I appreciate the advice but I urge you to read the first chapter of this: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001PSEQ6U?tag=randohouseinc7986-20
Some people don't respond well to serious meaningful chats and that's just how it is and it's ok to be like that.
Picking over the bones of an issue can make things a lot worse. Not everyone has the same mindset, and while I know you mean well, this is the reason I put that request against this kind of suggestion in there. Please don't take this the wrong way, just understand that there are more ways of fixing a problem and that's the kind of thing in looking for, from people in a similar situation.
Here's a book that might help.
https://www.amazon.com/Improve-Marriage-Without-Talking-About-ebook/dp/B001PSEQ6U