So you are doing server admin as well as site design/provisioning?
TBH aside from the service app deprecations, UPS sync methods and minrole ... 2013-2019 aren't very different. So most "setting up the farm" stuff is pretty relevant.
There are courses on pluralsite that are decent primers... but my fav vids are from the 2013 era, i.e. these series are all great:
https://channel9.msdn.com/Series/Tuning-SQL-Server-2012-for-SharePoint-2013
https://channel9.msdn.com/Series/SharePoint-2013-Best-Practices
https://channel9.msdn.com/Series/Deploying--Managing-SharePoint-2013-with-PowerShell
if nothing else buy this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Deploying-SharePoint-2019-Configuring-Premises/dp/1484245253/
Vlad is swell and the other guy is ok i guess
>properly using autospinstaller
gross. that's kind of an oxymoron. autoinstaller is cute for quick lab/test env do it right if you are building a prod env (or an org's dev/test/preprod, even) IMO
https://www.amazon.com/Deploying-SharePoint-2019-Configuring-Premises/dp/1484245253 (buy/read/use this)
https://www.youtube.com/c/ShaneYoungCloud/search?query=install (vids)
https://andreasglaser.com/install-sharepoint (decent blog/data hub of links)
also, Pluralsight is free this month and a few "courses" there on how to setup SharePoint