{"product":{"product_id":"B00HJBMDXK","title":"Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A GUIDE AND MAP FOR RECOVERING FROM CHILDHOOD TRAUMA","price":"8.99","image_url":"https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51pcrewt-nL._SL500_.jpg","url":"https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00HJBMDXK"},"comments":[{"body":"I hope you have or considered going to talk with a professional. I've just recently started seeing someone for things that happened to me by my father almost 30 years ago.\r\n\r\nI recommend the book [Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00HJBMDXK/). I started reading this before I saw a therapist and it has helped me a lot in getting through various moments of trauma both privately and through the guidance of a therapist.\r\n\r\nI'm now able to take a reaction to current stress that causes me to flashback or retreat/cope and safely guide myself back to a past trauma that I'm associating with the present circumstances. I can confront that past trauma and advocate for the defenseless person I was in that moment. It's helped me so immensely and I hope these suggestions can bring you or anyone else reading this some measure of clarity, closure, and peace.","subreddit_name":"PublicFreakout","author":"KidzBop_Anonymous"},{"body":"It's really helpful for me to remind myself that their feelings and behavior towards me actually have *nothing t*o do with me but have everything to do with them. Our stories feel so individual and personal until we start sharing them and realize that, when it comes to emotionally unavailable parents, their behavior is all the same and so incredibly predictable. And it has nothing to do with us and who we are as people. It has everything to do with them being terribly sad, broken people, and they're broken in a way that we can't fix by changing our behavior, trying to be perfect, trying to meet their impossible expectations, etc. Their deep core wounds weren't caused by us and can't be fixed by us. r/raisedbynarcissists has been really helpful, as has [this book.](https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK) Microdosing has been insansely helpful.","subreddit_name":"EstrangedAdultChild","author":"B1NG_P0T"},{"body":"I have finally been acknowledging my trauma and working through it. That and the support of my therapists and anti anxiety meds I have made considerable progress to getting my life back. It took time to allow myself to grieve and be angry over my childhood, but it was important to do. \r\n\r\nThis book has been incredibly helpful so far and I encourage those of you that are ready to take a look at it \r\n\r\nPete Walkers [Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving](https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1\u0026amp;keywords=pete+walker+complex+ptsd+from+surviving+to+thriving\u0026amp;qid=1613264474\u0026amp;sprefix=pete+walker\u0026amp;sr=8-3)","subreddit_name":"adhdwomen","author":"beachbumbabe21"},{"body":"There’s a famous book called: Complex PTSD From Surviving to Thriving; by Pete Walker. If you download a sample you can see the chapter list. He describes in fantastic detail how to overcome emotional reactivity. It’s one of those books where you end up having so many epiphanies that you want to buy it for all of your friends - or strangers on Reddit!\r\n\r\n[check it out ](https://www.amazon.com.au/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK)","subreddit_name":"Codependency","author":"bingbongmalakaman"},{"body":"\u0026gt;Neglect isn't the same as other kinds of abuse, you kind of just have to be a big girl and take care of yourself and get on with it. \r\n\r\nYou're right in that neglect isn't the same as other kinds of abuse; a lot of mental health professionals now believe that it can be *more* damaging than other kinds of abuse. I'm not the one downvoting you but my guess is that it's comments like that that are leading to the downvoting. When our caregiver or caregivers fail us repeatedly and have a history of minimizing the neglect we're receiving at their hands, we tend to internalize that behavior and minimalize the neglect ourselves.  Your comments don't read like that of a positive person at all but rather someone deep in denial. But what do I know, I've only got a PhD in Psychology with a focus on executive dysfunction and parenting behaviors. :) \r\n\r\nFor anyone reading this who is interesting in healing from cptsd and feeling comfortable in their own skin, [this book](https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK) is absolutely excellent. The cover looks pretty grumpy, imo, but ignore it - the book is fantastic.","subreddit_name":"AutismInWomen","author":"B1NG_P0T"},{"body":"It is reasonable to think that your dad forcing you to play sports for years is causing _almost all_ of your current mental health issues.\r\n\r\nSeriously, yes, this is a classic recipe for trauma. We instinctively look to our parents for support. When they constantly send the message that we're not good enough as we are, that does an impossibly heavy number on our brains' wiring. And your dad sounds like he's a master of sending that message. He probably has some trauma too — it's a cycle, and I hope you can break it.