It’s from a training kit we got on Amazon. Plug Kit Link on Amazon
Amazon has an anal training set (hate the name) that is three different sized curved anal plugs. The medium size (for me) really hits the prostate well and stays in during PIV sex with no problem.
And the set is like $16.
Well, I can only speak from personal experience so keep that in mind. If I just want to poke a finger at my asshole while I masturbate then that's not so bad. But to reach the P spot you have to get inside a few inches so I kind of have to bend my torso a lot, which is doable, but it isn't very comfortable and makes masturbation less pleasurable. Maybe I'm just not that flexible. Who knows?
I use something like this. So you just put it in and relax. In this set, the smallest one should be just fine for you. You can graduate to the bigger ones later if you want or if the small one doesn't hit the right spot. Just be sure to lube it up really good and practice relaxing your sphincter when you push it in. Once it's in it won't fall out so you're good to go. Use it while you masturbate or under your clothes while you're hanging out at home. No one will know you're wearing it.
Regarding stretching, that's not really the issue. Your anus already stretches a lot when you poop. It's more learning not to resist and object being inserted. You natural tendency is to clench which isn't what you want. The best advice I got was to actually try to push it out like your pooping (assuming your bowels are empty, of course). This naturally relaxes the sphincter and it should be easier to slide it in. I know if seems counterintuitive, but it works.
Well, I can only speak from personal experience so keep that in mind. If I just want to poke a finger at my asshole while I masturbate then that's not so bad. But to reach the P spot you have to get inside a few inches so I kind of have to bend my torso a lot, which is doable, but it isn't very comfortable and makes masturbation less pleasurable. Maybe I'm just not that flexible. Who knows?
I use something like this. So you just put it in and relax. In this set, the smallest one should be just fine for you. You can graduate to the bigger ones later if you want or if the small one doesn't hit the right spot. Just be sure to lube it up really good and practice relaxing your sphincter when you push it in. Once it's in it won't fall out so you're good to go. Use it while you masturbate or under your clothes while you're hanging out at home. No one will know you're wearing it.
I really like this plug set. Small isn’t of much use, medium takes me to super o’s sometimes, large is on the big side for me personally but can also be fun at times.
I really enjoy the medium one when having sex with the wife. It hits the spot perfectly and stays in without any effort. You can really relax and go to town and enjoy the sensations without thoughts of it coming out. I’ve (only once) had multiple back to back wet orgasms while having sex with it in. Hoping that someday I’ll find that magic again.
https://www.amazon.com/Comfortable-Long-Term-Silicone-Training-Beginners/dp/B07RK98NH6
Check out Amazon for a 3 plug curved silicone trainer set (I have this one: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RK98NH6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_09G8TS71PEMCW39SWH66)
The smallest is useless really, middle is perfect for me, biggest is fun too, but goes too far in.
Use with some water based lube will really help you along your way as having something that you can insert and just relax and observe the feelings and different contractions I think really helps you find pleasure.
The key is relaxation, focus and a mindset of acceptance of whatever pleasure you receive without expectations. Nipples are a real catalyst for many along their journey.
You should try this set.
A set of three progressively larger plugs you can use.
Buy a douche kit from the store and clean the toys before and after every use. Use more lube than you would think you need. Then use a little more.
How small do you recommend? I was looking at these.
I've scratched myself with some uhhh, improvised toys, before and I'd rather never do it again, it's scary. Definitely will be using actual lube.
I'm usually pretty quiet, kinda inadvertently trained myself not to make noise while masturbating, I don't know if anal is going to be intense enough to make me accidentally let out some sound but I'll keep it in mind. Definitely gonna make sure nobody is around too. obviously.
An Aneros MGX or Helix is a good way to start.
If you want to save a little, this kit has been great for me. I use the medium all the time (and it’s better than my Helix at times). The small is mostly useless, and the large is…. Well large (not unusable but I rarely use it).
Butt Plug Trainer Kit for Comfortable Long-Term Wear, Pack of 3 Silicone Anal Plugs Training Set with Flared Base Prostate Sex Toys for Beginners Advanced Users https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RK98NH6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_C26200JPM6501J3G2QH3?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I have this set. Wife isn’t very interested in a plug (although she seemed to love the small on in this set once, she just doesn’t want to admit it for some reason).
I use the medium occasionally during PIV and use it frequently just for prostate massage. I can get multiple NEOs from the medium one.
Butt Plug Trainer Kit for Comfortable Long-Term Wear, Pack of 3 Silicone Anal Plugs Training Set with Flared Base Prostate Sex Toys for Beginners Advanced Users https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RK98NH6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_J80Z5SN0P580FRKAEM2S?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
If not done correctly it can hurt like a bitch. My suggestion would be to take your anal virginity yourself before letting someone else back there. That way it won't hurt at all.
1st use an enema to clean things back there.
2nd use analEaze to help numb the area a bit
3rd use a wand or vibrator on your clit while wearing a buttplug or using a small dildo on your ass to Get your body use to the feeling.
