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How are you going to get where you want to be without people pointing out the fallacy in your beliefs, and the emotions you're choosing to feel from those beliefs?

In the end, this chick is nothing, has zero value for you. Your "chad" showed you that. I bet she knew full well that you two knew each other. She didn't care, you still do.

In the end, it seems like you know the answer to your own question, it'll just take some time to let go of the attachment. This book has some interesting ideas:

How To Fall Out Of Love

That's all about boundaries, internal ones. Best when that door only has a knob on your side, not an open hole in your armor for anyone to just walk through.

What you want to do with your friend there is irrelevant... it showed you a large hole in your armor, one that is best closed. Not an impenetrable wall, but a door that is opened by YOUR choice. We are all responsible for our own emotions.

Valuable lesson for you, no matter what your friend's motivations were.

This book has simple and effective methods to de-program yourself from toxic oneitis.

Real eye-opener on how our thoughts produce our emotions.

How to Fall Out of Love - Dr. Debora Phillips

I liked the book "How to Fall Out of Love" - Deborah Phillips & Paul Judd

Not specifically redpill, but it might give ya some new ideas.

The methods are good for all parts of life. Helps to see how our thoughts and beliefs about a situation create our emotions. Good practice for developing mental control & strength of mind.

I highly, highly, from-personal-experience HIGHLY, recommend the techniques in the book, How to Fall Out of Love by Debora Phillips.

This book works: How to Fall Out Of Love

Hi! I just wanted to say i'm sorry for what you've been going through for a while now. You're already doing a lot better than you think. You posting on here looking for help is already a big step in the right direction, whether it seems like it or not. I can relate to you on how the break-up was not mutual. I too felt like I didn't really get a direct answer of what was wrong and why we were splitting up. There wasn't really a choice for us but to accept to just breakup, you know? Thinking about your ex is normal but it's also torture at the same time. You may feel like you still haven't gotten any "closure". And if your ex is anything like mine, we're definitely not going to get it from them. So what do we do? We have to find our own way to accept what has happened.

Normally I think people would say go hook up and date new people but I personally don't think that's a solution to the issues we're left with after the breakup. You seem very introverted. And that is not a bad thing at all. It just means you'll have a harder time opening up and coming out of your shell than other people. But this does not mean you cannot do it. Getting over the break up does not really have to involve hating your ex and constantly seeing it as a negative thing, blaming him or yourself, etc. I'd actually like to say you shouldn't hate your ex. Instead, take an approach of forgiving and accepting what has happened. Yeah, making yourself hate your ex can help in the short run but that is not a direct solution. You'd be just pushing them away with negative reasons. If you can forgive someone and make a move forward like that, you'll not only be able to move on from the relationship but you'll be much happier and without regrets.

I don't know exactly about what has happened in your relationship but that's okay. I can tell you what can help you in a general sense of what you need to do. This is purely what I have been doing and it has seriously helped me. I went from thinking about her 200 + times a day down to 1-5 within a couple of weeks to almost none recently. I'm still a work in progress but i'm only 3 months in after my breakup and I feel like I have a lot more control and happiness than I did before. From a year from now, I should be even in much better shape and so will you.

Alrighty then! Enough talk and now what you can do to help yourself.

1. You main concern now should be YOU. Forget dating. Forget about finding another boyfriend right now and for a while. You're going to date yourself. The purpose of this is to pour the time, love, and effort you did into your relationship into one with yourself. Want to go watch a movie with your ex? Take yourself! Want to have a fancy dinner date with your ex? Treat yourself to a fancy dinner date! The bottom line on this is that you don't need anyone else to date right now. You have plenty of time in your life to figure that out later on. You've even mentioned that you've dated some people after your breakup and it just didn't feel right, yeah? Basically, Treat Yo Self.

2. Workout and run. This is a law you need to follow by heart. I don't recommend these just because they'll get you in shape, but because they help you tremendously on a emotional scale. Running and working your body out releases endorphins that is going to make you feel absolutely awesome. There is a constant heavy negative feeling you have, right? It sometimes prevents you from wanting to do anything. In short, you have a lot of stored up energy that's wearing your body down. When you run, you let a lot of your energy out and it's very refreshing. Run a lot, okay?

3. With exercising comes eating. You're gonna feel great when you workout and run but you're also going to become very hungry and tired later on. So eat. No more fast-food and junk food. Aim for lean meats, poultry, vegetables and fruits.

4. Books. Mothafuckin' books are you friends. Not only do they help you expand your vocabulary but helps keep your mind active in a healthy way. More books = more happiness. You can read literally about anything. Whether it be fantasy or learn about the crazy Vlad the Imapler. ANYTHING. Read up. I'm going to recommend a self-help book i've been reading lately. It's helped me a lot. How to fall out of love. Yes, I know. The title is very cheesy but it's a very good book that you should start reading, like now.

5. Become more open-minded. One of the things always holding me back was that I didn't have an open mind to explore everything. I was always held back by judging something too quickly and what not. Take the time to explore a new thing or old thing that's come across your life where you didn't take the time to try out. Here's a silly example, but a example nonetheless; I was always quick to the pull the trigger on not wanting to explore music genres. All I had was metal and hard rock and that was it. Nothing else was comparable and was shit. When i started opening my mind more, I started to listen to other types. I've always had an issue with pop music and it always made me mad to listen to. Now, I turn the radio on and hear the same stupid lyrics but I can enjoy the beats they have and laugh at their cheesy retarded lyrics. I'm still not open-minded to listen to country though, fuck that. Lol.

6. Become friendlier. You must already be a really nice person or not. I don't know you so I can't tell. However, nice or not, we both know that there's definitely room for all of us to become better human beings. Help people. Make someone happy whether they're family, a friend or a complete stranger. Seeing someone else become happy by your actions will make you happier. It's not only therapeutic for you, but you'll also be making someone else's day. It'll help with your anxiety and social skills. There is a lot of negativity floating around in our world, i'm sure you've noticed. There is no need for us to add onto that. Learn to become calm and rational. Learn to be less judgmental and become more helpful to others. Expecting the world to suddenly become a nice place is a bit silly but wouldn't your environment wherever you went be more enjoyable if you became nicer and taught others to do the same?

7. This is a tough one for some, but a necessary one. Make new friends. There's always room for new people to meet and it's one of the most interesting and wonderful things you can do. You and your ex may have shared many wonderful moments together. Now imagine how many more people you can have even more moments with! They don't have to be a boyfriend or whatever. You can meet a stranger on the street and take them out for coffee. Surround yourself with a variety of people. No matter where you go, every person you meet knows something you don't know.

8. Learn to forgive. Forgiveness is a stronger emotion than anger, fear, and resentment. There are many wrongs done to us by people we meet or through certain situations. It's okay. Rather than hating the world for it or the person, forgive them. But do not be walked over. With forgiveness you have the power to move on and heal properly and with respect for yourself you won't be walked over. It's much better than harboring destructive feelings.

These are great places for you start. I don't like the phrase "time will do its job." Yeah, it does help but you can't rely on time. You can only rely on yourself in the end. Do YOUR job right and you'll never have to wait for time. You got this.

I'll tell you right now that I'll be your friend. Look at that. You didn't even have to do much to make a new friend. Message me anytime you want to chat and/or if you want more advice. :)