{"product":{"product_id":"B00TGP74U4","title":"Girl Sex 101: A Queer Pleasure Guide For Women and Their Lovers","price":"14.99","image_url":"https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61qLKd7MPkL._SL500_.jpg","url":"https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00TGP74U4"},"comments":[{"body":"Alright. You know what you're comfortable with. I see no reason to assume you're not straight. Sometimes fantasies that are simply fantasies. Maybe you'd even like to try gender roleplay with a further boyfriend.\r\n\r\nIf you ever change your mind about engaging in sex involving two vulvas or simply want to look into it more, I recommend [Girl Sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4). It has a lot of information regarding being with queer people who have a vulva.","subreddit_name":"sexuality","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"It sounds like you're bisexual or pansexual. You might also have a genital preference for penises. If you are interested in learning more about vulvas though, I recommend [Girl Sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4).","subreddit_name":"sexuality","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"Alright. I'll admit it's a bit murky here, but it sounds like you're at least a biromantic parosexual. You could be allo for women and iamvano for men.\r\n\r\nHowever, it's also possible you may be sapphic, a biromantic lesbian, or just a lesbian.\r\n\r\nRegarding intimacy, [Girl Sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4/ref=sr_1_1?crid=6TYKGN0I7M3O\u0026amp;keywords=girl+sex+101\u0026amp;qid=1662919208\u0026amp;s=books\u0026amp;sprefix=girl+sex+101%2Cstripbooks%2C100\u0026amp;sr=1-1) is a great resource. I also recommend checking out r/latebloomerlesbians, r/actuallesbians, and r/WLW to see if anything resonates with you.","subreddit_name":"questioning","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"Again, suit yourself. It's a real book that's been super helpful to me and all the queer women I know. It's about flirting, finding other queers, communication, consent, and yeah cunnilingus and toys too. A lot of my fear as a baby bi was not knowing how to do *anything*, from flirting all the way to sex. So this book really helped walk me through it in a gentle and fun way. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00TGP74U4/ref=cm\\_sw\\_em\\_r\\_mt\\_dp\\_N5WGZB3ESAJY60HXZYG5","subreddit_name":"actuallesbians","author":"RevelryByNight"},{"body":"You never have to bottom for anyone. Ever. Not even your girlfriend. If you're a top, you're a top.\r\n\r\nIt may be worth considering an open relationship so you can both still have sexual releases through topping.\r\n\r\nIf an open relationship isn't appealing to either of you, you can always have outercourse and reserve penetration for toys. (The cool thing is some toys even allow both partners to penetrate it at once.) Some examples of outercourse include frottage/scissoring, mutual masturbation, docking, tea bagging, intercrural, handjobs, footjobs, bagpiping, and intergluteal.\r\n\r\nOf course, there are also many ways to engage in BDSM that don't involve penile interactions at all.\r\n\r\nI think [this book](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4) is helpful for sex in general.","subreddit_name":"AskLGBT","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"Rubbing her naked genitalia on any part of your body (or toy attached to you) or rubbing your naked genitalia on any part of her body (or toy attached to her) constitutes as lesbian sex.\r\n\r\nIf you'd like more specifics, [this book](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4) is pretty useful.","subreddit_name":"sexuality","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"Maybe this book can help you gain some confidence? It definitely walked through the motions in a really particle way. I have to have concrete examples to understand something well enough to have confidence. I think this book was great in that way! It wasn't just saying \"communicate with your partner\" it said these are the types of conversations you might have and here's language for doing it.  There's even a section about talking about having sex for the first time. I hope this helps!\r\n\r\nI hate to send people to Amazon but hopefully you can pick it up locally or from another seller.\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4","subreddit_name":"bisexualadults","author":"BeeEyeAm"},{"body":"Sounds like you might be bi.