You sound like the exact thing I went through (Except I'm a guy).
I wanted to suggest a book though. Based on what you're mentioning about religion it sounds like you may be part of the same cult/religion that my ex and her family were, and the same games they liked to play. If he is part of the IFB like I suspect (You may know own it by a different name) feel free to pm me and I can give you a heads up of what to expect them to try and how to fight them.
If you can get a copy, check out "I fired God", by Jocelyn Zichterman.
Also, my ex threatened many times to take my kids from me, she never succeeded and I now have full physical custody of them. So try not to despair, there is hope.
I'm going speak up for strong language too with this one as I had been published because I did employ the f-strike. Let's not borrow our strong language from the Latter Day Saints. Warning: I am going to say FUCK in this comment and will defend this word because the author behind I Fired God it's a guess she found my roster at some point. She swears as hard as in The Pattern Of Diagnosis. Telling an Italian not to swear is rude to the culture as in telling them to watch their language they're going to be called a 'cazzo.'
I have been in this fight since I was 20 years old; as I had those pulling Fundie Copypasta because I had employed use of the f-bomb. I will message you in private because I had invoked a lot of controversy because the guys on Issue Five of my mag became the embodiment of the House Divided Speech.
My alumni are going to cause a real stir because he had this on his page; Habakkuk 2:2 as the King James Version. Tim blocked me from commenting because I said "fuck" in the comments.
And in this comment I am going to defend this word from other Christians because "fuck" has a history. I will provide my literary journals fifth issue to help you speak out against censorship and let's not hide behind Ephesians to be censorship advocates. Christians trying to speak out against the finger, as I am going to say that's telling the Greeks they don't give a shit about Ancient Greece or Philosophy. As I am about to invite everyone to read up because it's a guess that the Apostle Paul was given this gesture when he did Ephesians as I see young earth creationists with this statement on their facebook page.
>CUSSING, BLASPHEMY, and ABUSE WILL BE BANNED!
I guess he hasn't invoked cram it clownie or make the joke of being my first boy scout troop being the one who instigated the urban legend. Rebuking Hovind and the controversy I invoked when I did it was all for laughs. I have this petition which I started for The Boondocks creator; read the entire thing and look into the information I provided as I am defending the use of strong language. When one seen The Babylon Bee pull off some equally nasty barbs; as Fox News caught wind of them over the TBN barb. When one sees Paul Crouch showing the finger, then you see the barb as even funnier.