Oh another thing, try the book Fast Minds. It has lots of tips on how to work with your ADHD brain rather than against it. It's really helpful.
Also, depending on your kid's school district and their teacher, you could let their teacher know that you sometimes struggle with organisation due to ADHD and ask for them to send home reminders about important things? Or at least not be too harsh on your kids if, for instance, you forget to sign something they needed or lose it.
I sure do!
I have really appreciated ADDitude since I got officially diagnosed, available at additudemag.com. They have a section for adults living with ADHD. I appreciate that they address issues that ADHD adults have like dealing with finances, or things that can fuck up your romantic relationships, or ways you can cope with work stuff.
CHADD is a good and well-established advocacy and support organization for folks with ADHD, and their Adult section has some good stuff for adults in general and ADHD and women/girls in particular. We're only now starting to recognize how ADHD manifests differently in women/girls than it does in men/boys. (Partly as a biological thing, partly because of how girls are socialized differently from boys.) They also have a great section on ADHD as a life-long disorder/condition where they talk about money, employment, relationships, driving, social skills, etc.
The NIMH has a decent fact sheet and set of resources.
I've also heard good things about the book "Fast Minds: How to Thrive If You Have ADHD (Or Think You Might)", but haven't found time to read the Kindle sample to decide if I should buy it, sigh. It's available on Kindle or in paperback on Amazon here, but was popular enough that you'll likely be able to find it at a library or through inter-library loan.
I'm also not sure if you're aware of this, but nowadays there are some good, effective non-stimulant ADHD meds out there. Strattera is the biggest/most popular one. It wasn't an option for me personally due to some other medical shit I've got going on but I have friends who it has really really helped. If you have a regular physician they may be able to prescribe it for you as it's not restricted in the same kinds of ways stimulants are.
I have anxiety too and I thought the doc was NUTS when he prescribed me a stimulant (Adderall), but holy heck it worked like a charm. Being adequately medicated for ADHD made my anxiety a million times more manageable. YMMV obviously, but for me personally ADHD was the root and my other mental health issues (anxiety, depression) were the branches. Treating the branches helped some, but working on the root disorder helped a shit-ton. Just a thing to keep in mind. Hope that helps a bit, sorry for the ramble (hooray for hyperfocusing and ADHD).