\r\nI recommend reading [this book](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4). It's also okay to let a girl you're with know it's your first time having lesbian sex. Every sapphist has been in your shoes at one point.","subreddit_name":"questioning","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"[cis ally guide](https://pflag.org/sites/default/files/2020-Trans%20Ally%20Guide%20Revised.pdf)\r\n\r\n[dating trans folks](https://rainbowresourcecentre.org/files/GetReal-RRC.pdf)\r\n\r\n[girl sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4) (written from lesbian perspective but useful for anyone attracted to queer women)\r\n\r\nr/asktransgender\r\n\r\nr/MtF  (listen to and learn from what these women experience on a daily basis)","subreddit_name":"Sexualityhelp","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"I think society's queerphobia was getting to you, unfortunately.\r\n\r\nHere are the resources I was referencing earlier.\r\n\r\n[cis ally guide](https://pflag.org/sites/default/files/2020-Trans%20Ally%20Guide%20Revised.pdf)\r\n\r\n[dating trans folks](https://rainbowresourcecentre.org/files/GetReal-RRC.pdf)\r\n\r\n[girl sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4) (written from lesbian perspective but useful for anyone who's attracted to girls)\r\n\r\nr/asktransgender\r\n\r\nr/MtF (a place to listen to and learn from what these ladies experience on a daily basis)","subreddit_name":"sexuality","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"You're a straight man who doesn't have a genital preference. As a side note, it's better to say cis women because both cis women and trans women are born female. The latter was just assigned the wrong gender at birth.\r\n\r\nThese links should be helpful for eventually dating trans women.\r\n\r\n[cis ally guide](https://pflag.org/sites/default/files/2020-Trans%20Ally%20Guide%20Revised.pdf)\r\n\r\n[dating trans folks](https://rainbowresourcecentre.org/files/GetReal-RRC.pdf)\r\n\r\nr/asktransgender\r\n\r\nr/MtF (for learning what these women go through on a daily basis)\r\n\r\n[Girl Sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4) (written from a lesbian perspective but useful for anyone attracted to women)","subreddit_name":"TooAfraidToAskLGBT","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"What you're describing isn't a fetish. You just don't have a genital preference. Bisexuality has always included trans people, so you don't have to change your label if it feels right. If you believe you're also polyamorous or ambiamorous, that's definitely something to discuss with your husband to see if he's interested in having an open relationship (ranging from swinging to a long-term romantic relationship).\r\n\r\nI recommend these subreddits if you want to connect with others like yourself.\r\n\r\nr/BiLadies\r\n\r\nr/bisapphics\r\n\r\nr/bisexual\r\n\r\nr/bisexualadults\r\n\r\nr/actuallesbians\r\n\r\nAlso, here are some additional resources.\r\n\r\n[girl sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4)\r\n\r\n[cis ally guide](https://pflag.org/sites/default/files/2020-Trans%20Ally%20Guide%20Revised.pdf)\r\n\r\n[question and answer guide to dating trans folks](https://rainbowresourcecentre.org/files/GetReal-RRC.pdf)\r\n\r\nr/asktransgender\r\n\r\nIf you familiarize yourself with these, you drastically reduce the risk of disrespectful interactions. Let me know if you have any other question.","subreddit_name":"sexuality","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"[Girl Sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4) is a great guide!","subreddit_name":"actuallesbians","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"You're a lesbian who prefers penis.\r\n\r\nYou can't change your genital preference. It's not fetishizing to be attracted to trans girls alone. The problem is when you treat her differently than a cis girl. As long as you treat them the same, no harm is done.\r\n\r\nJust make sure pursue non-op trans girls specifically. Often, a pre-op trans girl doesn't want her penis interacted with and may even have an end goal of receiving a vulva someday.\r\n\r\nI recommend reading [cis ally guide](https://pflag.org/sites/default/files/2020-Trans%20Ally%20Guide%20Revised.pdf), [dating trans folks](https://rainbowresourcecentre.org/files/GetReal-RRC.pdf), and [Girl Sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4).","subreddit_name":"questioning","author":"ActualPegasus"},{"body":"These resources can be helpful for ensuring you're an ally and not a chaser.\r\n\r\n[cis ally guide](https://pflag.org/sites/default/files/2020-Trans%20Ally%20Guide%20Revised.pdf)\r\n\r\n[dating trans folks](https://rainbowresourcecentre.org/files/GetReal-RRC.pdf)\r\n\r\n[girl sex 101](https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Sex-101-Allison-Moon-ebook/dp/B00TGP74U4) (this is written from a lesbian perspective but is applicable for anyone who is attracted to queer women)\r\n\r\nr/MtF (so you can get a better idea of what these women experience on a daily basis)\r\n\r\nand, of course, staying subscribed to this subreddit is excellent too.","subreddit_name":"asktransgender","author":"ActualPegasus"}]}