What is Reddit's opinion of Dreadnought: Nemesis - Book One (Nemesis, 1)?

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It's not a comic book, but the novel Dreadnought by April Daniels is pretty fun. It's a young-adult superhero novel with a transfemme protag. Which is not a spoiler, because it's like right there on page 1.

I'm only about half way through it at the moment, but it's really fun and I've already decided I'll get the rest of the series.

I would imagine this kind of subtlety would be lost on a transphobic person, but it's your call.

Maybe a book with a transgender protagonist? In-your-face but with plausible deniability. I've heard good things about Dreadnought by April Daniels.

Best of luck! <3

Hey, OP, you should read Dreadnought by April Daniels. It’s totally 100% for cis people. Definitely. For sure.

Hope I'm not breaking any rules here: https://www.amazon.com/Dreadnought-Nemesis-Book-April-Daniels/dp/1682300684

Book one: https://www.amazon.com/Dreadnought-Nemesis-Book-April-Daniels/dp/1682300684

Book Two: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1682308243/ref=cm_cr_arp_mb_bdcrb_top?ie=UTF8

Dreadnought is good fun.

I am all of two weeks into figuring stuff out myself. Well, I've always known something was "off", but only recently am I seriously asking, "is this gender dysphoria?"

It's hitting me like a freight train. I see signs all over my life now of gender dysphoria, I just finished reading Dreadnought and remembered my own unhappiness with puberty, and as I allow myself small femme things to do (e.g. putting my longer hair up in a girly style for the day, or painting my nails) I feel ... relieved. Going from "Am I trans?" to "I think I am trans" has recentered everything. (Truth be told, it has been a profound lifting of shame that so many other people have had similar experiences.)

So where I'm at this moment: the idea of medical/social transition terrifies me. I'm married, way too deep into my career in a socially conservative field to switch social/legal genders, and both of our families are from the conservative South (I don't think our families would reject me post-hypothetical-transition, but it would be a severe strain). I am also worried that HRT could impact my orientation: I have only ever liked girls.

So I'm looking into resources/support for remaining closeted. Here was one blog post I found with a few helpful comments. I have also read some amazing letters of the wives of MtF who did choose to transitio, and it's helped me slow down and breathe for the moment. If I am truly a trans woman and not enby, then the girl inside is revealing herself to be a veerrrry girly Disney princess wannabe. But she is walking around the world in a tough male meat spacesuit, and is physically very safe for now. I just want to get to know her/me better.

In the meantime, a pre- or non-transition plan is forming in my head. Lose weight, grow hair (style it gender-neutral), grow nails, basically get myself healthy and put together better. These are things that I have always struggled with, but right now I have some momentum and maybe a clear goal to strive for. I have chosen to be more free with my emotions, let my body language relax, and make sure my wife always knows that no matter how goofy I seem both outer male me and inner girl me are hopelessly in love with her. In two years I might have reached a non-binary equilibrium in expression: boymode everywhere outside, girlmode just for a few private moments. Or maybe my wife and I will be comfortable with something else -- I will be thin enough that girlmode with makeup, clothes, and feminine voice would be feasible. Point being: I'm safe, I have time, and I'm not ashamed of anything anymore.

My wife knows "something" is up. I'm happier, more expressive, more relaxed, and I have said things like: "I feel like some part of my mind is like a woman's. That used to bother me, but now I really appreciate it, and like it. These times in my life ({examples}) I didn't behave like any of the men I know, and I love how it turned out." So I'm working through this for myself, but really trying not to be too secretive about it. She is extremely perceptive anyway and might ask be outright if I am trans, and I would say, "I think I might be."

That's where I'm at now. I wish you luck and happiness on your own journey.

Hi there! I'm sorry you're going through this. I wrote a lot up here, hope you at least read the last part of it where I plug the resources.

Know that firstly, you didn't do anything wrong. You told her who you are which is, frankly, your birthright. You had every right to do it whenever. With parents, we often blame ourselves for how they feel, but that voice in your head is wrong. You did nothing wrong.

I did have one highly supportive friend who I once shared a "sign I showed" with, shortly after I came out to him. When I told him about the sign, he sort of laughed and said something to the effect of "well, if I was doing that I wouldn't really think I'm a girl" and at first I felt smacked in the tits, but then he followed it up with "but I guess that's the point! You can sense it was part of you being a girl, and that part is what's massive evidence you're trans." And that sticks with me to this day as a source of strength and validation. He was right.

Her not seeing signs (or at least, her for now not thinking she saw any) is something both she and you will have to accept and move past for now. The truth is, contrary to the good ol' "I'm your mother and I know everything about you" most parents don't know jack shit about their kids. I personally rarely argue with people in my life about the "signs I showed" (largely due to the story I shared above). At least how I see it is: They're experiences where the important thing was how I felt. Not what someone else saw or felt. If someone else doesn't get it, I tend to see that as further evidence of how uniquely personal the moment was for me.

Actually, to that point it's funny you brought up hockey. I'm a trans girl and I played 10 years of that... it took me months of living post-egg-crack to remember that when I was playing, I actually just wanted to be a figure skater but had played hockey out of fear people would realize I didn't want to be "manly". Often things that outsiders think are the opposite of signs for trans people, are actually signs because we do them to hide ourselves.

>I don't even know if I love her because I LOVE her, or if I love her
because I'm SUPPOSED to as the child. And I know that is a fucked up
thing to say/think

Nah, it's not fucked up. This is how pretty much everyone, trans or cis, feels about at least one if not both of their parents. Immediate family has a strong psychological hold on people, despite the fact that they also tend to cause us a lot of pain in most cases.

>I'm looking, I guess, for some support materials for her to possibly consider

I know a few:

• /r/cisparenttranskid is an excellent place for her to go. Talking to other parents who want the best for them and their kids really will make a positive impact.
• Pflag's Our Trans Loved Ones is a good PDF if you want to give her something she can just read for some quick FAQs and such.
• The counseling she talked about is probably a good idea as well. Try to encourage her to see someone who is trans-allied if you can.
• A bit more unconventional, but I think reading a book written by a trans woman about a trans girl could maybe help her see some fresh perspectives. And frankly I just f---ing love this book so I'll go ahead and plug Dreadnought by April Daniels which you can probably find at your local library network. At the very least, read it yourself haha.

Hilarious and touching, focus on realistic transition.

Store-worthy transgender super hero (PG-13)

Store worthy transgender super hero (R)

Cute touching story

One of my favorites, though generally more serious, dealing with #adultProblems

Not a super well written book according to many reviewers but my favorite is “Dreadnought” by April Daniels.

If you're up for a superheroes sort of world, the Sidekick Squad series by CB Lee is good.

Meanwhile, if you're willing to deal with a trans narrative being a bigger part of the plot than the sapphic romance, Dreadnought (and it's Sequel) are really good, also.

<em>Dreadnought</em> by April Daniels (and it's sequel) are about a trans girl superhero. Romance isn't the focus, but it does have it.