Become a whole person. I feel that terminology pigeonholes people. I am not just a bisexual guy. I am a computer scientist. I am a book lover. I am a retail worker. I am a helpful person. Be the best you can be and people will find you. Who are you? What do you like?
I have found Jim Sullivan's Boyfriend 101 an interesting addition to my collection. The first question it asks its readers is "What do you want: sex or a boyfriend?"
Dating in LGBTQ+ culture is the same as any of kind of dating. Sometimes, people are jerks.
It’s funny. There was this book called boyfriend 101 or something. Ha! Boyfriend 101: A Gay Guy's Guide to Dating, Romance, and Finding True Love https://www.amazon.com/dp/0812992199/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_85QrFb0Z25V6T
One of the things the book said is that every gay man has to go through a slut phase or he’ll never be ready for a relationship. I sat there thinking, “Um, that’s not who I am. That would make me feel cheap and used and desperate and I don’t like those feelings.”
But it seems to have worked for you!