This is one of those topics where the answer is “it depends.” I took private drum lessons and thought the hands-on approach was great, especially since I was pretty awful at practicing. So, going to drum lessons forced me to practice by showing up.
Where I got really good was playing in a band and practicing that often forced me to challenge myself and try new things. Of course at this time YouTube wasn’t a thing. But, we used rock drumming books like this one: https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1495083349/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_X2Q7PKEFB43SSPHQJVQR
Years later when I got into extreme drumming I came across this guy: https://youtube.com/user/Spikeydrummer, which is a little ridiculous in his Tigger suit, but I liked his teaching style and learned blast beats and other advanced techniques.
So the “it depends” part is purely based on how you like to learn and the teaching styles you like.
As for beginner sets, I don’t really believe in that concept. I’m honestly not sure what the difference is other than cheap vs. expensive, and the latter doesn’t always mean good quality. Your best bet is to go into a drum store or used music equipment and find one that feels and sounds good to you. Alternatively, an electric set is always a good idea so you don’t piss off everyone.