I am not a shill! I just enjoy good, quality comedy! Go back and read my comment history to prove that I'm not a shill!
But if you want something better to read than my comment history, I highly recommend Bossypants, a book by Tina Fey! Available on Amazon, Kindle and wherever fine books are sold! You can also get an audiobook version read by the author herself when you sign up for a free trail of Audible.com! Just use promo code "Ozzdo" at checkout!
Bossypants by Tina Fey.
I don’t know if anyone else would consider it a feminist book. It’s a comedic autobiography but it made me aware of feminist ideas in an accessible way. She made me aware of how women are pitted against each other for men’s attention (in high school, she used her stage manager position to sabotage another girl for merely having a crush on the same boy as she did). Her list of the perfect woman (who has a single physical attribute from each culture) made me realize how unrealistic our beauty standards are. Sometimes when we are told no, it’s because the other side doesn’t understand us enough to understand our question (men at SNL refused to do a period belt skit because they thought it requires showing bloody pads, but it didn’t.) How privilege can get us further than hard work (she got a job over another woman would have been more loyal, dedicated, and a hard worker; Tina got the job because she knew the right answers with her college education).
She didn’t just share the stories. She shared the thoughts she had during them and what she realized years later. For example, in the stage manager story, she felt proud and justified about it at the time. Years later, she realized the girl did nothing to her to deserve sabotage. By pointing out the changes, she helped me understand so many topics. I have a poor memory, read this book years ago, and I still remember all these details.
I’m not a fan of self-help books so my picks are random:
-Bossypants by Tina Fey. It’s a humorous autobiography. It taught me many feminist ideas without being labeled as feminist ideas. Ideas such as other women are not competition. We achieve more when we support each other. - A False Report: A True Story of Rape in America by by T. Christian Miller and Ken Armstrong taught me the many faces of trauma and rape victims. Everyone reacts to trauma differently. Just because someone is outwardly ok, it does not mean they’re lying. This story was originally an ProPublica article and has been adapted into the Netflix miniseries Unbelievable - Know My Name is written by the Emily Doe in the Stanford rape case. It taught me what it means to ask a victim to report and how to support a victim. Your anger is useless. You validate their pain and their decisions. It’s why I never exhort people to report their assaults. Report it if and only if it helps you. If it harms you, move on. - random books on the immigrant experience helped me understand and love my parents better. They did the best they could with the resources they had and their knowledge of the world. I can’t ask them to be of a culture they are not.
this one is on my wishlist :)