Maybe this one?
NTA, but I would bet money you wife is reacting to how she was treated as a child. Buy this and both of you read it.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Book-Wish-Your-Parents-Read/dp/0241251028/ref=asc_df_0241251028/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=430802624052&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12686110981414451567&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvd...
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Book-Wish-Your-Parents-Read/dp/0241251028/ref=asc_df_0241251028/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=430802624052&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12371745133569104530&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvd...