Are you looking for something like this or a different style? I just got the linked ones a couple weeks ago so I can't speak to the long term usage. By flaking do you mean from the earpieces/cushions or the actual body of the headphones? In my experience that flaking from the earpieces typically happens with the faux leather ones. I haven't had that issue with the ones that use regular fabric unless the headphones were several years old and the foam was crumbling from age. I will say that if I have them positioned a certain way they get uncomfortable but I am VERY sensitive to pressure near my ears so you may not have that issue. I have had issues with over the head style headphones being too big. These do go down small enough for me although they are at the smallest setting. If you need smaller it may be worth checking the ones designated as being for kids.
ETA The actual ear cushions aren't overly large on my ears. They are just enough bigger that the ear is fully covered but not so big that I feel like cushions are swallowing my head. It's about the same size as the palm of my hand.
It works both ways in case you need to charge during use. It has about a 35 ft range so I'm able to talk and hear while taking a break from gaming. It's the HyperX Sting Core
HyperX Cloud Stinger Core –... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08BTHXJFN?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Cloud stinger core wireless. HyperX Cloud Stinger Core – Wireless Gaming Headset, for PS4, PS5, PC, Lightweight, Durable Steel Sliders, Noise-Cancelling Microphone - White https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08BTHXJFN/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_a_XHG0X8XPXW9VZAKTDZQ7
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Deal link: Amazon