This sounds so much like my childhood it's scary, right down to the story about the lock. Except that my parents also sent weird emails to the head of the school telling her I'd "lied" when I didn't; tried to make me repeat a grade level at the same school; forcibly drugged me on experimental meds (stimulant amphetamines) without any diagnosis and completely on a whim, ignoring my screaming, crying and begging, which was unbelievably traumatic (ages 12.5 and 16.5, respectively); unwillingly IQ-tested me through the end of high school; sent me to a neurologist where electrodes were glued to my scalp to find out what was (in my mother's words) "wrong with me"; tricked me into attending various "appointments"; and told pretty much everyone in their lives that I was a "special needs" kid (I wasn't). All of this in addition to their regular shouting and frightening tantrums.
Also some creepy / very disturbing sexual stuff from my father.
I am in my 30s and still don't speak to them.
I wish I had some advice for you. All I can say is that it does get better. Think seriously about college and your plans for getting out. You don't have to stay in touch with them as an adult, but do try to live a good life. Success is the best revenge.
To the lack of motivation in school, you might find this book relatable.
I was a bright kid, but I hated school and got very little out of it. The dual emphasis on conformity and people-pleasing, coupled with relentless bullying, far outweighed the benefit to me. Have you read the John Taylor Gatto books? Dumbing Us Down is a great one to start with. Not sure if homeschooling is an option for you.
This exactly. John Dewey was the architect of modern education, and he had some very specific thoughts about the purpose of education.
Giving you the tools to navigate the world is secondary to the actual creation and maintenance of that world. Schools are supposed to incentivize certain behavior models, that ensure an orderly and effective society. In their estimation... 80 years ago...
Adherence to a scheduled workload is one of the key techniques they force on us, but by no mean the only or even the central one. Deference to authority, the creation of social cliques, the ostracization of the weak or otherwise 'undesireable' students.
John Taylor Gatto wrote a book about the why it was happening. Alfie Kohn wrote a lot of books about how it was happening.
Good luck. It's a wild time to be alive.
Dumbing Us Down - 25th Anniversary Edition: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling https://www.amazon.com/dp/0865718547/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_9HW0Y8V3SADCSHY7PGM6
33 Questions About American History You're Not Supposed to Ask https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307346692/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_FGP828MG6MB2SMXZJV2Z
The Politically Incorrect Guide to American History https://www.amazon.com/dp/0895260476/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_772DWTR1SXYEFJ8XKPYE
https://www.amazon.com/Dumbing-Down-Curriculum-Compulsory-Schooling/dp/0865718547 By an actual unbiased expert exploring the subject and it's history.
All excellent questions. Arguably people were better educated before socialized education. You might find John Taylor Gatto an interesting read.
Not sure about their reason. Here’s mine.
Dumbing Us Down -25th Anniversary Edition: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling - 25th Anniversary Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/0865718547/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_b8cVDbKFTKS4J
Also, the fucking Duggars forever poisoned the idea and cemented the negative connotation.