\r\n\r\n_Definitely_ bring this up with your therapist. If they dismiss or minimize it, consider finding a new one. And although [this book](https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK) is maybe a lot for a 15-year-old, you might find it helpful. It's certainly relevant. Good luck.","subreddit_name":"Advice","author":"farwent"},{"body":"So. I finally bought myself a scale yesterday. Purely as a way to track progress on my journey to decrease my metabolic syndrome. And not as a stand-in abuser. \r\n\r\nI tried to step on it this morning, but I couldn’t figure out how to turn it on 😂 Maybe that’s a sign... \r\n\r\nI started reading [this book](https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK) on complex PTSD from childhood trauma caused by emotional abuse, neglect, and/or physical abuse, and I’m finding a lot of insights in it. If you had abusive or neglectful parents, even if the “minor” sort, you may find it helpful. The book makes me feel seen.","subreddit_name":"xxketo4u2","author":"cutercottage"},{"body":"Hi there,\r\n\r\nIt's pretty common for kids to block out bad childhood memories. Think of it as a survival mechanism. Although you don't remember the events, you still suffer the effects. You may want to read about C-PTSD and see if it feels relevant. If so, [this book by Pete Walker](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00HJBMDXK/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8\u0026amp;btkr=1) is outstanding (and not to sound like a salesperson, but it's free atm if you have Amazon Prime). \r\n\r\nGood luck,\r\n\r\n\\-Dee","subreddit_name":"mentalhealth","author":"puppydeathfarts"},{"body":"Op go check out r/cptsd.\r\n\r\nCptsd is a complex form of ptsd that often stems from childhood abuse and it can absolutely ravage your life. There is a big chance he will find lots of help there.\r\n\r\nAlso Pete walker's book: https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK","subreddit_name":"relationship_advice","author":"MsFaolin"},{"body":"I'm sorry, it's not my job to convince you -- that's your job. \r\n\r\n**Most** therapists are *not* equipped with the skills/experiences needed to identify and treat childhood trauma survivors. \r\n\r\nThere are *myriad* resources (e.g., books, YouTube channels, *peer-reviewed literature*) that would show you that your parents were emotionally abusive towards you as a child, and that is most likely why you have intimacy issues as an adult. \r\n\r\nIf you're seriously interested in healing, please read Pete Walker's book, [\"Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving\"](https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK). It's one of the greatest books I've ever read. You'll enjoy it and find it profoundly eye-opening if *you're* open to learning about yourself. \r\n\r\nI wish you the best \u0026lt;3","subreddit_name":"NPD","author":"p3achie"},{"body":"in psychiatry, official diagnosis only matters for insurance claim. \r\n\r\nComplex-ptsd is not properly recognized by many practitioners. It’s really common for people with childhood trauma to receive inadequate therapy and misdiagnosis. My favorite book on this topic is [this](https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK)\r\n\r\nYou may want to check r/cptsd as well","subreddit_name":"ptsd","author":"tinyblackberry-"},{"body":"I meant to mention this before-- I don't know to what extent the science actually supports this. But about 20 years ago it was suggested that teaching pre-verbal children sign language helped smooth out tensions-- being hungry, sleepy, bathroom trips, scared, etc. Children at that age supposedly can learn rudimentary sign language that gets across their needs before they can learn to verbalize those same words. Like I said-- not sure to what extent this has been supported or debunked in the past 2 decades since I read about it but it's something to consider. \r\n\r\nWhile I doubt she will be at risk of CPTSD, especially since you sound like a really supportive parent, you yourself might find insight and support from Pete Walker's CPTSD book. https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK\r\n\r\n\r\nit was free on prime but now mahbe it's not. But you might be able to find exerpts or be able to borrow it online from a library if money is tight (I hate buying a book without being able to read enough to determine if it's worth it.)\r\n\r\ngood luck. hang in there. you've got this.","subreddit_name":"expats","author":"QuelleBullshit"},{"body":"I’ve found the process of grieving very helpful. \r\n\r\nThis book by Pete Walker has been a good guide - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK\r\n\r\nMeditation has also been a great way of finding a source of love and grounding within myself. Particularly the heart centred practices such as loving kindness. \r\n\r\nAlso having someone to talk through your history with, such as a therapist or teacher.\r\n\r\nWishing you well on your journey.","subreddit_name":"CPTSD","author":"Diligent-Program-416"},{"body":"\u0026gt;It's really too bad how much our parents fuck us up.\r\n\r\nIt's insane the strength that it takes to overcome a shitty childhood. Dealing with that baggage is a full time plus job. You might like [this book](https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK) \\- the cover is super grumpy and I didn't read it for awhile because of that. But then when I finally did start to read it, it felt like it was written specifically for me. So many people on the r/raisedbynarcissists sub have said the same thing; it's probably the number one book recommended to people who experienced childhood abuse/neglect.","subreddit_name":"coolguides","author":"B1NG_P0T"},{"body":"I can relate; I feel the same way. What you're describing sounds a lot like CPTSD. Reading [this amazing book](https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK) has helped a lot (the cover is weird and kinda grumpy looking - just ignore it, because the book is fantastic), as has microdosing and macrodosing psilocybin.","subreddit_name":"EstrangedAdultChild","author":"B1NG_P0T"}]}