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> Romans 5:

> 20 Moreover the law entered that the offense might abound. But where sin abounded, grace (Gods unlimited, unrestricted, undeserved, favor and blessing in your life) abounded much more,

God's grace increases when we sin.

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My story:

I was born and raised a Christian. And yet I fell into a pornography addition for 6-8 years. To make matters worse, this wasn't a worldly friend showing me porn and getting me hooked, this was me, on my own, searching for porn on the internet.

I tried stopping a few times, but I never could. Sure, I'd quit for a week or a month, but I'd be right back on it. I hated that about myself. I tried web-blockers, or moving my computer to a public area, but I'd just find ways around it.

Fortunately, I started going to one of Andrew Wommack's Charis Bible College Extension Schools. I'd heard Andrew a few times, but it wasn't until then that I started to truly listen to what he was saying.

There I began to understand that the only reason that my sin was making me feel distant from God was because I was letting it. God sees me as He sees Jesus, and is just as willing to bless me in the middle of my sin as He is when I am not sinning.

So I stopped trying to avoid porn. I didn't let myself feel guilty about wasting an entire Saturday watching porn and pleasuring myself. But I didn't stop going to school, and spending time in the Word (for me it was ~20-25 hours a week).

At first I didn't notice much of a change, but by the 6 month mark, I realized that without even trying, I had gone an entire month without watching porn. That month turned into 2, which turned into 6.

Not that the change was entirely mindless, there were absolutely times when I thought "lets pull up some porn", but it was easy to say "no, I don't want to".

The difference is that I changed from the inside out, rather than from the outside in.

In the interests of full disclosure, I did relapse a month ago, but it was a one-time thing, and I am back on track.

I know our situations are different, but I think the solution is the same. Spend more time in the Word, and let God change you from the inside out.

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Andrew has a book called "Effortless Change" (amazon). Its a great read. I highly encourage you to get it. If you want it, and can't afford it, PM me and I will buy you one and send it to you.

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> I ask for repentance and say how sorry I am for the way I am. But how do I keep doing this, when I feel that all I do, God is just waiting to chastise me.

Jesus paid the penalty for all of your sins: past, present, and future. For God to treat you any different because of them would be for God to say that Christ's sacrifice was insufficient for your sins.

> How horrible of a christian am I and how could God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit even still love me. I hate myself as well so dam much.

You have a law mentality. That you should get what you deserve. The requirements of the law have been fulfilled. You don't need to try to do that anymore. The entire books of Galatians and Romans were written on this topic.

> You know I ask God for someone to live with, someone to help me when I am down. But I feel even bad about that because am I not meant to rely solely on God?

My personal view: a relationship is multiplication, not addition. Two people who are less than whole will multiply together and be less than what they started with (0.5*0.5=0.25). Let God make you a whole person (or rather, someone who relies on God to be whole), and then He will send you someone.

But, it might be that God can work through someone to get you there. But I would suggest focusing on God. Not because God wants you to be able to rely on Him before someone else (He does), but because it will allow you to be more of a blessing for your future SO than if you were the "you" you are today.

> Romans 5:

> 20 Moreover the law entered that the offense might abound. But where sin abounded, grace (Gods unlimited, unrestricted, undeserved, favor and blessing in your life) abounded much more,

God's grace increases when we sin.

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My story:

I was born and raised a Christian. And yet I fell into a pornography addition for 6-8 years. To make matters worse, this wasn't a worldly friend showing me porn and getting me hooked, this was me, on my own, searching for porn on the internet.

I tried stopping a few times, but I never could. Sure, I'd quit for a week or a month, but I'd be right back on it. I hated that about myself. I tried web-blockers, or moving my computer to a public area, but I'd just find ways around it.

Fortunately, I started going to one of Andrew Wommack's Charis Bible College Extension Schools. I'd heard Andrew a few times, but it wasn't until then that I started to truly listen to what he was saying.

There I began to understand that the only reason that my sin was making me feel distant from God was because I was letting it. God sees me as He sees Jesus, and is just as willing to bless me in the middle of my sin as He is when I am not sinning.

So I stopped trying to avoid porn. I didn't let myself feel guilty about wasting an entire Saturday watching porn and pleasuring myself. But I didn't stop going to school, and spending time in the Word (for me it was ~20-25 hours a week).

At first I didn't notice much of a change, but by the 6 month mark, I realized that without even trying, I had gone an entire month without watching porn. That month turned into 2, which turned into 6.

Not that the change was entirely mindless, there were absolutely times when I thought "lets pull up some porn", but it was easy to say "no, I don't want to".

The difference is that I changed from the inside out, rather than from the outside in.

In the interests of full disclosure, I did relapse a month ago, but it was a one-time thing, and I am back on track.

I know our situations are different, but I think the solution is the same. Spend more time in the Word, and let God change you from the inside out.

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I can't say that my addiction was worse than yours, but I do know that I got out of it with much less effort than I had used to try (and fail) on my own to break out.

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Andrew has a book called "Effortless Change" (amazon). Its a great read. I highly encourage you to get it. If you want it, and can't afford it, PM me and I will buy you one and send it to you.