A great book that goes into detail on all this is How Proust Can Change Your Life by Alain de Botton. It sounds like a bog-standard self-help book, but it uses as source material In Search of Lost Time by Marcel Proust, which is a masterpiece of 20th Century literature, and de Botton's writing is very clear and thoughtful.
It's not quite as wishy-washy as the School of Life videos on YouTube, but those are worth checking out also as fast food for thought.
heh, i just started do Botton's How Proust Can Change Your Life. i now understand Monty Python's "The All-England Summarize Proust Competition" sketch. excellent stuff!