What is Reddit's opinion of Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children?

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This is a great book Growing Up Again

I read it to reparent myself and just ended up crying that I'd never, not once, heard the supportive or assertive care from either of my parents. It was all 100% abuse from Mom (criticism, yelling, violating my boundaries) and 100% neglect from Dad ("stop whining" or absent).

These seminars on Boundaries has been life-changing for me. It explains how a decent childhood affects everything. How well we do at "boring" routines like self-care, housework, sleep, diet, exercise, study, motivation for our lives needs to be instilled at a young age. Anyone with difficulty in these areas had childhood trauma regarding boundaries.

It explains why people who can't hear me say No the first time had shitty parents who didn't reinforce No means No. They let it mean "convince me" or "wait till I count to 10", or "keep pushing until you get what you want". They're basically raising a rapist.

Tim does a ton of other seminars on Complex Trauma and Codependence.

"Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" was a good read, just to check your own EI and to help raise your child right.

I have a ton of other books in my amazon cart, need to wait till pay day :P

An Adult Child's Guide to What's "Normal"

No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way To Calm The Chaos And Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies To Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

Emotional Intelligence

Nurtureshock

You might like "Emotional Blackmail" and "When I say No I Feel Guilty" to help brace yourself for going NC with your mothers. After reading all the things I have, and the seminars, there's no way I'd let my (hypothetical) kid around a narc ever again. Boundary Violators traumatize the shit out of babies and kids. They love it. They feed on it. They get their jollies getting right up in there on malleable kids who can't protest and don't know better.

Congratulations on being proactive and wanting to raise a good human being. Remember, protect yourself. Protect your baby. You guys come first, not someone else's feelings.