Seat belts were designed for the average man. They did not take women's heights into account. So seat belts are too high for the average woman.
NTA
Actually, Matt was sexist. His default assumption was that the shirt was Terry’s. He didn’t give you the benefit of the doubt like he would have with a man.
There’s another thing. Many times these tech events get one size fits all T-shirts. That means that most women get these huge ill fitting shirts that they can only wear as nightgowns. It is the part of sexism that defaults to the man as the standard.
And another thing - you minimized the rebuke by making a joke. You gave him an “out” and he is the one escalating it.
There’s a great book discussing this called <em>Invisible Women - Data bias in a World Designed for Men</em>. It shows how women are actually maimed and killed by the default male model.
Don’t you dare back down! What you did was perfect. I say this as a woman engineer that had hoped to see more change in the over 30 years I’ve been practicing my trade.
Christina Criado-Perez. Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07N1N6VKT/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_BXZ9QBRH077DR0F52MTZ
It's universal. I found this book to be equal parts enlightening and horrifying.
It's actually still a serious issue if this book I recently read is any indication