies love it usually.
Get some chux. great to have in your car when every you are out and need to do a diaper change to avoid messes. Avoid the type meant specifically for pets as they sometimes have chemicals to entice the pet to use it and you never know how babies will react to that chemical.
If you notice a rash on their bum change diaper brands right away. From our experience at work its more often pampers that seem to cause the rash but your experience may vary.
Swaddle with arms down to their side so they are less likely to bust out.
For down the line once he is older, something I've seen my boss do with her kids that I wish my parents had done: try not to get angry or emotional when he screws up. Talk things through calmly to find a solution. You can still reprimand but you can't loose your cool. If they think you will flip your lid they probably won't come to your when shit hits the fan. I've seen it many times where my boss's kids have come to her "Mom I'm sorry I screwed up..." My own mother would lose her shit over the smallest thing so it was usually hide the evidence and deny deny deny. My dad is chill though.
Also something I think my dad did very well is that when ever some type of chore needed to be done he would never really order us (like my mom would). Instead they way he would word it is "Can you help me with..." Don't know if it will work for everyone but at least for me I hated being ordered to do something but I liked felling like I was helping.
That's about all I can think of for now. Good luck to you.
This thing has saved us many times: Shusher
> at a time where baby usually has her "purple crying"
Purple crying solver. Trust me, it’s absolutely worth the $35. This is the single most helpful tool for babies.
> I'm not sure what the solution is but I am asking for your prayers
Other than buying that Amazon tool above, try centering prayer.
“Centering Prayer is a method of meditation used by Christians placing a strong emphasis on interior silence.”
The way I was taught it is based on Psalm 46:10, specifically the “Be still, and know that I am God” part. All you have to do is take 5-10 minutes, go somewhere quiet, empty your thoughts, and just focus on the Lord. To be clear: this is 100% a discipline of submitting time to the Lord and being silent before Him. It isn’t as easy as it sounds.
When I have difficulty focusing during centering prayer, I repeat this like a mantra: “You are God, I am not.” In 5-10 minutes I usually calm down and can just breathe and focus again. It helps “soothe the storm” as it were.
God bless you in the journey.
Have you tried a susher? It seems to calm down my 6 month old during sleep regression.
https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Shusher-Soothing-Miracle-Babies/dp/B00D2JN87I
This worked great to get our baby asleep. Kind of expensive since there isn't much to it, but $30 is nothing if it gets them to sleep more.
My baby enjoys a shusher (any white noise machine would prob work) it calms him and he now knows it means time to sleep!
https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Shusher-Soothing-Miracle-Babies/dp/B00D2JN87I
I'm a dad with a 6month old who wakes often. This may help you: Amazon.com Baby Shusher - The Soothing Sleep Miracle for Babies https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D2JN87I/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_mFvjwb9YJ9QR3
We used this while LO hated the car and to get him to nap but didn't continue after 2 months when he was mostly calm in the car Baby Shusher - The Soothing Sleep Miracle for Babies https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D2JN87I/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_JVv2vb1F474JN