Pay attention to your gut feelings when you’re in the therapy session. If something hurts your feelings or makes you angry, is it a “good “pain, that feels like it needs to be addressed? Or does something feel off with the therapist? Pay attention to if you don’t feel like you’re really challenged or growing. Or if the therapist gets defensive at anything. Also, do you feel an increasing sense of safety/trust with this person, that makes you feel like it would be okay to open up?
Separately, I would Google attachment styles and see if there’s a particular one you identify with. For an interpretation of how to figure that out, there’s a really good book called “How We Love.”
Of course! Here you go!