That’s right damnit! The most masculine thing is to be perfectly confident with what you like and who you are, regardless of whether it’s “masculine” or not. Theres going to be someone who makes fun of you for anything you do. Don’t dress nicely? You’re a lazy slob. Dress too nicely? Must be gay. Enjoy wine? What a sissy. Talk about how you’d rather drink beer than wine? You uncultured redneck.
Just do you the best way you know how.
Also, have you tried one of these?
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_jMGKDb9EBZMA4
It makes so much sense that you'd get anxious around bedtime given that trauma! I'm really, really sorry. I have a whole nighttime routine I've constructed since I had a weird bout of unexplained insomnia - turn off screens, cup of tea, washing face/brushing teeth, constantly reading little bits of a book before going to sleep, etc. I don't mean to suggest all of that would magically fix that, but I wonder if even doing something small and kind for yourself like putting on fuzzy socks or drinking some hot cocoa or using one of those head scratcher things might help change your emotions around that time. I'm the furthest thing from a therapist, I'm just a big fan of being kind to yourself. :)
For all those head scratch enthusiasts try this stupid looking thing... it’s wonderful actually
Body Back Scalp Massager, Head Scratcher, Manual Head Massager for Stress Relief, Relaxing Scalp Scratcher, Tingler for Gentle Hair Stimulation (1 Pack, Color Varies) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_NWM1XDY88W9HGTHKPJXM?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Those wire head massager thingys:
Body Back Scalp Massager, Head Scratcher, Manual Head Massager for Stress Relief, Relaxing Scalp Scratcher, Tingler for Gentle Hair Stimulation (1 Pack, Color Varies) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_g_DJ4R7CMKWQYEZGC7SQTY
Body Back Scalp Massager, Head Scratcher, Manual Head Massager for Stress Relief, Relaxing Scalp Scratcher, Tingler for Gentle Hair Stimulation (1 Pack, Color Varies) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_V2Z096M64EE35B1VNKPS?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
This. On your head. It’s only $6 on Amazon. If you Haven’t tried it, you’re missing out. Have someone else do it to you
Body Back Scalp Massager, Head Scratcher, Manual Head Massager for Stress Relief, Relaxing Scalp Scratcher, Tingler for Gentle Hair Stimulation (1 Pack, Color Varies) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IHXFQK/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_9W9JWK15YGVQE06TNAJD?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
It's not something that I miss in the way that some others do but I find that sleeping with a body pillow helps with the cuddling thing. I also find myself touching myself gently in non-sexual ways (rubbing my own neck, rubbing my own feet). Before the pandemic, my best friend and I always made sure to hug each other when we saw each other.
I have heard these are really good. I love the sensation of someone brushing my hair or petting me and I've heard these simulate it.
https://www.amazon.com/Massager-Body-Back-Company-Stress/dp/B001IHXFQK
Not gonna lie, I remember doing that with one of my sister's brushes when I was a little kid. Those little nubs on the bristles felt so good on muh face!
Kinda reminds me of these things...
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Back-Company-12400000050-Massager/dp/B001IHXFQK
In recent times I've spent an hour marveling over the glorious feelings that these produce. No fucks were given.
Oh yes! The head tingler. It gives me brain orgasms.
And it's right here for 4 bucks!
having to have worked black fridays in the past i know better than to buy anything today. BUT i'm really tempted to buy this http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001IHXFQK/ref=ord_cart_shr?ie=UTF8&m=A1IP6NWLSWHZ3Q posted by another redditor in some other thread
Here you go!
Because mdma makes your skin so sensitive, these scalp massagers are next to heavenly when you're rolling. It's pretty amazing even when you're just sober.
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I use this type of head massager head massager
Dude you must try with this thing when rolling. It costs about one buck and feels like winning the massage lottery.
Get you this. https://www.amazon.com/Massager-Body-Back-Company-Stress/dp/B001IHXFQK
It's fucking awesome. Works for bald heads like mine and those with full hair like my wife's. Also fun while tied up and blind folded. ;)
The Vibe Force is literally just the ASF with one of those head massage whisk thingies on the power core.
The only thing that can make my toes curl and my body shiver more than my wife.
These head scratcher/massagers. If you don’t have one, get one.
One of these head scratchers: https://www.amazon.com/Massager-Body-Back-Company-Stress/dp/B001IHXFQK)
It may sound silly but I smile and giggle every time someone uses it on my head. It literally gives you a brain-gasm.
Yes. Buy one of these
I'm more of a head-scratch video person so I often use a scalp massager.
i always thought one of these would be pretty awesome for an intimate E night.
https://www.amazon.com/Scalp-Massager-Body-Back-Company/dp/B001IHXFQK
Absolute bliss and rolls reactor !
You should try one of those scalp massage things.
http://www.amazon.com/Head-Massager-colors-may-vary/dp/B001IHXFQK
have you ever used one of those scalp whisks? http://www.amazon.com/Scalp-Massager-Colors-May-Vary/dp/B001IHXFQK
It's a little embarrassing how much I enjoy this thing on my head.
Wow, only $2.49
Literacy
Edit: Or a head massager.