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Most of the time if it hurts we will switch to something that is pleasurable for him, which can be hands, mouth, or rubbing on each other! But I know that he also loves to please me so we sometimes have separate times where it can be focused on him being pleased and some where it’s focused on me being pleased. Since at this time piv is not pleasurable to me.

My advise would be to pray that God reveals that to her. And to pray over all of this daily. And to be open with her about your values and the ways you feel. Think and process all of your feeling and then sit or lay with her and share your heart, be vulnerable. When you communicate try to use “I” statement. Don’t say “well you make me feel like sex isn’t a blessing” try to lovingly tell her “___ is why I believe sex is a blessing, and I’ve been praying (if you do pray) that we would be able to start and see sex as a blessing. I feel like sometimes we don’t see it that way and I’d like to be able to make love with you in a loving and satisfying way for both of us” tell her your desires to please her. Tell her how sexy she is to you; Everyday. Your woman must know daily how much you desire her and how she drives you crazy. Love on her.

You should read https://www.amazon.ca/Men-Only-Revised-Updated-Straightforward-ebook/dp/B001E2NXBG And your wife should read https://www.amazon.ca/Women-Only-Revised-Updated-about-ebook/dp/B001E2NXBQ/ref=pd_aw_vtp_1/141-0209269-4630018?pd_rd_w=DyNXQ&pf_rd_p=047da840-f435-4147-a53a-3628bc654a5c&pf_rd_r=KDNDYNFRNZM0DMA82819&pd_rd_r=ded32dcd-be00-4b69-a783-0899...

And then swap them and read the others perspective too. :)

One can definitely blame her for being unfaithful, that is 100% on her.

However, it sounds like you are not giving her the warmth and security that she needs to feel for a long term commitment. She's not getting the tingles of deep down physical attraction.

It's worth it to build up your relationship skills. I'm fairly young, but had an uncle give me a big list of books to read (or audio books if that is your thing) I was blown away by how much they changed my outlook on relationships. Each one highlighted different things and different areas.

One thing that I think men aren't taught, and isn't expected, this concept of "emotional intelligence." Women in our culture are expected to have it, and frankly, men have been given a pass for too long for not having it.

Here's the list of books:

For His Eyes only

For His Eyes only - Teen version but still really informative

What Women Want When They Test Men

The Married Man Sex Life Primer

Emotional Intelligence

No More Mr. Nice Guy