4th keep increasing the size of your butt plug and/or anal dildo over time until you get to train your self
I used this toy one time on my girlfriend, didn't enjoy it at all. I've sterilized all of them by boiling them in water and wiping them down with rubbing alcohol. I live in a smoke-free home.
This is the shape you want https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RK98NH6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabt1_-nVQFbRV2S6QQ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Ignore the others, they are bad. And you don't need an lube applicator. Just a drop of lube on the ass should be enough.
Hmmm that's a good question. The Aneros Vice 2 is the one of the largest toys from the Aneros line, if you look at it on their website you'll see the little tabs that stick out (part of the base of the toy) those will definitely be visible when wearing it as a plug. If you want something more discreet I recommend this set of plugs, but they do not vibrate however even these plugs may be visible. I'm not entirely sure what would be discreet enough to wear in locker room really.
I will add this though, the Aneros Vice 2 is a great investment. Kinda expensive but totally worth it, I've had some great orgasms with that that both with and without the vibrations.
Here you go a few different options:
Get some toys, and play around. Something like these https://www.amazon.com/Comfortable-Long-Term-Silicone-Training-Beginners/dp/B07RK98NH6/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=butt+plug+trainer+kit&qid=1611907747&s=hpc&sr=1-1
and a dildo. And some lube, but not silicone lube.
Thanks for the well thought out reply!! Really appreciate it. Unfortunately I work tomorrow and I’m at work right now, so we have to wait to really sit down and talk about things.
I’m curious, have you used any textured toys? The first training set I got for myself, it was traffic cone shaped, that’s the best way to describe it. I didn’t much care for it honestly. So I suggested starting with fingers and either trying this kit or this kit…
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RK98NH6/ref=cm_sw_r_api_i_W2HZYVGYDYAR1GDAD0FN_0
Not really. There is such a huge variety in material, size, and shape that you need to something that is fun.
Just be aware that not everything out there is a safe product in any scenario. In the case of buttplugs: If you plan to wear it for longer periods of time, get one that has no chance of getting lost in your butt.
And by longer times I mean anything that is not you actively playing with it. I had one of those and was sitting on a cushioned chair when suddenly something felt off. Luckily I grabbed the immedialy after it vanished, otherwise it would've been a hassle with ER digging it up.
In general: Everything where the cross section of the base is not significantly wider than the thickes part of the plug is not safe for "unattended" wear.
I say cross section bc the base does not have to be round. A "strip" works usually better than a full round base bc it is more comfortable while wearing.
These two are good long-term wear examples. Not endorsements, I do not own either.
I bought these on Amazon and the oblong base (flange) is really comfortable
Butt Plug Trainer Kit for... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RK98NH6?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I’ll share a few things we love… Plugs: -I use these plugs (primarily the medium and large) as they feel great on my prostate. -my wife uses these plugs as the curved ones were uncomfortable for her. -We have this harness. -This is my favorite toy at present be pegged with.
Good luck!
https://www.amazon.com/Comfortable-Long-Term-Silicone-Training-Beginners/dp/B07RK98NH6
Start with something like that they are a long wear and don't hurt.
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I've been using these not all day mind, but they should do the job.
Butt Plug Trainer Kit for... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RK98NH6?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Plugs this shape are better for longer wear.
Alright so the seller isn't the same but the butt plug set that this one is selling is identical to mine, even in the packaging: https://www.amazon.com/Comfortable-Long-Term-Silicone-Training-Beginners/dp/B07RK98NH6
Butt plug training. You need to start with the small one first for 5 weeks.
On Amazon, link
So first I agree with what everyone else has said about not buying toys from amazon. That being said, since the question isn't "should I buy a toy from amazon", its "What toys can I buy from amazon", and no one has answered the actual question, I'm going to try.
For butt plugs, I own this (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RK98NH6/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) kit which I got for long term wear. The package arrived undamaged, the plugs were sealed in a plastic bag, the seem high quality and I haven't had any problems.
I also own this (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00OTDLVQ6/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) which is a glass curved g-spot dildo. Once again the product I received had no flaws upon arrival and I haven't had any problems with it.
I also feel compelled to attach a gigantic warning label and some more in depth reasons not to buy from Amazon if you can help it:
I buy from Amazon because my living situation makes it the only viable option (think Amazon Locker pick up locations). That being said, I DO NOT RECOMMEND IT. If you have ANY other option, use that. I have wasted money on many knock-off, badly constructed, downright dangerous products from Amazon. Any savings/shipping speeds/etc are not worth it. If nothing else, than because Amazon has a habit of storing knock off products in the same bin as the genuine article (in terms of storage it makes sense for them), so even if I (or anyone else) received a well made, brand name product, that does not mean you will receive the same even if you order from the same listing. Also because there is no governing body regulating sex toy safety/materials and these things are going INSIDE OF YOU. There are many sex toys made out of materials that are illegal for use in children's toys, because they might end up in a child's mouth and we know these materials are toxic. It is entirely up to the sellers to use body safe materials and market accurately. So please do your research, value your safety, and consider how much you trust a random amazon seller, not to mention amazon itself.
Thoughts on this set?